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CallingSpades ( Member #71287) posted at 5:13 AM on Thursday, January 28th, 2021

Your mom thinks you were being annoying and pretentious 😂😂😂

She gave me all the expensive artisan baking flours you left at her house because she didn't even know what it was. I'm going to use it to make my plain old pancakes for the kids like I've done every weekend for years, and they're going to remember the pancakes, not the artisan such and such that you made them that one time you visited. I'm going to toast the garlic, cook the pork thoroughly, cook onions fast, chop vegetables with whatever old knife is lying around, cook the pizza directly on the oven rack, not oil the cutting boards, drop and break glasses and no one will sigh, and generally do everything else that makes you think you're better than me, for the rest of my life. I set aside your favorite trendy wine glasses for you though, you're welcome. I will be happily drinking wine out of the random mismatched ones! Bye sucka!!

Me BS/40
WH 40 EA/PA, DDay 5/19
M 12 years, 2 kids.
Filed for D 1/2020

posts: 234   ·   registered: Jun. 18th, 2019
id 8628455
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Chili ( Member #35503) posted at 5:28 PM on Thursday, January 28th, 2021

You are such a fucking idiot.

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Loving flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

posts: 2136   ·   registered: May. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: Reality
id 8628588
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hcsv ( Member #51813) posted at 10:28 PM on Thursday, January 28th, 2021

If that's your final settlement offer, I'll see you in court.

After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17

posts: 648   ·   registered: Feb. 14th, 2016
id 8628712
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crazyblindsided ( Member #35215) posted at 11:00 PM on Thursday, January 28th, 2021

You sent me a video of us at a party in 2017 saying I looked happy then... well I wasn't going to look sad or mad at a party. How much you don't even know me because if you did partying is not something I remember as the happiest of times. The happiest of times is when I thought we were a family, when I thought we were happy. Our vacations before the A's made me happy. When we used to play golf together. You know before I knew you were leading a double life.

fBS/fWS (me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:50 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 24 years, Married 19
DD(18) DS(15)
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl

posts: 8034   ·   registered: Apr. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: California
id 8628716
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leafields ( Member #63517) posted at 4:02 AM on Friday, January 29th, 2021

You've visited that area again, so I suspect you've gone to see her again. You sad, sadistic, mf'er. Why did I waste so much time and energy trying to work on maintaining a relationship with you? I should have divorced you 20 years ago, you sorry excuse for a human being.

Lea
Me: BW
Married 34 years, 3 DS
DDay #1: March 26, 2018, DDay #2 8/26/2019
Filed for D: 11/16/2020
D Final: 2/25/2021

posts: 637   ·   registered: Apr. 21st, 2018   ·   location: Washington State
id 8628766
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99problems ( Member #59373) posted at 6:36 AM on Friday, January 29th, 2021

You're never going to get the validation you want, the forgiveness you want from me.

All you will ever have is my disdain and disgust. And you can have as much of that as you wish. I have an infinite supply.

Stop pretending to be a nice, normal human, I can see your skin suit.

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

posts: 1000   ·   registered: Jun. 26th, 2017   ·   location: Colorado
id 8628785
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Trust55 ( Member #60672) posted at 12:03 AM on Saturday, January 30th, 2021

When I get done with my divorce I’m going to write the slut whore a letter and thank her for taking that sorry excuse for a husband out of my life

Me - BS 65 yr
Him - WH 65 yr
D Day 03.19.2017 ( 2 days before our 31 wedding anniversary)
False R Divorce in progress
I will NEVER accept how CRUEL he is
I AM MOVING FORWARD

posts: 100   ·   registered: Sep. 18th, 2017   ·   location: Oklahoma
id 8629123
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hcsv ( Member #51813) posted at 10:38 PM on Tuesday, February 9th, 2021

What? Are you too chicken to Zoom with our lawyers and me?

After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17

posts: 648   ·   registered: Feb. 14th, 2016
id 8631918
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hcsv ( Member #51813) posted at 7:15 PM on Wednesday, February 17th, 2021

So pleased your lawyer didnt want the zoom meeting in the first place, that made it a quick one so you could go back to bed since it looked like you just rolled out of it for the zoom meeting.

Will definitely see you in zoom court with the judge in a few weeks. Maybe you'll clean up for the judge.

[This message edited by hcsv at 1:16 PM, February 17th (Wednesday)]

After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17

posts: 648   ·   registered: Feb. 14th, 2016
id 8633898
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MotherOfDragons ( New Member #76078) posted at 7:17 PM on Tuesday, February 23rd, 2021

You are not worthy of me.

posts: 27   ·   registered: Dec. 31st, 2020
id 8635650
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crazyblindsided ( Member #35215) posted at 7:21 PM on Tuesday, February 23rd, 2021

You are still a loser. Claiming no income for this year when you know damn well you have accepted investor's cash for your supposed "New" company. Just refinanced and pulled money out of your mom's home and you don't even pay me CS fuck you loser!

fBS/fWS (me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:50 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 24 years, Married 19
DD(18) DS(15)
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl

posts: 8034   ·   registered: Apr. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: California
id 8635652
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Adira ( Member #77327) posted at 9:53 PM on Tuesday, February 23rd, 2021

This thread is the perfect outlet. Since I’m new to IHS & starting the 180, I need to practice LC/NC.

So… you can do simple chores to 'help' me out? Thanks mate. What a champ.

Uh, no, I’m not going to praise you for every little minuscule thing you happen to do. It's called adulting in an equal partnership. Most people can manage it without an ego stroke. You constantly expect smoke blown up your arse? Call your old AP, she might still be good for it.

Me BW, STBXWH covert NPD
2 teenage kids
M: 24 years, together 27 years
3x DDays: 08/2017; 10/2017; 02/2018 with the Hobbit Howorker.
False R: 02/2018-12/2020
Currently in IHS

posts: 62   ·   registered: Feb. 16th, 2021   ·   location: Australia
id 8635719
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Adira ( Member #77327) posted at 9:55 PM on Tuesday, February 23rd, 2021

BTW… that haggard old bogan you picked for an AP? That's the twu luv solemate you were going to replace me with? You could’ve done so much better. That secondhand classless trash has got a face like a dropped pie.

Just sayin’.

Me BW, STBXWH covert NPD
2 teenage kids
M: 24 years, together 27 years
3x DDays: 08/2017; 10/2017; 02/2018 with the Hobbit Howorker.
False R: 02/2018-12/2020
Currently in IHS

posts: 62   ·   registered: Feb. 16th, 2021   ·   location: Australia
id 8635720
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Adira ( Member #77327) posted at 9:48 PM on Wednesday, February 24th, 2021

I really want to punch you in the face today...and it's only 7am.

No fucking surprise, you tried to squirm out of your kid's intensive education plan meeting.

There goes promise #4597

I'm tired of having to drag you through your life like a reluctant teenager.

[This message edited by Adira at 7:15 PM, February 24th (Wednesday)]

Me BW, STBXWH covert NPD
2 teenage kids
M: 24 years, together 27 years
3x DDays: 08/2017; 10/2017; 02/2018 with the Hobbit Howorker.
False R: 02/2018-12/2020
Currently in IHS

posts: 62   ·   registered: Feb. 16th, 2021   ·   location: Australia
id 8636012
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Sickwithgrief ( New Member #75089) posted at 1:22 PM on Thursday, February 25th, 2021

I'm not texting you.

I'm not texting you.

I'm not texting you.

Even if I did you would not say anything I wanted to hear.

Even if I did, you wouldn't care why.

Even if I did, nothing would change.

I wish you would leave me.

I wish I could leave you.

I wish you were the disabled one.

I really do.

I'm that kind of person now.

Schadenfreude.

Maybe one day you will be, and by then you'll be all alone. Nobody else is going to take care of the likes of you, and you can't even afford to pay someone else either.

You've let your entitled ass get fat and unattractive sitting in that chair jacking off to girls younger than your daughter - remember, you're OLD now just like me. Nobody will be sucked in by your looks anymore, that's for sure.

You have more debt than earning potential, the ladies will flock to that too. And your ability to have intelligent conversation, that's a winner. Education? Talent? Accomplishment? Anything to be proud of that actually exists outside of your fantasy world?

I don't know who you are after 25 years. Either I'm super gullible or you're super talented at acting.

Maybe I am gullible but you aren't smart enough to pull that act off for that long. My running theory is that there are humongous cannabis holes in your brain where you used to live. Or you caught some sort of contagious narcissistic disease that makes you more and more delusional and immature as it progresses.

At any rate you're a walking rotten carcass and I am not texting you to tell you that.

BS, married 25 years, WS (recovered/ing NA) supposedly in recovery for PA, yeah right.


Currently in house separated, attempting to R (at least talking the talk, no walking happening). No official DDay since TT happening for year

posts: 21   ·   registered: Aug. 4th, 2020
id 8636153
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Adira ( Member #77327) posted at 1:31 AM on Sunday, February 28th, 2021

OMG you're a manipulative bastard.

Victimising yourself, still lying, still blameshifting, still not taking ownership, gaslighting.

Fuck you.

Me BW, STBXWH covert NPD
2 teenage kids
M: 24 years, together 27 years
3x DDays: 08/2017; 10/2017; 02/2018 with the Hobbit Howorker.
False R: 02/2018-12/2020
Currently in IHS

posts: 62   ·   registered: Feb. 16th, 2021   ·   location: Australia
id 8637934
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leafields ( Member #63517) posted at 5:23 AM on Thursday, March 11th, 2021

You perverted, sick SOB. Three years ago today, you had decided to betray me and tuck your sister. Was her pu$$y worth blowing up the lives of our families? Doubt it. I hope your d*ck rots off, you mf bastard.

Lea
Me: BW
Married 34 years, 3 DS
DDay #1: March 26, 2018, DDay #2 8/26/2019
Filed for D: 11/16/2020
D Final: 2/25/2021

posts: 637   ·   registered: Apr. 21st, 2018   ·   location: Washington State
id 8640990
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MotherOfDragons ( New Member #76078) posted at 8:52 PM on Wednesday, March 31st, 2021

I don’t think you will ever see or understand the damage you have done to the people who loved and trusted you. The people you were supposed to protect from harm. You tore our family apart and broke our hearts. And you didn’t care.

Our children tell me that they will never trust anyone again so that they can never again be hurt and betrayed. What kind of father does that to his own children? You have damaged them permanently. I can never forgive you for that. Have you even noticed that they are distancing themselves from you? Or are you still so wrapped up in your facade?

Our daughter told me she will never understand what you did, and can never forgive you. She is in therapy . I hope she will learn to trust again . I hope she will find a way through her trauma and depression. She has other good men her life- uncles, family friends, her grandfather. True role models. She doesn’t need you. That’s your loss.

Our son is so hurt, so angry . He knows you lied to him. He told me he has called you out on them and you got angry. He sees you as a liar and a bully. He is trying to distance from you. He has witnessed the psychological abuse and bullying of me . He has told me not to make excuses for you . Do you even know or care that he has no respect for you? You will lose him too if you don’t wake up to reality.

You broke me . You don’t care. You have subjected me to 2 years of intimidation, abuse and bullying. And you flaunt your relationship. You are so proud of yourself. You left your family for a younger co-worker and you are so pleased with yourself.

You are sick . You are a bully. You are a liar. You are a cheater. You are a thief. I loved you. I trusted you. You broke me - and you don’t care.

posts: 27   ·   registered: Dec. 31st, 2020
id 8647002
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Trust55 ( Member #60672) posted at 5:02 AM on Friday, June 4th, 2021

4 years you have been screwing me around. Don't you think it is time to settle this divorce?

I can't even write down what I am thinking right now.

Me - BS 65 yr
Him - WH 65 yr
D Day 03.19.2017 ( 2 days before our 31 wedding anniversary)
False R Divorce in progress
I will NEVER accept how CRUEL he is
I AM MOVING FORWARD

posts: 100   ·   registered: Sep. 18th, 2017   ·   location: Oklahoma
id 8664892
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CheesecakeBaker ( Member #78991) posted at 10:02 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2021

I feel used.

I feel like I never meant anything to you.

And it's absolute bullshit that you continue to just act like nothing happened and this is just a "blip" in your life. You present this façade like everything is fine; and when I called you out on it months back you called me an asshole for thinking you were happy with everything that was going on.

Well - you WERE happy. You were totally happy going off with the other dude on lunch and dinner dates, going to sports events and concerts and clubs and bars, going to his house till 2am to "smoke weed" and "watch TV". You WERE happy texting him constantly, sometimes until 2 or 3 in the morning. You WERE happy doing all of that - and you chose to look down on me and resent me for being at home, for acting sad, for not giving you space.

All I wanted was to do with you all that stuff you were doing with him. You said being around me and doing stuff with me was "smothering"...but it wasn't "smothering" when you were with him? It's because you stopped loving me (if you ever did) and fell in love with him. No matter how much you refuse to admit it, no matter how much you deny it and lie to my face about it, YOU screwed up. You're lying and in denial because you know that every time I called you out on your shit, you were caught and didn't want to admit it.

You were my best friend. I thought we were on the same team...turns out we weren't on any team together at all.

Looking back now, I can see that you weren't even the best partner. You dropped the ball so many times. And now you blame ME for it? You blame me for not trying hard enough?

This is crazy to me. I tried SO HARD. I tried to do everything you told me to do whenever we'd talk. I gave you space when you said you wanted space. I tried to get out of the house and stop "moping" around (as you said I was). NONE OF IT WORKED. You stone-walled me, refused to communicate with me, and it was because you were spending all your time and investing all your energy into HIM. Into someone else.

And you still lie to my face about it.

I'm angry, I'm devastated. I'm heartbroken. I'm tired. I feel awful. I wish you could experience all this pain I'm feeling. I wish you'd show some remorse and acknowledgement for the damage you've done. I know you never will.

posts: 103   ·   registered: Jun. 22nd, 2021
id 8675278
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