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 Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 2:12 PM on Sunday, November 20th, 2022

Well, I thought it might be time for an update. The two-step lessons my daughter and I are taking are going very well, and she is getting better quickly. She really looks forward to our Saturday nights together. EXWW and her on again off again boyfriend are there, so things are still a bit weird.

Ive been holding off celebrating as I am a catastrophist... wonder why? Things don't tend to work out for me. But the really big news is that we are moving in three weeks. I just signed the papers on a townhouse in a great location, within walking distace to everything and on two bus routes. It has enough room for all of us and still have a spare room for guests. I finally have my own room. I've been sleeping in the dining room of our 800 square foot apartment for 3.5 years now and it is wearing on me.

There is an in-law suite in the basement, so my older D is moving down there. My younger D will be upstairs down the hall from me. It's an older complex,so I'll need to reno the kitchen, replace some flooring and spruce it up, something I love doing, so I'll have purpose again. The big thing is that I'll finally be able to invite people over again, something I've avoided here as I'm pretty embarrassed when it comes to my living situation. Oh, and it has a wood fireplace that is grandfathered so I'll be able to enjoy winter evenings at home. But the biggest bonus is that I will be able to have my kids with me longterm. Even my peppery one.馃槈

[This message edited by Justsomeguy at 2:58 PM, Tuesday, November 22nd]

Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.

Divorced 2022!!!!

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OwningItNow ( member #52288) posted at 2:51 PM on Sunday, November 20th, 2022

Congratulations!!!! It sounds absolutely perfect. Will you be moved in by Christmas?

I love home improvement projects and remodeled my kitchen mostly by myself two years ago. You'll be able to take your time and do everything just as you want. So much fun!

Congrats again. You deserve all the happiness coming your way. Enjoy it.

me: BS/WSh: WS/BS

Reject the rejector. Do not reject yourself.

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 Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 3:50 PM on Sunday, November 20th, 2022

Should be in just before Christmas and I have a two week overlap with when I need to be out of my old place.

Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.

Divorced 2022!!!!

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:58 PM on Sunday, November 20th, 2022

Great update! Congratulations!!

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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leafields ( member #63517) posted at 11:44 PM on Sunday, November 20th, 2022

Congratulations! So happy for you! Quite an accomplishment.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 2:28 PM on Monday, November 21st, 2022

What a WONDERFUL update...thanks so much for sharing grin !!!

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 9:22 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

Great update!! Congratulations.

May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.

*********When you know better, you can do better*************

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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 10:16 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

Fantastic update! That is very exciting and I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!

fBS/fWS(me):49 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:51 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(19) DS(16)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorcing

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