leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 4:19 AM on Sunday, May 14th, 2023
Glad you're doing well, JSG. I'm so happy for you and enjoy reading your updates.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 12:54 AM on Tuesday, May 23rd, 2023
Kitchen is in and I'm cooking again. It feels great to be able to make proper meals again.
And speaking of cooking again, the dating is going well. I'm really enjoying this phase of my life. It seems that my GF has reaped the benefit of my having done the work on myself. One of the major factors is my being emotionally literate and mature, something that I have really grown with.
One thing that I appreciate about her(actually two) is her ability to be present in the moment and to bring peace into my life. Speaking of being present, this has allowed a part of me to emerge that has been hidden. I am a deeply passionate man and spent 27 years with a dispassionate woman, so I was never fully allowed to be me. Well now I am so is she. Well, not to get into detail, it is very satifying, in a rip-the-fabric-of-space/time sorta way. Yeah, gotta spring in my step and a song in my heart.
Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced 2022!!!!
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:23 AM on Tuesday, May 23rd, 2023
So happy for you, JSG. Great update showing you can come through the other side and be happy.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 6:21 PM on Tuesday, May 23rd, 2023
"I haven't experienced any of the panic attacks and feel very relaxed, though there is a part of me that is cautious. Been burned too many times I guess. One day at a time.
Feeling happiness again is quite foreign to me. I'm a bit suspicious of it. Thank you EXWW! The gift that keeps on giving..."
I feel every word of this. I understand 100%. Amazing how feeling HAPPINESS is such a foreign thing. It really puts in perspective just how low the infidelity shit sandwich drags us. I have recently begun to feel happiness and hope, and I am mentally checking myself, so I am not blindsided when the rug is pulled out. WTH. Like you, we all must work on living in the moment.
I am thrilled to hear that things are progressing in a healthy way with your GF (GF!!!!Eeeekkk so happy for you!!!). Day by day, and just enjoy every moment. Taking the time to yourself that you did has most certainly benefitted this new relationship. Keep doing what you’re doing, JSG. There are folks here whose stories have spoken to me differently, and have made me root for them just a little harder. Yours is one of them. Please keep updating us! We are invested.😉
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I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
