Tred ( member #34086) posted at 3:43 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
DS - thanks so much for the update. You are a strong, beautiful woman. Body hair is just an accessory 
. You and MH are constantly in our thoughts. Stay positive, you have such an amazing spirit.
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 4:08 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
Eyebrows are overrated
Think of it this way, no plucking, no shaving, money saving on shampoo, conditioner and what not.
I really can't see how not having any hair will impact your beauty.
Prayers and mojo for positive results from your new treatment plan.
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 4:58 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
Praying for you. Sending mojo and hugs and much love. You are beautiful and amazing!
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 5:27 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
Praying for you and MH every day.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 5:55 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
I'm going to be ugly...I just know it.
Never, in a million years, would this ever be possible. You are one of the most beautiful people I've ever known, inside and out. None of this will ever change that.
(((hugs)))
ETA....and remember, I'm just down the road if you guys need anything at all. I'm always here for you both.
[This message edited by lieshurt at 12:09 PM, July 10th (Sunday)]
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
JM72 ( member #50760) posted at 5:56 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
Count me amongst the thousands keeping you in their prayers.
You got this!!
Me - BS (43)
Her - the Princess (AKA "the victim") (44)
Married 25 years, together 27
Dday - January 2016
DS - 25, DS - 18, DD - 16, DD - 13
Divorcing - To thy own self be true
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:58 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 5:59 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
DS - popping in to say I think of you every time I see this thread bumping around in the forum, even if I don't post.
I'm glad to see that things are going well and your attitude is phenomenal!
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 6:50 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
FUCK ugly. FUCK cancer. AK47 that shit!!!!
((((DS & MH))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
SoHappyNow ( member #8923) posted at 7:35 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
CANCER is ugly. You aren't even in the neighborhood of ugly.
I am holding you in the light, DS.
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
JM72 ( member #50760) posted at 9:24 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2016
I don't get it either. As a guy, I see women marching fresh out of chemo & radiation for breast cancer, or any type of cancer, and all I see are true beautiful survivors, nothing else.
Me - BS (43)
Her - the Princess (AKA "the victim") (44)
Married 25 years, together 27
Dday - January 2016
DS - 25, DS - 18, DD - 16, DD - 13
Divorcing - To thy own self be true
nme1 ( member #44360) posted at 1:06 AM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
You're doing great and I'm still sending you both all my healing mojo.
As for the eyebrows-
Some are born with great eyebrows,
Some achieve great eyebrows,
And some have great eyebrows drawn upon them.
Me: BS
Him: WS
M 16 yrs 2 x DS
D-Day 6th March 2014
trying to smile ( member #9683) posted at 10:18 AM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
Hey beautiful woman, browless, lashless, hairless in general you will always be beautiful. Truly.
You can do this, you ARE doing this. You are strong, brave and beautiful and you will win this war.
((((DS & MH))))
tts
Good Women.
May we know them,
May we be them,
May we raise them.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"so when he finally showed his true colours they proved to be a startling shade of turd".
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:34 PM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
Not ugly, DS. Inner beauty shines. It just does.
Thanks for the update.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 7:55 PM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
(((((((((DS and MH)))))))))
There's no way you'll ever be ugly! I know you may feel that way because you don't look like yourself, as you're used to seeing you in the mirror, but you're a beautiful person- inside and outside- and that will always shine through.
Having said that, there are things you can do like false eyelashes (as long as your Dr. approves because they *can* be an infection risk, but I think you'll probably follow proper hand washing, cleansing of the lashes, and storage, so I don't think that would be an issue for you.) and drawing in your brows or stippling them in with a powder and brow stencil.
"this isn't the end to our story...we have so much more to do"
So we keep pushing through...looking for hope and hanging on to all the positive things in our lives.
This is the truth, so keep holding on to that. 
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 8:04 PM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
I never smoked, but daily radiation apparently caused an area of inflammation/infection in my right lung. They're watching it through quarterly CT scans, but they aren't worried about it because it is a well-known side effect of daily radiation.
I was bald for about 6 months after chemo. Weird thing--my hair grew back CURLY. VERY CURLY. Very strange--mine was always as straight as a stick before.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 8:55 PM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
Weird thing--my hair grew back CURLY. VERY CURLY. Very strange--mine was always as straight as a stick before.
I've seen that happen a lot- texture changes and even color changes. I hope you like your new, curly hair!
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 10:35 PM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
I'm going to be ugly...I just know it.
Not possible - you are a beautiful person, with a beautiful spirit and a beautiful soul. XOXO
Strength to you and MH...
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 11:52 PM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
You can rock the bald look DS. 
Think how cool it might be for summer with no hair?
Seriously, alive is a REALLY good look for you so keep doing whatever you need to do.
Praying for you and MH.
I hate this is part of your journey but I know you are probably encouraging a bunch of other people right along with you. hugs hugs and more hugs
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 12:08 AM on Tuesday, July 12th, 2016
Eyebrows are overrated
Think of it this way, no plucking, no shaving, money saving on shampoo, conditioner and what not.
I really can't see how not having any hair will impact your beauty.
Prayers and mojo for positive results from your new treatment plan.
^^I'm with Ima all the way^^
Hair/shmair - you're beautiful no matter what!! Don't you know that's why God made wigs???
Keep kicking cancer's ASS!!
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
