Actually, he does slide grey in there. It's subtle, but it's there
Fair point, and my quick read probably didn't do it justice.
You realize this is just a matter of perspective, right?
Maybe. But I'm probably biased, or at least nervous
the women I dated were every bit as concerned about taking the chance as I was.
Hmm... Good to know. So you're saying women have anxiety too?
Clearly you're thinking about it
the thought crosses my mind from time to time. Mostly some evenings when I'm sitting here by myself and say "Gee, I wish I had someone to share this with."
Hell, there's even dating sites for people over 50
I try not to think of myself as "over 50" too often , it depresses me.
...or you're ready but fear rejection, just like in HS....
To the heart of the issue, as always, Sisoon. That's why I like your posts....
You're smart. You're employed. You're articulate. etc, etc
I'm at least average, I am employed (at the present), I'm not what I'd call "articulate" but I can hold a conversation.
You have a red sports car.
And it hasn't scored me any yet And I've had to drive it to work the last two days and another tomorrow to boot while the daily driver is in the shop for a grand worth of front-end work. And parking amongst all the young, pretty, not-giving-me-with-the-top-down-and-cool-sunglasses-on-a-second-look court clerks, stenographers, legal aides, whatever they are (our building shares a parking deck with the courthouse next door) every day.... Nada.
after I finally chose to walk them, it turns out that they weren't so bad
I've found the same, the fear is worse than the reality. But, there I am.
But we accomplish nothing by sitting around feeling sorry for ourselves.
I've done enough if that for a lifetime over the last five years. I try and avoid it but am not always successful.
We don't have to hang onto some belief that we absolutely must marry the next women we're into.
Not sure that marriage is the ultimate goal. I understand that most think of it as the logical continuation of a relationship, but I am not sure that I want to entangle my fiscal future with someone else's again. That lesson was painful and expensive and makes me more than a bit gun-shy. And I am sure that will cross me off the list of a lot of women, but that's where I'm at.
I know, if I want to date women, I should go date women. but I don't even know where to start. It's not like they're wearing signs that say "I'd be open to going to dinner" or something. Yes, yes, sign up for apps..... That seems to be the way it's done nowadays.
I still haven't given up my thoughts of moving back to Germany, It's just delayed while my dog fights her losing battle with liver cancer so there's that out there too. A relationship would either have to come with an expiration date or a willingness to relocate somewhere where she (probably) doesn't speak the language.
Now it's time to sit out on the deck with a beer and a fine cigar. Let's see, Hoyo, H. Upmann, or Cohiba? Choices, choices....
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