After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17
Tell the kids I say "Hello"
I havent spoken to ex since divorce in January 2017, three adult children havent spoken to him in 4-6 years.
I told him between Dday and divorce that his relationship with his kids is his to repair or lose, that I was done being the go between with excuses for everyone.
With the most recent alimony check he writes he would like me to tell them "Hello" from him. He has done this before and I have struggled with how to handle it. While I would like the kids to know their father is at least thinking about them, it also screams that he doesnt think of them enough to reach out and tell them himself. I also know that this small gesture, depending on which child, will either make them angry or sad, and could be a rabbit hole for one of them.
A simple "thinking of you, hope you are well" would go a long way. No response necessary, take it or leave it. After all these years, it is clear he is just not capable of this.
It does make me very sad that they dont have a relationship. He has missed a wedding, birth of a grandchild he has never met, a PhD graduation, first cars, first apartments and jobs....so much.
So, do I share this message with the kids? Or stay out of it as I declared many years ago.
15 comments posted: Monday, June 6th, 2022
does anyone have an experience with the covid antivirals?
After all this time working in healthcare, I tested positive this morning. I have an E-clinic appointment through CVS for "treatment options" which I hope will include the antivirals.
Does anyone have any experience with them?
4 comments posted: Sunday, May 15th, 2022
The covert passive agressive nacissist
The Covert passive aggressive narcissist. Recognizing the traits and finding healing after hidden emotional and psychological abuse.
by Debbie Mirza
I read an article online by this author and it haunted me,
google this for the article
25 signs of a passive aggressive covert narcissist. life lessons.
It is an incredible read when you have or think you have been manipulated and abused by this type of narcissist.
I'd love to have a conversation with others who have read the book or are in a similar situation.
8 comments posted: Wednesday, March 20th, 2019
Any BS read Not "just friends" and asked WS to read it?
As the title asks, has any BSs read Not "Just Friends" and requested that the WS read it?
WSs affair is a coworker, he is her boss AND her husbands boss. All sounds so incestuous, doesn't it?
I have just started this book tonight and I have a feeling I may be up all night reading it. I'd really like him to read it, even if we are in the process of D with little chance of R.
Just wondering what others experiences are with this book. Thanks.
45 comments posted: Sunday, April 3rd, 2016