What a narcissistic ass. You do know his true goal, every single minute of every single day?
To take his narcissistic misery out on you. To do this he will:
Deny you everything
And when you are upset, he smiles inside. THAT is what he enjoys--transferring his misery to you.
Have you read the book Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Boderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
Your only sanity is to Gray Rock him every step of the way. If you want to win in this game (his game, you have no choice) where the prize is your SANITY, then your goal is to never, ever, EVER engage with a word he says:
Short, one word
Like you are barely listening
Then walk away
To the guest room, your own space
Detached completely from his thoughts and feelings on anything
I've used this. It truly works. But it was HARD for me because my FOO wanted to win him over, be logical, convince him. If someone else's goal is to simply upset you and your desires through any means possible, then logic and reason stand NO chance. Give them up. Let go.
Just let go.
Then watch him go crazy in frustration over his inability to push your buttons.
Just let go of convincing him.
Gray Rock only.
Best, best, best wishes to you.
[This message edited by OwningItNow at 3:23 PM, Sunday, November 28th]