sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:34 PM on Monday, December 23rd, 2019
I love seeing the Christmas theme, but it reminds me of our - the SI community's - loss. It also reminds me of your loss, MH, and my heart goes out to you. I also remember DS, and I can't help smiling.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
travels ( member #20334) posted at 6:35 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2019
I'm thinking of you today, MH. Lots of virtual hugs coming your way!
When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.
"After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed. The other one is already in another relationship."
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 6:40 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2019
Yes, thinking of you MH and also of DS.
Hugs and stuff.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
MangledHeart ( Webmaster) posted at 5:00 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2019
Thank you so much. 
It is hard to believe it has been 3 years since the loss of our dearest DS. She will always be with us in spirit to celebrate her favorite season.
Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 10:47 AM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
Bumping this in honor of her birthday
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 1:14 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
Happy memories!
I might have a pragmatic view to life. We have a limited time here and although the length of time matters then what is even more important is what we do with that time. Deeply Scared definitely used her time well and leaves this beacon of hope for so many.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 2:30 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
Happy Birthday my dear. Miss you.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 2:59 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
Thanks for putting her picture up and letting us know it is her birthday . I never had the honor of meeting her in person...but I am very happy that she lives on through this site!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 3:24 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
Happy Birthday DS, I MISS YOU!!!!!!!
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
MangledHeart ( Webmaster) posted at 4:56 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
Happy birthday
Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom
SerJR ( member #14993) posted at 5:05 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
Happy Birthday DS - and thank you for the smile
Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 5:24 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
Miss you sweet lady. Happy Birthday.
Love,
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 4:03 AM on Wednesday, March 25th, 2020
Happy Birthday! Hope you know how much you are appreciated and missed.... 
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 3:40 PM on Wednesday, March 25th, 2020
This thread and Lionne's beautiful post about Hawaii, together, reminded me of something I meant to post here a couple of weeks ago.
I walked past a car in a parking lot and noticed the flower lei hanging from the rear view mirror. Since all things Hawaii grab my attention, I stopped a moment and took it in. Hawaii has always been my dream vacation. Standing there, I looked past the lei in the windshield and noticed the front bucket seats each had a Hello Kitty seat cover pulled over them. Of course, you know where my thoughts went next....... A bit of sadness, but happy to have a reminder of our beautiful soul to put a wistful smile on my face as I went on.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Alma ( member #2743) posted at 6:18 AM on Saturday, April 4th, 2020
I haven't posted for a very long time and Durak and I are just gutted to only now hear of Deeply Scared's sudden illness and tragic loss. She helped us and hundreds.
MH, thanks for sharing DS with us. Wishing you comfort and peace - and to smile when you think of her.
We are still together after nearly 20 years; it truly fades and if you stick it out, the hard work of reconciliation changes you both for the better. Big thanks to SI for being there for us, and everyone, for so many years. Talk about leaving an impact for good!
[This message edited by Alma at 2:18 PM, April 4th (Saturday)]
"The supreme happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved -- loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves."
-Victor Hugo
Reconciled
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 11:38 PM on Wednesday, July 22nd, 2020
Beautiful beautiful lady!
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 8:53 PM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2020
I cannot believe it's been almost 4 years since you left us. I still think of you and miss you every day. You are forever in my heart my friend.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 3:15 AM on Saturday, December 26th, 2020
I've been thinking of her all week. I suppose I will always remember Christmas was her favorite holiday.
I miss DS.
Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:47 AM on Saturday, January 9th, 2021
I miss you, my friend. 💙
BrokenRoad ( member #15334) posted at 4:13 AM on Wednesday, August 18th, 2021
I still carry a small hello kitty figurine in my purse to remind me of you, DS.
{Him}FBH - 51 (WifeHad5){Me} FWW - 52 2 kids: 16 & 21 Reconciled :)*Learning is a gift. Even when pain is your teacher.*
