MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 6:47 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I'm typing through tears. My deepest condolences to you MH. DS was love personified. Like AN, I feel lost.
Fuck you 2016
My Life is Mine!!!!
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
mike7 ( member #38603) posted at 6:50 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
so sorry to hear this. She was such a kind, special person. Take care of yourself MH. You know she would want that. she will be missed
[This message edited by mike7 at 12:51 PM, December 26th (Monday)]
Two grown kids
punky ( member #12233) posted at 6:50 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
MH, my deepest condolences.
People like you and DS are so rare. You both have made a difference to thousands of band-aid hearts over the years and that is so very special.
Sending you prayers.
13 years later...finally healed. Definitely survived and thrived and you can, too.
PlanC ( member #47500) posted at 6:52 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I am very sorry for your loss.
Most folks' memorial is a stone marker and a box of photos. DS' legacy spans helping over 55,000 people and their children and--ultimately their children's children. Her memorial is global, enduring, and active. She left her mark on this world.
BS 50; xWW. 4 children.
DD 1: April 2013, confessed ONS June 2012
DD 2: March 2014, confessed affair August 2012 through March 2013
DD 3: October 2015, involuntarily confessed 5 additional ONS starting August 2014 through November 2014 (manic)
xswimmer ( member #44867) posted at 6:59 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I am so sorry. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
I was privileged to have been able to meet DS in person at a G2G.
She will live on in the hearts of many.
grains ( member #32590) posted at 7:00 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I am truly sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and DS. I thank you both for your service to all of us who suffer. May you both be surrounded by songs of deliverance.
Together 17 years
Marie2792 ( member #44958) posted at 7:00 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I am so sorry to read this today. I have been here a short time compared to others here but I am so grateful to her and you both for this site born of your love for each other and the pain you suffered through together. I know there are no words to comfort you but you are in my thoughts today and prayers and I will be making another donation to this site in her name.
Me: BS,48 (41 at dday)Him: WS, 56 (49 at dday)
Married 27 years, together 30
Dday : 9/9/14 3 week PA
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 7:01 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
You and DS are loved by such a wide circle of people - I feel like a dear person who was such a big part of my life has passed.
Despite the pain that brought me here, I only have memories of joy when I think of you and DS. I loved pictures of your parties, of the pool under construction (and Teddy on his raft!), and of Penny the turtle coming for her strawberry snack. You both showed us all how to live with JOY and grace.
I want to add my hugs, tears, and support, MH.
Requiescat DS in pace.
leapyearbaby ( member #24902) posted at 7:01 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
Words are never enough, but we need to say them anyway. I am so sorry MH. She will be missed....
me BS the Big 6-0!!
him WS 56
married 28 years
ow #1,2 lta on and off since 1995
ow 3 ons summer 2005
2 D, mine from prior marriage, but he raised them
R'ing...probably not....but then again, maybe....
MalibuBayBreeze ( member #52124) posted at 7:02 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
My condolences and sympathy on your loss. Sending prayers and strength to you at this very difficult time.
You have to be phenomenally twisted to tell someone you love them when you don't even respect them enough to be faithful or honest.
Where there is no conscience there are no boundaries.
truthsetmefree ( member #7168) posted at 7:03 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I cannot even formulate words...
I think deep in our spirits there is a question that plaques us throughout our lives: Do I matter?
It starts out early...a question of our worth. But as we evolve - usually as result of pain - that question becomes so much deeper, more global, and more indicative of our intuitive eternal spirit. We want to know that we made a difference by being here...that everything we have done and experienced had not just a purpose...but a specific purpose to make the world better.
I don't think there is any doubt that DS fulfilled that purpose.
It's great when we can step in and protect the environment.
It's wonderful when we can support building wells and providing clean water.
Or we take a yearly mission trip to build homes in third world countries.
These things all matter...and it matters greatly that we live in accordance with our own purpose.
But when you don't just step up but you also step IN...when you come face-to-face with suffering on a daily basis and helping doesn't just become a part of your life but rather instead actually your life....when you show up every single day...although often tired and battle-weary...then you really do live a life that matters.
Big hugs to you, MH. For the life you have lived beside her, the quiet but just as important support for her calling, for living your purpose..and for the emptiness I know you must now feel. When your purpose is such greatness, there is never a sense of having had enough time.... I pray that you feel her close to you every single day.
Hope has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are. ~ Augustine of Hippo
SadMom75 ( member #51609) posted at 7:03 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I am so, so sorry to hear this.
Sending love and peace your way.
"Betray a friend, and you'll often find
you have ruined yourself"
Thissucks5678 ( member #54019) posted at 7:08 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I am so sorry MH. She has touched so many. 😥
“Every test in our life makes us Bitter or Better. Every problem comes to Break Us or Make Us. The choice is ours whether to be Victim or Victor.” - unknown
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 7:15 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
MH, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I am sending strength and MOJO to help you endure.
She will be missed.
(((MH & DS)))
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 7:17 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
There are no words for this.
I am so sorry. She was an amazing woman that touched so many.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Teach8 ( member #36521) posted at 7:18 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I'm so sorry for your loss, MH. Sending prayers your way.
Me: BW. Him: WH. Dday: 4/26/12. TT until 8/15/12 LTA 7 years. Trying to R
cryingdaily ( member #7276) posted at 7:19 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I have no words to describe how sorry I am, MH. She was loved by so many.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 7:20 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
There are no words to express how one feels at a time like this. ((DS)) will be deeply missed.
(((MH)))) one day at a time....grieve, cry, remember and cherish.
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
WalkinOnEggshelz ( Administrator #29447) posted at 7:20 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I've been sitting here, literally for hours trying to come up with the right words. Thank you SI community for saying so eloquently what I wish I could say, but have been unable to formulate in a coherent way.
What I can say is that I am a better person for knowing DS and MH. If I can be half as gracious through any challenge that comes my way, I will consider that a win.
Such a beautiful spirit will continue to shine.
Me: WS late 40’s
Him: BH (HoldingTogether)
D Day: 7/24/2010
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.
UR_AN_IDIOT ( member #18764) posted at 7:22 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
Oh MH. I am so sorry for your loss of such a beautiful human being and your life partner.
And to all of the staff...I know how much you all love and support each other. My biggest hugs and heartfelt love and support is sent your way.
And to all the members who are hurting...
Just ((((((((BIG HUGS))))))) all around.
DS. I loved you. Fly free my sweet, beautiful friend. I will see you on the other side.
Me: BW 56
Married 33 years
DD 31 DS 28