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nowiknow23 ( Member #33226) posted at 7:22 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I can't begin to put into words the loss I feel with my sweet friend's passing or for the heartbreak I carry for you, MH, and your family.

DS was a light to so many who knew her, whether IRL or in our virtual home here. She was a great soul.

When great trees fall,

rocks on distant hills shudder,

lions hunker down

in tall grasses,

and even elephants

lumber after safety.

When great trees fall

in forests,

small things recoil into silence,

their senses

eroded beyond fear.

When great souls die,

the air around us becomes

light, rare, sterile.

We breathe, briefly.

Our eyes, briefly,

see with

a hurtful clarity.

Our memory, suddenly sharpened,

examines,

gnaws on kind words

unsaid,

promised walks

never taken.

Great souls die and

our reality, bound to

them, takes leave of us.

Our souls,

dependent upon their

nurture,

now shrink, wizened.

Our minds, formed

and informed by their

radiance,

fall away.

We are not so much maddened

as reduced to the unutterable ignorance

of dark, cold

caves.

And when great souls die,

after a period peace blooms,

slowly and always

irregularly. Spaces fill

with a kind of

soothing electric vibration.

Our senses, restored, never

to be the same, whisper to us.

They existed. They existed.

We can be. Be and be

better. For they existed.”

― Maya Angelou

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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SoLongSam ( New Member #40712) posted at 7:24 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I am so sorry MH.

Fly beautiful soul DS - you are so loved. ❤️

DD 2013
In R

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JanetS ( Member #2766) posted at 7:26 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

So very sorry to read this sad news. Last picture of her in her bed, at home, was so heart-warming. She passed away where she loved to be.

MH take good care of yourself. You are a good man, that is evident.

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Must Survive ( Member #34533) posted at 7:31 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

MH,

I have no words that can take the pain and grief away. But I send you my prayers and love.

I never met either of you irl, but I feel as though I know both DS and your strength and that will serve you well.

If it wasn't for the both of you and this site, I doubt I would be alive, so I have always thought you were both angels. DS just got her official wings.

Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen

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Jen ( Member #26584) posted at 7:31 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

So many, so far & wide have been touched by her kindness, since of humor, and profound compassion. What a legacy, the # is unknown how far her help/healing reached. Her ripple affect will be felt for generations. I am truly honored and humbled to have had the chance to talk with her, laugh & cry. I still send people to this site, because of how I felt when I joined, how it's helped me. I may not post anymore, or rarely, what I learned here never leaves me. I pay it forward every chance I get.

(((MH & loved ones)))

Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah

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Kajem ( Member #36134) posted at 7:34 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

MH,

I'm so very sorry for the loss of DS. She was one of the lightbearers of this world. It's a little dimmer without her.

Hugs,

K

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Pentup ( Member #20563) posted at 7:36 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I have no words (((((((((MH))))))))))))

Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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wildbananas ( Member #10552) posted at 7:37 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I am so very saddened to read this and have no words.

RIP DS. What an amazing legacy you leave.

(((MH)))

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Shockedmom ( Member #44708) posted at 7:37 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I am so sorry for your loss MH.

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cantaccept ( Member #37451) posted at 7:39 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I am so very sorry for your loss MH. Words fail me. Just so very sorry.

"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie

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suckstobeme ( Member #30853) posted at 7:40 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I'm so very sorry.

BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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ThoughtIKnewYa ( Member #18449) posted at 7:40 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

(((MH)))

I'm so very sorry to hear this. I don't even know what to say.

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suckstobeme ( Member #30853) posted at 7:41 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I'm so very sorry.

BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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HeavyE ( Member #19333) posted at 7:47 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I am so sorry MH. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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NaiveAgain ( Member #20849) posted at 7:58 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I hadn't posted here much lately but I did keep coming back here to check on DS. I'm still in shock even though I found out this morning. I just didn't think God would take another Angel...especially one so needed here. She worked so hard here and believed so much in what she did....she put her entire heart into her work here. What a great lady.

And I also wanted to say she was so very kind to me....every time we PM'd...she was so sweet, so encouraging....I would think she was so busy with the thousands and thousands here she had to deal with but she always knew who I was and what I was posting about and always was so encouraging to me. Some of her words will stay with me always and meant so much to me.

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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DelicateLikeU ( Member #45777) posted at 8:00 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

So deeply sorry for your loss MH My love and thoughts are with you and your family.

You will be so dearly missed DS Rest easy, fly free.

Me: BS DDay: 02/18/2014
Him: WS Double Betrayal Affair for 3 years

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Sad in AZ ( Member #24239) posted at 8:00 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I want to wrap all of you in my arms; the pain is almost unbearable. DS will always be in my heart, as will you MH. I just found this little story, and I think it's fitting:

A disciple asks the rebbe: “Why does Torah tell us to ‘place these words upon your hearts’? Why does it not tell us to place these holy words in our hearts?” The rebbe answers: “It is because as we are, our hearts are closed, and we cannot place the holy words in our hearts. So we place them on top of our hearts. And there they stay until, one day, the heart breaks and the words fall in.” — Hasidic tale

We need something to fill our hearts today.

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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HappilyUnMarried ( Member #21299) posted at 8:00 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I'm so sorry MH. I met you both during a g2g many years ago. She was a wonderful lady.

True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

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wonderingbull ( Member #14833) posted at 8:02 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

The sun's a little less bright today...

The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor

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Williesmom ( Member #22870) posted at 8:04 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016

I'm so sorry.

I don't think that I would have made it without you both and SI.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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