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hexed ( member #19258) posted at 5:33 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

Oh MH I am so so sorry. My eyes are filled with tears. What a gift DS has been to all of us. There just aren't ever words that seem appropriate but we are all with you in spirit right now.

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

posts: 9609   ·   registered: Apr. 24th, 2008
id 7738584

sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:36 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I am so sorry for our loss, and even sorrier for your loss, MH.

I'm so glad I met DS (and you). I loved her sense of humor. I loved her feistiness. I loved the care she showed to us. I loved her queenliness. I loved the way she fought the cancer.

She has a place in my head and heart. I'm not likely to forget her.

I don't want to imagine how great a loss this is for you. You'll survive and thrive, but now is a time to mourn.


fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 5:43 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

((((MH)))) my heart is breaking for you. I am so incredibly sorry.

Thank you so much for allowing us the privilege of visiting DS during the elf party. It means so much to me that I got to see her one more time.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

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TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 5:48 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

Words fail me.

You both remain in my thoughts.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

posts: 5941   ·   registered: Mar. 21st, 2009   ·   location: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
id 7738601

jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 5:49 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I'm so sorry, MH. She is an amazing, inspiring soul. I love you both.

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plainsong ( member #37826) posted at 5:50 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016


I'll never forget how DS's warmth, joyous approach to life and wonderful sense of humor let me move frm deep darkness to laughter the first time we met. She was truly a gift to me and so many others.

Me, fWW
Him, fBH (sisoon)
Dday, 12/22/2010
I use capital letters for emphasis, not yelling.
Reconciled and healing.

posts: 249   ·   registered: Dec. 17th, 2012   ·   location: Chicago area
id 7738604

onlytime ( member #45817) posted at 5:51 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

BF13 and I are very sorry for your loss.


R'd w/ BetterFuture13
T 20+ yrs w/ adult kids 😇 + grands
"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall" ~Nelson Mandela

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MadeOfScars ( member #42231) posted at 5:53 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016


I don't know what else to say other than I am so very sorry. It has been such a privilege and a gift to know both of you, and DS will forever be in all of our hearts. If you need anything at all, please do let us know.

"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” - Steve Maraboli

posts: 3218   ·   registered: Jan. 27th, 2014   ·   location: Texas
id 7738606

sheila0304 ( member #25041) posted at 6:00 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

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id 7738610

smalltowngirl ( member #40) posted at 6:02 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

Another old timer here who rarely is around but knew I needed to post today. DS was a wonderful, wonderful person. We became friends here on SI and we're friends for many years. She was ever so fierce in her love of all of us here and did so much for each of us.

MH - you are in my thoughts and prayers. know that she is with you and wants you to know she's no longer in pain. And she will continue to watch over us and you for the rest of our days.

"Don't do what you can't undo, until you've considered what you can't do once you've done it" ~ King Shrewd, Assassin's Apprentice by Robin Hobb

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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 6:08 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I don't know any other way to be with the people who are grieving with me than to post here. The world is a little less bright today, and I am so sad. MH, thank you for sharing her with us.

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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brokenapart ( member #8309) posted at 6:12 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

MH, I am so very sorry for your loss, and for the loss to everyone who loved her and whose life she made better.

Sending up prayers and love.

me- BS

Divorced & living again.

"Let go or get dragged" - beaner

Life is Good

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id 7738621

SilverEagle ( member #47380) posted at 6:21 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

Just her presence here made the *world* a better place.

It's astonishing, the sheer number of individuals she has impacted positively in such powerful and life altering ways.

We all share, in some small way, in your loss, MH.



Me:58 fBH
Married 24 years,LTA EA/PA
In R... but...
"Amidst the chaos and pains of Life, amazing joys can emerge that jolt us from the myopia of our struggles." Husburned

posts: 734   ·   registered: Mar. 31st, 2015   ·   location: Okay. It's Tampa. Tampa, Florida
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earthangel ( member #44357) posted at 6:22 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

(((MH))) there are no words...

My deepest condolences to you, and your friends here who love you both so much... such a loss xx

Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it’s bad - it's experience.

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tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 6:22 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

Heartbroken today over the loss of someone who changed the lives of so many people while she was here on earth. She will be missed. She had such an impact on my life and I am so sorry for your loss MH.

She will truly be remembered for the good she did for so many others. Fly free DS.

Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB

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id 7738633

authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 6:25 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I feel like a light, literally, went off. DS was a light.

She had a unique, beautiful spirit, filled with joy and wisdom. Words can't convey how much I will miss her. She and I have grown so close over the years. I admire her for more reasons I can list.

My heart is broken. She will be with me forever.

I feel lost. This world is so much better with her in it.


DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 6:26 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I'm so sorry, MH. DS was a beautiful and amazing lady. I feel blessed to have known her, and I can't believe she is gone. (((MH)))

In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

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metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 6:26 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I am completely at a loss for words right now and am so terribly heartbroken. I just wanted you to know MH that we are here for you. You did such an amazing job taking care of her and I am so glad she wasn't afraid or in pain.

Goodbye my sweet friend.

Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 6:36 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

Oh my god, oh NO

MH, my deepest condoleances to you, I am so so very sorry.

Keeping you in my thoughts.

((((MH & DS))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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Vanjo ( member #110) posted at 6:45 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

So sorry to learn of DS passing. Especially for you MH.

DS was the first person to reach out to me ..... before SI.

Wonderful human being.

..negative people beat cancer also..

SI was where I finally found people who understood.

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