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Mr. Kite ( Member #28840) posted at 5:03 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2019

It's kind of like being in a marriage with four other people. For the most part this has been positive, but there has been a couple of issues, and I'm glad it's not a long term project. When it's done, we will all remain good friends.

My greatest annoyance during the band days...

"Why do you keep playing while I'm trying to tune up?"

I was in a band where the drummer was 6'7" and over 300 lbs. The other guitarist and bass player got into a wrestling match with him outside the building. They threw him into a bramble bush. He quit. He owned the P.A. system. End of band, lol.

Have a great time at your gig. Wish I could be there.

"Looks like I've been fooled again.
Looks like I'm the fool again.
I don't like it, I don't like it." Tom Petty - Fooled Again

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 6:13 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2019

"Why do you keep playing while I'm trying to tune up?"

Ah, yeah, I remember dealing with that in the past as well. Now everyone has some sort of tuning pedal. So convenient!

That's crazy with your former drummer! I'm sure there was a lot leading up to that moment.

Have a great time at your gig. Wish I could be there.

Thanks, man! I think we are probably just going to play two shows and be done. Not sure what I'm going to do after that. Either start writing music again, or just concentrate on other stuff.

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Incarnate ( Member #46085) posted at 6:28 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2019

I just have this feeling that once I set foot on the stage, I will feel like I am in my 20's again. Here's to freedom.

That is EXACTLY how I felt stepping on stage to do comedy. I was petrified walking up to the stage, i felt like I was going to throw up or pass out as I started up the steps, but the -second- my foot hit the stage itself, this cold, icy calm settled over me and I knew, i just -knew- I had it in the bag, and I killed it.

Goddamn, I need to get back up there again.

Good luck on your gig! I will be watching to see how it went!

[This message edited by Incarnate at 12:28 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 8:57 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2019

Good luck on your gig! I will be watching to see how it went!

Thanks, man!! I am strangely not that nervous. I think part of that is that all of the other musicians I'm working with are so freaking solid at what they do. Plus, since the last time I was on stage, my "give a fuck" has pretty much gone out the window with all I've been through. I'm just going to have fun.

Any plans for you to get back onto the comedy stage? I'm sure they have open mic nights around there, yeah?

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Mr. Kite ( Member #28840) posted at 9:01 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2019

I think we are probably just going to play two shows and be done.

What songs are you playing? Classic rock?

Not sure what I'm going to do after that. Either start writing music again, or just concentrate on other stuff.

Since we're both using FL Studio there's a way to send files/songs to each other.

"Looks like I've been fooled again.
Looks like I'm the fool again.
I don't like it, I don't like it." Tom Petty - Fooled Again

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 9:09 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2019

Mr. Kite - I'll send you a PM. Mainly because answering your question would make it pretty easy for people to track down my identity.

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Incarnate ( Member #46085) posted at 11:13 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2019

Any plans for you to get back onto the comedy stage? I'm sure they have open mic nights around there, yeah?

Yup! In fact, it was here, shortly after DDay, that I did my first bit. I plan on hitting the Open Mic Nights around the county for a while and eventually trying for a paying gig. My material is mostly Newly Single, Father of Five Girls, Older Millennial in a GenZ/iGen World that is run by Boomers, things like that. I've got more of a Louis CK/George Carlin style of storytelling improv that I am mostly comfortable with. I just need to hone my style and come up with some good material.

Edit: I posted it before, but here's an (approved!) link to the bit. I'm not worried about people knowing who I am. Approved Link

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 6:32 PM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2019

Loved the skit, Incarnate! You looked completely comfortable up there. Definitely sounds like a good outlet for you. The online dating part of it cracked me up. You were spot on.

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DoinBettr ( Member #71209) posted at 8:47 PM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2019

Bad news; they test for THC in their pre-screening, and I got stoned two days in a row. Whooooops.

Incarnate - THC is fat salable. That means skinny guys keep that in their system longer than fatter guys. Hopefully that couch time including some Taco Bell. It should be gone in a week if you aren't a twig.

FYI - I have worked for several big companies. Lots of them aren't discriminating against THC in legal states. Most are even dropping drug tests unless something happens. If it is legal using it in your state, most right to work and EEO states will hit those companies hard. CA is one of those. Hence national companies don't have those policies anymore.

Being in a band was funny. I was "the kid" because I was not even old enough to drink back then (19). The rest of the band was in their 30's. The worst/funniest was when our lead singer did a shot on stage to impress the crowd, then proceeded to throw up immediately off the front of the stage. The crowd parted and 2 other people yacked in the crowd. I was laughing so hard. The guitar player queued me to take over lead vocals (I suck at singing) but kept things rolling because I knew the words to the songs. We repeated the chorus and I picked it up for a song. Good times!

BTW - Being "the kid" made me the DD most times too. Except on Halloween, then the band got me lit.

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 11:27 PM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2019

Being in a band was funny. I was "the kid" because I was not even old enough to drink back then (19). The rest of the band was in their 30's. The worst/funniest was when our lead singer did a shot on stage to impress the crowd, then proceeded to throw up immediately off the front of the stage. The crowd parted and 2 other people yacked in the crowd. I was laughing so hard. The guitar player queued me to take over lead vocals (I suck at singing) but kept things rolling because I knew the words to the songs. We repeated the chorus and I picked it up for a song. Good times!

Dude.

I've never witnessed barfage on stage. That's awesome. The fact that the crowd got involved with it makes it even better.

Incarnate - following up with what DoinBettr said. Is Golden Seal still an option? I heard drinking vinegar helps as well. That's my knowledge from the 90's, though.

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steadychevy ( Member #42608) posted at 12:37 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

Incarnate, IIRC Red Skelton (maybe you're too young) threw up before every performance. He was a nervous wreck and killed it.

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Incarnate ( Member #46085) posted at 1:20 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

IIRC Goldenseal is considered a 'masking agent' and they test for that as well. If it shows up, then it's an automatic failure. At least, that's -my- memory from the early 2000s, which was the last time I took UAs/PTs with any regularity. I've done one since then in 2015, and I hadn't smoked anything in years, so I was fine.

I'm gonna pick up a $20 in-home test from CVS this weekend and take it on Monday. Apparently, they're pretty accurate. It will have been nine days since I smoked, so I'll know if it's out of my system or if I need to wait longer. I would LIKE to be able to start the hiring process by early November. We'll see.

I do remember the name Red Skelton. I was 12 when he passed, so yeah, a wee bit before my time. Interesting/funny to know that such an accomplished performer still got nervous enough to throw up before every performance. It's probably akin to the anxiety I feel before I publish.

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 1:24 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

IIRC Goldenseal is considered a 'masking agent' and they test for that as well. If it shows up, then it's an automatic failure. At least, that's -my- memory from the early 2000s, which was the last time I took UAs/PTs with any regularity.

Damn. Good to know. I swear I learn something new every day.

Good luck, and let us know how things go, man!

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Loukas ( Member #47354) posted at 8:21 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

Older Millennial in a GenZ/iGen World that is run by Boomers

Remember when we were known as Gen Y?

The boomers captured our imaginations and introduced us to a pair of plumbers and a Hylian. By the time we were going into kindergarten we didn’t just watch and read about the values of being a KISA, we experienced it!

Our teachers struggled in their early attempts to educate us in a technology even they didn’t understand in the form of a Commodore 64. A computer lesson usually involved sliding a large floppy disk out of it’s paper envelope, sliding it into the drive and playing a few rounds of Frogger. By the time someone at the school could possibly teach us how that Commodore thing worked, they were replacing them with some Macintosh box that was even more confusing? I still don’t understand how losing a coloured screen was a step forward...

At least our parents were still concerned about our physical well being and instilled the importance of playing outdoors. Unless of course you had one of those helicopter parents...sorry Johnny, your mom sucked, bro. However, it would have been nice to have the old man around to teach us the simple things like catch, but 20% mortgage rates did a good job keeping them from the home. Ironically, that didn’t keep them from expecting us to play in the big leagues.

By the time we were beginning to understand a slightly bigger picture of life, the Gen Xers were filling our radio waves with despair. I don’t remember any lyrics about the confusion of a rotary phone in our houses while being the first teens having access to cell phones, but damn those Seattle boys got us! It was almost like they figured out how to send their clouds right through the radio.

In a quickly changing time, we did still appreciate and experience traditions from our father’s childhood. A trip to the convenience store for a pack of trading cards ignited excitement, at least until the piece of gum turned into a brick, but by that time we were already distracted and kicking that son of a bitch Bison’s ass so hard that the next Bison wannabe was feeling it!

ICQ and the interwebs had us connecting with each other in a way never done before. So what did we do with this incredible technology? We asked anyone and everyone A/S/L. I wish I could say we used it to get to know one and another, but really, it was our first Tinder. For you boomers, a/s/l is age/sex/location...

Napster gave us the opportunity to send Lars into a tail spin and bring down the music labels. Yet they called us the thieves? Whatever, we still survived Y2K and Will Smith’s Get Jiggy With it.

But hey, our parents divorced at rates never seen before. Our families were torn apart yet we still valued the importance of marriage, career and country. And we became the most educated generation. Yes I realize I can’t write and spell, you fucking grammar nazi! Those of us who didn’t get educated got to work and we worked hard.

Now, maybe it’s because I’m Canadian and cultural lag, but it wasn’t until the tail end of our generation (Gen X kids) joined the workforce after 2010 that we were renamed millennials and became a meme. I mean it was bad enough that our boomer parents didn’t get us in the 90’s, but now the Gen Xers need to blame their shitty parenting on our generation too? Pfft, I’m not gonna play the blame game here, that’s such a boomer and Gen X thing to do. Just figured I’d pass this mirror on, you conceited fucks!

[This message edited by Loukas at 2:22 AM, October 24th (Thursday)]

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 6:52 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

Napster gave us the opportunity to send Lars into a tail spin and bring down the music labels. Yet they called us the thieves? Whatever, we still survived Y2K and Will Smith’s Get Jiggy With it.

I remember working on Y2K code at work while listening to Napster. No Will Smith for me, though.

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Loukas ( Member #47354) posted at 8:36 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

Geez, Los, I don’t think you’ve truly lived without some Big Willie Style.

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 8:58 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

Nah, Loukas. That's actually around the time I started binge listening to a lot of Canadian bands, since not a whole lot of good stuff was coming out of the States just then. The Tea Party, Big Wreck, Alexisonfire, Our Lady Peace, Matthew Good Band, etc.

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Loukas ( Member #47354) posted at 9:04 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

I didn’t see the Hip in that list...

ETA: Don’t forget the lights, eh.

[This message edited by Loukas at 3:05 PM, October 24th (Thursday)]

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 9:06 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

Ah, yes, The Hip! That's why I put "etc." in there, because I knew I'd miss at least one important one.

Looks like someone else gets to hit the lights.

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Loukas ( Member #47354) posted at 9:08 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2019

Ok ok I’ll get them.

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