True happiness comes from within, not from someone else. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy
DDay 14 years ago!
Every year or two I like to come back to this awesome, but often sad site I frequented for years and years. From a tearful JFO’er who didn’t listen, just wanted to hold on to my hope, to talking about Bob, my battery operated boyfriend in New Beginnings. This site helped me get past this terrible time. I met members IRL who Really understood what I was going though and there some of the most wonderful, careing people I have ever met. I remain friends with many today.. I was in constant pain, though, and my adrenaline was pumping. Here’s my lesson for you today:
Lesson 1. No way around it. You will be changed by this “event” in your life. Some changes will be good. Some, not so good. But you will change . Embrace changes. Figure who you are and what you like to do. Regardless that you are in R or not, you will still change. And some change is is good. Embrace the changes. Join book club, play tennis, start hiking, take art classes, get messages. Make this time about you and try t turn your love/hate into indifference. It took my 8 months. The healing library here has best advice... like the 180. I could never keep it up for long, but many did. If I listened, and did the 180, I don’t know if we would still be together today, but it would have been easier. I let my emotions rule me, not my head.
Right now, many of you were like I was: scared of the unknown, rejected, confidence lost, Couldn't’ sleep, couldn’t eat, couldn’t groom., I told a couple of friends about my WH, but I think they just did not understand, or I was wearing them down. I cried. I screamed. I threw things.
I learned surveillance. Capturing him In the.act. Credit card a and phone receipts. Early GPS.. flights taken with with the OW. I didn’t want to be with someone I could trust.
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