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SI quote thread- Vol 14

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Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 5:00 PM on Thursday, October 8th, 2020

A peom by Mickie500

Faithful (Tears)

My tears are faithful

They never leave me wanting

Whenever I summon them

They come prepared

They fill Up my eyes

And if it is safe, they sprint down my face In a maddening rush

Gather at my chin

then they leap off

and land gently on my blouse

My tears are dependable

They lie in wait

Ready to release me

(If only for a moment)

Sometimes they summon

My gut to engage

if they need the reinforcement of sound

that can only come from the pit of my stomach

My tears are created in my gut and yet they have my back

Sometimes they take center stage and silence everything In my body

They subpoena my nerves, cells, and bones

And like a conductor they hold everything in suspension

Until they decide to move in silence

And they gently cascade from my eyes

so tender, that sometimes

I’m unaware that they have been there for me

That they have been delivering me from a silent pain that needed to be liberated

My tears never run out

They remain

in joy and pain

They don’t question- they sequester

they don’t ponder- they don’t fester

They don’t resent- they present

They don’t fluctuate-they alleviate

They don’t switch up- they show up

every time

They are faithful

Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022

"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:45 PM on Thursday, November 19th, 2020

From underserving:

The thing is, I know I’d be ok without him. It’s the being ok WITH him that is taking work....

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:29 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2020

From HouseOfPlane:

...we all live an arranged marriage. In my case, it was arranged by two hormone-fueled 20-somethings who had no clue about anything.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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AnnieOakley ( member #13332) posted at 5:58 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2020

From Karmafan re: a thread on profound loneliness.

Boom 💥!!

Every day I think of re-joining a dating app, to numb the pain, the hollowness, but then I remember why I am doing this and I push through. Because I want to get to a place of self-love, where a relationship feels like a choice and not a last chance saloon.

Me= BSHim=xWH (did the work & became the man I always thought he was, but it was too late)M=23+,T=27+dday=7/06, 8/09 (pics at a work function), 11/09 VAR, 6/12 Sep'd, 10/14 Divorced."If you are going through hell, keep going."

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Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 4:15 PM on Monday, March 1st, 2021

From Buffer

Most of all she will expect you to change for her unicorn fart land mind palace.

I've been laughing out loud for a while just trying to visualize what this palace might look like and all the while feeling certain that NTV might have the blue prints.

Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022

"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown

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grubs ( member #77165) posted at 1:34 AM on Friday, March 19th, 2021

Healthy adults don't solve their problems with other people's genitals.


ChamomileTea

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BentandBroken ( member #72519) posted at 5:54 PM on Thursday, March 25th, 2021

From HeHadADoubleLife

I think many of us have come to find out that our spouses who we thought were real, authentic, self-actualized people were not much more than a bunch of maladaptive coping mechanisms stacked on top of each other wearing a trench coat

20+ year relationship; Never officially married
Dday November 2019
4 wonderful grown children
WH multiple APs, currently involved with married COW
Kicked him out on Dday and that was that

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LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 1:59 AM on Tuesday, March 30th, 2021

Newlifeisgreat posted 3/29/2021 19:26 PM

Dear God!!!!

There are fewer red flags in China!!!

September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:07 PM on Sunday, April 11th, 2021

From Jorge, and it doesn't matter what thread it comes from, because it fits in multitudes of contexts:

I appreciate the fact that she had a rough childhood but it shouldn't come at the expense of you having a rough adulthood.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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foreverlabeled ( member #52070) posted at 1:16 AM on Sunday, May 9th, 2021

You can bullshit yourself, you can bullshit your OW, and your can bullshit your wife, but you have to wake up pretty early in the morning to bullshit SI.

Thank you Bluerthanblue

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Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 8:45 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021

(bump to unlock)

Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022

"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 10:43 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021

From gmc94

Mowing the lawn can become it's own form of therapy... think of the grass as tiny cheater penises you are cutting off!

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:44 PM on Saturday, December 4th, 2021

From MIgander, writing about WSes reaping what they sow:

Eventually she's going to be left with her least favorite person- herself. Really, that's the best revenge....

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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Tanner ( member #72235) posted at 4:46 AM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

From Chaos in a thread about Karma in general. It’s not a direct quote because she added personal comment to OP. It has helped me in so many situations. Again adjusted slightly.

The view from the high road is spectacular

Thanks Chaos!

Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R
BH M 31 years

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 7:08 PM on Tuesday, January 11th, 2022

From thisisfine on a reconciliation thread relating to sex:

If he is going to be selfish all day, he can have himself at night.

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Back at it again- bantering w the younger woman. Lied about blocking phone calls and deleted texts. Carried on with her. Financial infidelity again- who says you only cheat with lovers?

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leafields ( member #63517) posted at 2:40 PM on Friday, January 14th, 2022

From RealityBlows in General, under Compartmentalize the A. Great description of Unicorn Fart Land vs. Reality:

That alternate reality they create (The Affair Bubble) conveniently shields them from their conscience and creates a wonderfully romantic, although morally ambiguous, environment complete with soft focus, glamour glow, cinematic slow motion, key lighting, and background music from Des'ree or Pink Mountain Tops set in an illicit, dark, fatalistic, forbidden fruit noir and where your AP looks like Kevin Costner or Diane Lane.

And then they come home to us, Le chateau of deferred maintenance, screaming kids, bills on the counter, and meatloaf-again.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:28 AM on Saturday, February 12th, 2022

I'm not sure I'm laughing at this, but plainsong said this, just after watching a TV commercial:

'I don't know how I'm going to live another 20 years with the way they're murdering our language.'

Really, commercials get more illiterate every year....

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 6:04 PM on Monday, February 14th, 2022

From freetogonow in D/S thread, just beautiful:

I was not dumped. It’s that God hid my value and worth from my ex, because my ex was not part of His future plans for me.

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Back at it again- bantering w the younger woman. Lied about blocking phone calls and deleted texts. Carried on with her. Financial infidelity again- who says you only cheat with lovers?

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 3:04 PM on Monday, February 21st, 2022

I know it's been said before, but I still love it. Applies to both BS's looking back on divorce and WS's looking back at AP's:

Ya know what, the grass is only greener over the septic tank.

Thanks PBguy!

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Back at it again- bantering w the younger woman. Lied about blocking phone calls and deleted texts. Carried on with her. Financial infidelity again- who says you only cheat with lovers?

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 1:25 PM on Tuesday, March 29th, 2022

From annb...in the General Forum...about Trickle Truth:

The affair stabbed us in the back, the TT was twisting the knife over and over and over keeping us bleeding and bleeding in pain.

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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