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MalibuBayBreeze ( member #52124) posted at 1:55 PM on Wednesday, March 14th, 2018
I know I’m a WW and this is not the Wayward section. I know how WS’s are looked upon.
Not gonna lie, I tend to stay away from the Wayward forum. Honestly some just don't seem to get it and I'd rather not read their posts, which can be triggering.
There are a few here who do stand out and give advice to the BS's. Whose remorse, not regret come through. Those are the Waywards most of us wish we had. The empathy, the realization of what has happened, the awareness of their BS's pain and the willingness to do the work to save the marriage and help heal their spouse.
You and Mr Walloped have until now, navigated through this together and together you will continue to move forward. I'm truly sorry you had such a horrific panic attack, and am so glad you're on the road to healing.
Bless you both, may you continue to get stronger both as a couple and in your own individual healing. ❤️
A man or woman telling the truth doesn't mind being questioned.
A liar does.
BrainFreeze ( member #61754) posted at 7:11 PM on Wednesday, March 14th, 2018
Mr. and Mrs. Walloped....
I am very glad to hear that you are home, and healing.
Peace to you both.
BH 49, WW 47
Married 24 years, DS16,DD17
You all know.
rambler ( member #43747) posted at 4:30 AM on Thursday, March 15th, 2018
Empathy is knowing how your actions impact others. You feel what they feel.
It is also critical in R.
I always felt there was something missing.
Mrs W never knew how walloped felt thus could not have empathy. Now I know she does and did a wonderful pulse.
I know you guys will make it. Best wishes
Owl6118 ( member #42806) posted at 1:05 PM on Thursday, March 15th, 2018
Thinking of you both this morning.
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 2:51 PM on Thursday, March 15th, 2018
Hi Walloped.
How are you holding up as the caregiver. Hoping you are able to maintain your own physical and mental health through her recovery.
Just checking in.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
20yrsagoBS ( member #55272) posted at 3:53 PM on Thursday, March 15th, 2018
Mr and Mrs Walloped. Thank you BOTH. Your commitment to working through this is refreshing. Being a nurse, losing control of your bladder is easily the least offensive odor/mess/complication a patient can perform on our watch. Just clean it up and move forward.
We love you both. I sincerely hope you BOTH know this.
BW, 54 WH 53 When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 5:15 PM on Thursday, March 15th, 2018
Millions of hugs to both of you.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
Deejay523 ( member #54468) posted at 7:21 PM on Thursday, March 15th, 2018
(((Prayers for you both)))
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 7:38 PM on Thursday, March 15th, 2018
I just saw this... Wool94 said it perfectly for me:
(((MrsWalloped & Walloped)))
I'm a big fan of the both of you. It takes extreme courage for her to come on here like she does.
Keep taking care of each other.
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
paboy ( member #59482) posted at 8:41 PM on Friday, March 16th, 2018
whew..
Firstly, I am a great admirer of both you and your wife, and how you both have responded to the terrible ordeal(s) that you both have had to endure.
I was concerned with your wife's posts in Wayward. I cautioned her that she was being too open and candid, and that it may allow adverse feelings out. I was genuinely worried about her.
My talk to her was to cut back her involvements on SI, and concentrate back on herself, you and your marriage, and the family. To ensure that your families recovery was as successful as it could possibly be.
My impressions of her is that she is a beautiful person both internally and externally. However, she thinks she wears a cape, and has her undies on the outside, and is forever concerned and too helpful in helping others.
Hopefully this current incident has been a good wake up call for her.
Looking forward to many happy years for both of you.
And give your wife a good hug from all of us.
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