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Wound re-opened. Selling the family farm

I haven't posted much on SI for years. Mostly, I look at Stupid Picture Friday in F&G.

It's finally time for me to sell the family farm, and I'm in negotiations with my niece to purchase it.

This is my XWW's sister's kid. Not my blood, but I've known her her whole life.

I lost half the farm in the divorce, and XWW and her new husband live on that half.
I moved away 8 years ago, and my son lived on my half, until last year when he moved in with his girlfriend. They just got married.

I've spent years telling myself I'd eventually sell the farm, and not move back to it. Who wants to drive past their ex's house ever single time you return home?

It's the right thing to do, and I know that, and I've convinced myself of it. I need the money so I can retire in peace.

But...

I grew up on this farm, from the age of 12. My parents built the house. They died here. I had good memories to go with the bad, and a lot of history, including seeing my youngest graduate from high school at the same school I went to. But whatever good memories I have, they keep coming back to the death of my marriage, the death of my dreams for the farm, the delay of my retirement (caused by the court system).

This sale is causing me to remember and reflect on the bad years and relive the breakup of my marriage. I'm stressed, and anxious, and second-guessing myself in many ways. I'm stress eating and having sleep issues.

I know I'll be better once this is wrapped up, but the process will take time. And then the settling down will take time.

In the past, it was cathartic for me to post on SI, and get my whining done in text. I'm hoping that still helps me.

Thanks for listening.

6 comments posted: Monday, November 21st, 2022

Christmas Movies

I haven't seen a thread this year, so I thought I'd start one.

I lean more toward quirky movies and older movies, so here's my list, rated from quirkiest to more mainstream:

We're No Angels (Bogart, Ustinov, Leo G. Carroll, Basil Rathbone, Aldo Ray)

The Ref (Not a favorite due to infidelity, but a hoot the first time you see it). Language warning.

Christmas In Connecticut (Barbara Stanwyck)

A Christmas Carol (The over-acted, over-produced George C. Scott version)

And of course, the standards:

The Bishop's Wife

It's a Wonderful Life

A Christmas Carol (all the other versions)

White Christmas

A Christmas Story (You'll put your eye out, kid!)

Not my cup of tea for watching every year, but worth considering:

Christmas Vacation

Die Hard (Definitely a Christmas movie!)

Meet Me In St. Louis

Got any suggestions for quirky movies I've missed?

I feel like I'm forgetting one or two.

12 comments posted: Monday, December 7th, 2020

The Law of Self Defense

by Andrew F. Branca

In light of a recent controversial (and since deleted) thread in JFO, where an alleged BS claims to have threatened with a supposedly empty gun while interrogating a literally naked and defenseless victim, it occurs to me that there is a great deal of ignorance on the topic of what is, and what is not, legal in the area of self defense.

My two go-to authors on this subject are Massad Ayoob and Andrew Branca. As it happens, Ayoob wrote the foreward to Branca's excellent book, "The Law of Self Defense".

If you ever intend to keep a weapon for purposes of self defense, in your home or your car or to carry with you, I strongly recommend you read this book, and continue on to read other books by Massad Ayoob, like "The Truth About Self Protection" or "In the Gravest Extreme".

0 comment posted: Wednesday, July 5th, 2017

Spider & Snake picture (You've been warned)

I told you so.

Spider eats snake.

14 comments posted: Tuesday, January 10th, 2017

Stacked threads

I'm concerned about our members and their health...

From Off Topic:

6 comments posted: Monday, March 2nd, 2015

Last Chance February Bar Thread

Someone post me a pic.

Martini, red wine, whatever.

It's been a week.

10 comments posted: Friday, February 27th, 2015

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