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Iím devastated

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Williesmom posted 8/16/2020 19:49 PM

When I started this journey, I wanted an incognito name, so I chose Williesmom- Willie was my dog. That was 11 years ago.
I got him shortly after my wxhís first A, and he has kept me sane for the past 14 years.

He had been in declining health, and I was trying my best to do the right thing for him. Last Friday, I made the difficult decision to put him down.

He was my buddy and my sanity. I miss him so much, and my house is so, so quiet.

thisissogross posted 8/16/2020 19:53 PM

I'm so sorry. No doubt you DID do the right thing for him. It's always so hard. He knows you love him and did your best. They know.

JanaGreen posted 8/16/2020 20:03 PM

I'm so so sorry for your loss 💔

thatbpguy posted 8/16/2020 20:06 PM

Doing so is always such a hard, hard decision. I really feel for you.

BearlyBreathing posted 8/16/2020 21:26 PM

It is such a hard decision but it was absolutely the right one for Willie. Please allow yourself the griefó he was family and he was symbolic and he was just a very good boy. (((Williesmom)))

squid posted 8/16/2020 22:50 PM

Such a very difficult decision. I know it too well.

Very sorry for your loss.

Phoenix1 posted 8/16/2020 23:24 PM

I'm sorry, WM. Losing a furbaby is so hard, and having to make that call is gut wrenching. I've lost three since I've been here.

From one fur mama to another, big ((hugs)).

AnnieOakley posted 8/16/2020 23:44 PM

Iím so sorry. I too have 3 in puppy heaven. I think of them often with fond memories, smiles, and tears. One of my besties lost her 14 yo kitty this week too. So yes, be gentle with yourself and remember that Willie knew how much you loved him. I remind myself of that often. ((Hugs))

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WhoTheBleep posted 8/17/2020 06:21 AM

I'm so sorry, Williesmom. Losing our furbabies is so hard. I went through this most recently 2 years ago. I really wanted to take a break and have no pets for the first time in my life. (2 cats and 2 dogs in heaven, already).

6 weeks later I was at the shelter signing fresh adoption papers.

Yep. We love our pets. I'm glad he brought you love and comfort when you needed it most. You were lucky to have each other. (((Williesmom)))

lieshurt posted 8/17/2020 07:48 AM

Oh no. I'm so sorry. (((Williesmom)))

luvbug0915 posted 8/17/2020 08:20 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I just went through the same thing with my SI namesake, my little luvbug (my nickname for her).
My heart is shattered into a million little pieces. She been gone from me a week today.

NeverTwice posted 8/17/2020 08:28 AM

Sending hugs and strength. I am so sorry - the loss of a beloved companion is SO hard

Will be keeping you in my thoughts. And my three doggies will be too.

Be well.

Catwoman posted 8/17/2020 08:31 AM

I had to make this difficult decision with my beloved Chesapeake in 2016 and again with a beloved Maine Coon cat just last month. It is heart wrenching. I got another Chessie--I did not get another cat, as I still have two.

Get another pet or not is an individual decision. I drove to Chicago to get another Chessie and was initially very disappointed with him. Yet, I kept him and he grew on me and within a year, I knew he was the right dog for me. He is now a close companion and a dog I couldn't imagine myself without,

You will know how your heart wants to proceed.


tushnurse posted 8/17/2020 08:44 AM


I am so sorry to hear that your namesake has passed. It is never easy losing a pet that you have bonded so closely with.

I know people say that if you are lucky in life you will get that one dog/cat that is yours, and there is a special bond like none other..... I gotta say I have been really lucky or just really love all my pets, I have had several cats in my life that were super special, starting w/ Elliot my swimming cat, and MoMo my Maine Coon mutt, and now Mowgli the jungle (feral) kitty. I too have had lots of super dogs but a couple I have had super strong bonds w/ including the first dog I my H while in college, and one I had as a kid, and now my 1 3/4 yo chocolate lab, and I gotta say our bond didn't get crazy good until work from home started. I am his person now.

That said mourn your loss, but then find a new dog to start a new journey on. After all your life now is way different than it was 11 years ago.

((((And Strength))))

GiveTimeTime posted 8/17/2020 09:16 AM

I went through this a few years ago. I lost BOTH of my 14-year-old dogs within a WEEK of each other. ďDevastatedĒ hardly sums up how I felt.

For me, what helped was doing some fostering. About a month after I lost them, I applied to foster dogs through a local rescue group. I didnít have to make a commitment, but I did help some dogs along the way which also made me feel better and less lonely.

If you find at some point soon that you might be up to that, now is a really good time. With everything going on in the world, shelters and rescue groups are bursting at the seams looking for foster help. Just be careful, I fostered a little terrier at the beginning of lockdown and just fell in love with her. I am a foster fail. She now lives here and has a pink mohawk and her name is Mary.

Sending you tons of hugs.

cantaccept posted 8/17/2020 10:41 AM

I am so very sorry. It is heartbreaking. My dog that was during that time is now 11 and having some health issues. I dread that day. He loved me so hard during that time that I swear he knew. I wish that I had words of comfort for you. (((WM)))

Chili posted 8/17/2020 11:02 AM

Oh Mom of Willie - my new beginning boy and I are sending huge hugs and strength your way today. It is so hard - I know your heart is breaking. But embrace what a wonderful life you gave him - you cared and loved him throughout your entire journey together. It's horrifyingly unfair that they leave us too soon, but I hope you'll carry that bond you shared with you always. That's something beyond special to have had right there.

little turtle posted 8/17/2020 11:46 AM

It's never easy. You made the right choice for him.

imagoodwitch posted 8/17/2020 14:54 PM

Iím so sorry

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