If you recall, I expected my STBWX to be fully moved out of the garage when I came back from my trip this past weekend. I even told him to let me know if he needed more time so that I could accommodate that ((1) because I’m nice, but (2) and because my fence blew over and the contractors are here for about a week replacing it and need the side yard / garage to store all the supplies etc.). Well, he lived up to our expectations in true textbook narcissistic behavior SI!
My STBWX left a bunch of his stuff in the garage / side yard (took maybe 80% of what I was expecting). We all know he needed an excuse to come back to the house AGAIN. Desperately looking for an opportunity to have contact because NC and grey rock is driving him crazy! He also sent me a text saying that he was going to grab the rest of his items Sunday evening, he wanted to do a car detail on Saturday 12June and will be using the water/garage on that day, and that he will store his utility trailer for 2 weeks until he moves to *said location*.
Well, I figured ‘F’ that! He had the nerve to leave stuff here the past 5 months, after cheating / leaving me for a cam whore, and then had the arrogance to “tell me” that he’s using my water, my garage, and store his trailer here for free! The arrogance. No WAY are you gonna do that! So, I got a crew over to the house and we cleaned out the side yard, put all of his stuff that he left in my dad’s utility trailer and put it out on the driveway, and cleaned out the garage.
And sent him a little text: “All of your items in the garage are in dad’s trailer on the driveway. You can grab them tonight after you get home from *said location*. Please let me know what time you will be by. Also, I have a contractor at the house for the next 7-10 days, so you are unable to park the trailer at the house. And no, you aren't able to do a detail on the 12th.”
Well, as you’d expect, he flipped that I had the nerve to clean up his mess and get it out of the house! I got a series of texts and phone calls and voicemails full of anger / rage.
My favorite voicemail was the one that said, “That’s it you f*ing b!tch, I’m done with you. You don’t deserve my last name and you are finished as far as I’m concerned.” My favorite text said, “You thought I was mean before. You have just made this easy, so thank you.” I had to clean up his grammar for you SI, but these were the key messages. LOL. And if I ever miss him or get sad again, I’m going to listen to that VM and read those messages and remember how horrible of a person he’s chosen to become.
My STBWX came over an got his stuff. My dad was out there to monitor and had a word with him (well a few words calling my STBX out on his stuff), while my brother / mom were inside (behind a locked door) with me. But, he is now 100% OUT OF THE HOUSE! I have to say it’s a relief and feels great to reach that milestone.
I’m not exactly surprised about what happened, but at the same time I can’t believe he is saying and doing what he’s doing. My STBWX had just lost it, and it really is scary to see such a personality change compared to 6 months ago. And the anxiety it causes me is awful! My dad / brother are helping me change my WiFi network, change the garage codes, and installing ring camera videos, etc. this next week!
As for the idea of forgiveness --- I’m still working on this and whether or not I will ever forgive my STBWX. Right now he doesn’t deserve it!
[This message edited by Venus1 at 4:26 PM, June 8th (Tuesday)]