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guitargod ( member #14534) posted at 9:41 PM on Thursday, October 7th, 2021

Thankful that MHW is taking the time to be with me and work on R. We're doing R the right way, instead of trying to lie and rug sweep for 15 years! It's painful facing it all, and not easy to work through it. Now it's harder than ever in our M to find time with more other responsibilities outside the M. But never before have we put such a priority on R.

I feel more hopeful for our future than any time in the last 15 years.

ME=MHH 40MHW 37DDay=2/27/2007DDay#2=6/26/12DDay#3=9/9/21Married 17 yearsTogether 23 years

Daughters: 4, 2, 0

posts: 68   ·   registered: May. 8th, 2007
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ff4152 ( member #55404) posted at 11:07 PM on Thursday, October 7th, 2021

It’s been a while but I’m thankful for having a relatively good day despite getting a bomb dropped on me at work.

My wife and I hit a major rough patch recently but we worked it out and are getting along better than ever.

I finished a home project and it came out better than I could have hoped for.

I’m thankful for being alive, still working on R and that everyone I know is healthy.

Me -FWS

posts: 1865   ·   registered: Sep. 30th, 2016
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Underserving ( member #72259) posted at 3:53 AM on Friday, October 8th, 2021

I had to come just to post this.

I am thankful for my resilient daughter who got outstanding student for the 1st 6 weeks out of hundreds of kids at her school! She has been far too aware of the turmoil going on between me and my husband the last two years (it has been a lot better lately.) Still, she has overcome so much, and is exceeding every expectation I could ever have of her. She is such a light in my life, and to all those who know her. Yes, I am very thankful today. :)

BW (32)Found out 3 years post end of AD-day 12-9-19In R

Infidelity brings out the cuss in me. I’m not as foul mouthed in real life. ;)

posts: 692   ·   registered: Dec. 9th, 2019
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 Want2BHappyAgain (original poster member #45088) posted at 3:03 PM on Thursday, October 14th, 2021

I LOVE reading over the "Thankful Thursday" posts from the week before...they are so AWESOME grin .

My thankful post today is because I am smelling my red beans and sausage cooking in the slow cooker...C'est Bon!! I know...you Cajun/Creoles out there are shaking your heads right now because red beans and rice are for MONDAYS laugh . But I wanted them TODAY...so there tongue !!

Anyway...this weekend it will be GUMBO weather here in NOLA...woohoo!!! TODAY I am thankful for GOOD food that nourish our bodies and are quite TASTY too grin !! AND...I get to have sausage in two different dishes this week...BONUS!!! NO...no andouille for me. YES...I am a Cajun...but it is OK to not always go with the "norm" grin !!!

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

posts: 5616   ·   registered: Oct. 2nd, 2014   ·   location: Southeastern United States
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Tanner ( member #72235) posted at 11:18 PM on Thursday, October 14th, 2021

I’m so thankful to own my own business for the past 20 years. Some days it can go on cruise control and we can run off and waste a day.

When I look back at working in corporate America, getting bought and sold, mergers, etc. I was miserable. I haven’t shared much of my lifestyle publicly here but I will say this. Owning your own business and living below your means is one word FREEDOM!!!

Dday Sept 7 2019 working toward R
BH 54
WW 47
M 30 years, 4 kids 2 grown, twin boys 12 yo 2 grandkids

One day you will tell your story how you overcame what you are going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.

posts: 773   ·   registered: Dec. 5th, 2019   ·   location: Texas DFW
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 Want2BHappyAgain (original poster member #45088) posted at 6:34 PM on Thursday, October 21st, 2021

Good afternoon SIers!! My Thankful Thursday post today is because my H had been doing his best to make me feel CHERISHED...and it is working!! I have a little more pep in my step!!!

I didn't even notice how much he was doing for me until I felt happiness this morning...just because. There are several things that can make this happen...but when I thought about what my H has been doing for me lately..that was when I started SMILING!!

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

posts: 5616   ·   registered: Oct. 2nd, 2014   ·   location: Southeastern United States
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Notaboringwife ( member #74302) posted at 7:49 PM on Thursday, October 21st, 2021

I am grateful that my husband this morning made me coffee, shared a joke with me while I was still half asleep, and we laughed together. A great way to start a morning!

It's your road & yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you. Though nobody can go back and make a new beginning... you can start over and make a new ending.

posts: 225   ·   registered: Apr. 24th, 2020
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Tanner ( member #72235) posted at 10:00 PM on Thursday, October 21st, 2021

I’m thankful for a great week with my W. Last week I was in a funk over a trigger, she didn’t handle it very well. I went back to my original rules of R and found communication. We talked through it and we are good.

A funny story, most men can’t find something right in front of their face. My W is always called upon if I can’t find something. Even dropping a screw in the grass, she will find it. A couple days ago she asked me to help her find her glasses 😮. I told her “you have a better chance finding them without your glasses, than for me to find them with 20/20. Look up “fool’s errand “ I was right, she found them 😄

Dday Sept 7 2019 working toward R
BH 54
WW 47
M 30 years, 4 kids 2 grown, twin boys 12 yo 2 grandkids

One day you will tell your story how you overcame what you are going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.

posts: 773   ·   registered: Dec. 5th, 2019   ·   location: Texas DFW
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WTAF ( member #79274) posted at 1:28 AM on Friday, October 22nd, 2021

Thankful today for open communication and time together with the H. I'm feeling as content and optimistic as I am capable of these days.

posts: 57   ·   registered: Aug. 13th, 2021   ·   location: All up in my feelings
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outofsorts ( member #70701) posted at 2:11 AM on Friday, October 22nd, 2021

FWH and I are taking a long weekend in another state. I'm looking forward to new adventures and am still grateful to be able to leave the state (for about 10 months we legally couldn't due to COVID restrictions). grin

Me(BW): 40WH: 40 Married 7 years, together 20.Dday 2/22/19Reconciling

posts: 343   ·   registered: Jun. 4th, 2019
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ff4152 ( member #55404) posted at 2:35 AM on Friday, October 22nd, 2021

I'm thankful that my wife and I seem to be on the same page these days. We've talked about renewing our vows and I'm excited at the prospect.

Me -FWS

posts: 1865   ·   registered: Sep. 30th, 2016
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OneInTheSame ( member #49854) posted at 6:54 AM on Friday, October 22nd, 2021

I am thankful that it feels like we have crested the pass over the insurmountable mountain of pain and dysfunction that was the affair. The journey is not over yet ...

(I edit to correct typos)
I am the BS in a lesbian marriage. My WW's ex-girlfriend was the AP.
D-day of the 6 mo A was 10/04/15
We are doing okay, but by now I wanted it to be better

posts: 2497   ·   registered: Oct. 6th, 2015   ·   location: Pacific Northwest
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FairyTaleGone ( member #79059) posted at 1:42 PM on Friday, October 22nd, 2021

I know it’s Friday now, but this is the first time I have wanted to post on the "Thankful Thursday" thread since DDay1, which was 8 months ago.

Over the last few weeks things have just "clicked" for WH. He is showing true empathy and remorse and I am finally feeling safe enough to share my feelings and sad thoughts with him. It has been so healing to me to not have to hold those in and let them fester.

He even told me (on his own) that he had an "A-Ha" moment a couple weeks ago. He said he stewed on my words that anger was a secondary emotion and that it is masking another deeper feeling. He wanted to figure out why he got so mad when I would bring up the A. He said it was because he couldn’t "fix" it. I was telling him how I felt and there was nothing he could do about it, and that made him so angry (with himself) that he shut down. He said that once he tried to let the anger go in that situation and just provided comfort, that I seemed happier and it made him feel better too. He said "I learned that I can’t fix it, but I can show you how much I love you and want to be here for you". It blew my mind!

It is so nice to see the changes in him and feel truly understood in my darkest moments.

DDay 1 - 2/19/21 (found out about EA)
DDay 2 - 5/22/21 (TT found burner phone)
DDay 3 - 6/9/21 (TT found out about PA)

EA/PA ended 3/22/21 -WH went NC
Working on R
13yr old DD at home - unfortunately knows way too much

posts: 60   ·   registered: Jul. 2nd, 2021
id 8694505
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