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DD13 attempted suicide

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J707 posted 10/17/2020 23:53 PM

My DD13 attempted suicide yesterday afternoon around 230pm. She took 100 pills of tylenol and unknown amount of cough syrup. As I write this, her levels of acetaminophen are almost gone/flushed out of her body. Her liver is doing ok but still being monitored. Her depression started after Dday. It's progressively gotten worse. I've tried the best I could do for her. I'm not sure what else I could have done. She is not good mentally and will be going to an in patient treatment center once released and cleared. I'm just so glad she is "ok" as of right now. Not out of the woods yet but definitely better than this time last night. She still wants to harm herself and is on 24 hour in room nurse watch.

Send a little prayer and good vibes her way please. My little girl needs them. Mental health is no joke and I did not see this coming. Fuck

wildbananas posted 10/18/2020 00:17 AM

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry. I've been there with one of mine and it's so, so hard.

Thinking of you both! (((J707 and DD)))

number4 posted 10/18/2020 00:28 AM

OMG... I'm so sorry to hear this, but am glad to hear she survived, likely without permanent physical damage.

Hope she will get the help she needs in inpatient treatment. I know of others who have this kind of history, but as they grew up, conquered it. There's just something about adolescence and hormones that can wreck havoc on teenagers. Once she is done in inpatient treatment, she will likely be recommended to attend an IOP (Intensive Outpatient Program). That will help with the transition. But for now, just take it one day at a time.

If you have time, check into NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness). They have WONDERFUL family programs that I think you will find helpful.

crazyblindsided posted 10/18/2020 00:33 AM

I am so sorry but glad she is ok. In-patient gave me the coping skills I needed to combat suicide ideation. I hope it helps her too. (((J707 & Daughter)))

The1stWife posted 10/18/2020 04:46 AM

I am so sorry this happened. Prayers to you and your child and your family. 🙏

homewrecked2011 posted 10/18/2020 05:45 AM

After Dday I did the 2 week outpatient program at a treatment center. It helped me tremendously, as it is a years worth of counseling in 2 weeks, and I pray the same for your DD. They usually have family day, which really helps also, in my opinion.

Throwaway999 posted 10/18/2020 06:23 AM

I am so very sorry...my thoughts and prayers are with you, your daughter and your family.

DragnHeart posted 10/18/2020 07:43 AM

That's some scary shit right there but I'm glad shes going to be ok. Sending mojo and saying a prayer for both you and her.

WhatsRight posted 10/18/2020 07:49 AM

Oh God! Im so very sorry.

My son has threatened, but never followed through.

I cannot even imagine your pain...fear.

You are a good mom and I know you will help her through as much as you can, and get her professionals for the other stuff.

🙏🙏🙏 for her physical and emotional healing.

ZenMumWalking posted 10/18/2020 09:32 AM

omg ((((J707))))

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope that she will be able to get the help that she needs.

8 years ago, my oldest DS went to school for an exam, but instead of taking the exam he left a suicide note on the door and went missing for 4 days. So I have some idea what you are going through.

After we found him, we managed to get him to a psych hospital - he didn't have to go because he was 18. But between our family and his best friend and the doctors whom we had to convince he was a danger to himself, he did agree to go. He stayed there for 10 days, then came home and was in daily therapy for a time. He was also put on ADs.

Today he is doing well, but I can still remember those horrible days. One of the worst things was when I had to translate his suicide note into the local language for the police. The police did a fantastic job of looking for him, 3 dog searches, and followed up every single lead. They got his story on the national news.

Don't beat yourself up over this episode, teens have great ways of hiding things from us. Do take this opportunity to get her help. Get her into a psych hospital so that she will be safe for a time. That will also allow you to try to get a little sleep. I know that I would not have been able to sleep with DS at home, he needed to be in a safe place.

I hope that you are able to get good care for her and that they work together with you too. When in the hospital, DS had daily individual therapy and group therapy and 3 times per week family therapy.

Now is the time to step up and do whatever it takes for your precious DD. Work together with the experts to get her back on track - this is SO above your pay grade to work it on your own.

And again - when she's ok physically, which will be soon, don't bring her home, make sure that she can get transferred directly to a psych hospital because she needs specialized care right away.

Don't hesitate to pm me.

((((J07 & DS))))

BearlyBreathing posted 10/18/2020 11:29 AM

J707 I am so sorry to read this. So much for teens to deal with anyway and then add the mess of D and a pandemic and more fires in our area... its a lot. I am glad shes getting the care she needs and I will be holding you both in the light. Let me know if I can help in anyway.

You are a great dad - shes lucky to have you.

Chili posted 10/18/2020 11:39 AM

Oh J - I'm sorry to hear about this. Fuck is right. Sending words and vibes and comforting spirit to you and DD and your whole family.

Don't forget to take care of yourself best as you can - the heaviness of all this has got to be weighing you down too. (((J)))

little turtle posted 10/18/2020 12:15 PM

((((J)))) Find someone for DD to talk to about her thoughts/feelings. I wanted to kill myself when I was about 16. I wish my parents had sought better treatment for me. I still struggle with thoughts and I don't think they will ever go away.

J707 posted 10/18/2020 13:20 PM

Thanks all. DD is doing ok. Her liver is functioning well and all vital signs are normal. She won't eat, is barely talking. Once released she will go to in patient psychiatric place with 24 hour nurses, counselors and talk about medications antidepressants etc. She still wants to harm herself. I'm just glad she is alive and here with me. This is far from over but I will get her whatever help she needs. Shes been in IC since shortly after Dday. This year though, it's been zoom style and she wasn't really into it. Regardless, she needs major help. She is in a really dark place. One day at a time. Thank you all for the support and prayers. What an unreal, helpless feeling as a Father.

BearlyBreathing posted 10/18/2020 13:31 PM

My therapist went back in person (shes in the next county, fewer restrictions) so hopefully you can get someone to work with her.

Idiotmcstupid posted 10/18/2020 14:02 PM

I am so, so sorry man.
I can't imagine the pain, but I just wanted you to know we are listening and here for you.

WhatsRight posted 10/18/2020 14:27 PM

Just saw my error...

Youre a good DAD!

Booyah posted 10/18/2020 15:47 PM

This breaks my heart.

Praying she gets the help she needs and will get through this.

I can't imagine the weight of this. Please hang in there and keep the faith.

Will say a prayer for your DD and you.

Keep us posted.

unsearch posted 10/18/2020 18:29 PM

Whatever clout I have in the Universe is yours, brother. Your strength will see both you and DD through this.

Lionne posted 10/18/2020 19:23 PM

One more SIer here, holding you and the precious child in the ****LIGHT***

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