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I'm relieved she's doing better. Thank you for the update. I'll continue to pray for her and your family.

I have just read this Walloped and am deeply shocked and so sorry that this happened. Please pass on my very best wishes to Mrs Walloped and my hopes for a full and lasting recovery.

Please do not blame yourself for agreeing that she read your threads. It was a reasonable thing to do given the level of examination of the affair that had already taken place on your wife's threads.

I haven't read the entirety of your threads in detail for some time but remember your love shone through as much as your pain in your own posts. Perhaps what I didn't remember were the level of attacks on your wife so I, like several other respected posters here, believed her reading your threads would show her the love and respect you had for her both before and after the affair rather than the negativity of a small number of hardcore posters. I am now sincerely sorry that I encouraged her to do so and cause her such pain.

There is no couple on this site who I have more admiration for. You have both been honest, courageous and articulate throughout. I wish you and your family the very best wishes.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending my good vibrations across the Ocean blue. God bless you both.

Please keep us updated.

Thank you for updating. I have been praying for her all day.

Please keep those dance lessons on the schedule. You both need them desperately.

Praying for her. And your family. I want love to fill your home and your hearts. You both deserve it.

I must say Walloped, you are a man that I very much respect. You have continued to show class and love ever since your very first post.

I also admire and respect your wife, yes she f'ed up bigtime but she has owned up to the hurt she has brought to the family. She has and is continuing to do all she can do to help you both to heal. She basically OD'ed on your storyline. 2 1/2 years of your pain in one night, simply too much.

((((Walloped)))) ((((MrsWalloped)))) I sincerely hope that this is rock bottom and the path for both of you only goes up from now on.

May you both find peace and happiness.

I’m so happy to hear that she is doing better and is home. I

My wh tried to commit suicide twice. The first time a few days after dday1 and the second time was the day after dday2 (my uncovering the real truth-not more ap’s or broken nc) it was very scary. I understand how you are feeling. Thankfully he is in a much better place now and your w will be in a better place soon. It sounds like she is already getting there

Peace and hugs are being sent to you both from me.

You and your wife are both such brave and graceful people. Sending strength and peace your way.

Thank you for taking the time to update ....

Happy you are home....rest and know so many of us care...

Peace

Just logged in and saw the thread. So glad that all is getting better and that she is at home recovering now. I can imagine the overwhelming nature of reading the posts and that satan was just sitting by, slyly wringing his hands and whispering all those negatives to her.

There is truly a spiritual warfare component to the reconciliation and recommitment to the marriage. I will pray for both of you to put on that armor, to be able to stand against the attacks.

As a husband, I pray that over my wife each day and I would encourage you to do the same, Wallopped. And don't forget to pray that over yourself as well, brother.

Do not be afraid. Be strong and courageous. For her. For the kids. For you. For Christ.

Praying for the continued healing, brother.

So sorry to hear about this Walloped. But I'm glad she's back at home and doing better. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Dear Walloped

I have never read any of your threads. I only discovered the wonderful support of SI in June last year. I was struggling with so many issues on realising that I just could not do R. Feeling like a failure. I felt that I had failed in marriage an then failed in R. I felt like less of a man because I was not strong enough to do it. Felt less of a man as I did not have it in my heart to find forgiveness.

I then saw you being held up in so many threads as the golden boy of R. The way it should be done. The man with so many qualities I wished I had. The man I wished I could be. I could never bring myself to read your threads. I felt that reading them would just highlight to me what I failure I am as a husband and a man.

I read the first post by your wife in her thread in wayward and it triggered me so hard that I could not read any further, but I have seen her post in other threads. She posted just below me in a post encouragement I had sent to Mrs Life. Her post was of a strong, supportive woman, and again, I envied what you two had achieved, and again felt a little less than.

Today, I find out that you both are just as human as me. Just as in need of care and support as me. Not people to be envied. Just souls, making their way through the challenges of life. Just frail and flawed humans like me. How I wish that I had been able to see past my hurt and feelings of inferiority. How I could have seen past what I saw as cold confidence in your wife, and could have found it in me to share how SI has helped me to see the WWs that I had hated with such a passionate hate, as just warm and struggling souls like me.

Walloped, today, as a frail, flawed and flailing fellow human, I so want to put my arm around your shoulder and just let you know. I understand. I have been there. You are a good man Walloped. Maybe not the superhuman I saw you to be. Rather someone just like me. Thank you for sharing this. You cannot know how it has helped me overcome what I think has been my greatest struggle, my self-doubt. Thank you for sharing your humanity.

Thank you walloped. I'm glad she's home and feeling better. I wish you didn't have to go through more pain and surely it must be awful to see dear Mrs. Walloped suffer like that.

This whole experience is so hard. I think no one realises until they are living it. I cannot begin to put myself in her place but I feel sadness for her and for you. I am thinking of you both and wish that all the love and good wishes from all of us reach you and may you feel comforted by them.

Dear Mrs. Walloped, no matter what, you are a beautiful spirit. We all are. You can be today whatever you want to be. Your family loves you and wants your happiness. I hope you can love yourself and shine brightly. You are beautiful.

Thank you for the update. Glad to hear things are better. Sending strength and best wishes to both of you.

So glad mrs. W is home and you are there to help her. That is what a partnership and friendship is all about. The love you two share is beautiful. I am sending you both peace and healing.

I wish I could tell Mrs.Walloped how much her posts helped me as a BW. She wrote in a way that I could understand and she expressed things that my fWH could not articulate well (about his infidelity).

Sending her hugs and prayers tonight.

Oh man, I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish your wife (and you) a speedy recovery.

Glad to hear you're both doing okay. Thinking about you guys.

wow Walloped, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

I'm so sorry for both of you. Hoping that peace and closeness is the theme in your world today.

For me, there is nothing more meaningful and healing in this place (SI) than a remorseful WW doing the hard stuff, speaking honestly, and being amazing in the face of these incredibly difficult circumstances. In the short time she's been here (and even when she wasn't, but appeared in your posts), your wife has been one of the best examples of that.

Perhaps unbeknownst to her, her words and actions have not just been for you, Walloped. They've helped me heal, too. And probably many, many others.

I hope that she really gets a chance to know that. Good luck to you both.

(((Walloped, and Mrs. Walloped))))

This stuff is incredibly hard, no one will ever argue that.

I am happy Mrs is home and able to rest in her own bed, surrounded by family that love her. Please let her know that we will be supporting you both through this. Make sure she continues w/ her meds, and her therapy, she needs both right now.

You guys can and will get through this.

((((And Healing and Strength))))