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SI quote thread- Vol 14

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ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 8:46 PM on Monday, May 9th, 2022

This is painful...and the first year with seeing her new patterns can feel like the unending fuckening. Remember that this is ornamental and not functional...kinda like a Kentucky Derby hat.

A gem from Funnelcakes, mined in the Divorce/Separation forum. smile

{edited to BOLD the author}

[This message edited by SI Staff at 8:49 PM, Monday, May 9th]

BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs)
Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 8

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 4:24 PM on Saturday, June 18th, 2022

I was able to drive home ok, I’m so sore, and swollen in the face, but my junk has recovered 😀 Told my W, heart and lungs, meh. But when the junk isn’t right "Call 911!!!’"🤣

laugh laugh laugh

From Tanner in the Off Topic Forum...talking about an allergic reaction to a bee sting in his thread titled I Had a Health Scare today.

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 2:00 PM on Tuesday, June 21st, 2022

Dr. Phil said he tried to work with NPD patients, but it was above his pay grade. laugh

From the D forum- once a narc, always a narc.

Thanks leafields!

[This message edited by MIgander at 2:00 PM, Tuesday, June 21st]

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Back at it again- bantering w the younger woman. Lied about blocking phone calls and deleted texts. Carried on with her. Financial infidelity again- who says you only cheat with lovers?

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 8:27 PM on Tuesday, June 21st, 2022

I... politely tell them that I don't need their diagnosis, I just need them to tell me the behavior and the events.

... I tell them that some people are, in fact, merely married to common assholes.

Thanks Wiseoldfool! In General about narcs.

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Back at it again- bantering w the younger woman. Lied about blocking phone calls and deleted texts. Carried on with her. Financial infidelity again- who says you only cheat with lovers?

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 3:01 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2022

If he wants to hoard his secret life like it's a box of treasure instead of a shit filled cesspool, I can't change that, but I can change what I do while he continues to lie.

From Sigyn in JFO.

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Back at it again- bantering w the younger woman. Lied about blocking phone calls and deleted texts. Carried on with her. Financial infidelity again- who says you only cheat with lovers?

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:01 PM on Thursday, October 6th, 2022

I've been married for nearly forty and I can tell you that adultery is not a good starting point.

ChamomileTea in LostandStuck's WH says he still has feelings for AP thread

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:45 PM on Wednesday, October 19th, 2022

Innocent notions like "100% trust" and "true love" are replaced by the fact that you can never really know anyone's heart but your own - and even that's not assured.

So very true, IMO.

Seeking2Forgivr in https://survivinginfidelity.com/topics/658475/not-feeling-it-after-wh-now-wants-to-reconcile/

[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:53 PM, Wednesday, October 19th]

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 4:53 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

I too am totally fucking aware that life is short and death awaits us all, and yet somehow I’ve managed not to carpet bomb the most meaningful relationship in my life by sucking my colleague’s dick.

A very apt quote from Grieving in the General Forum grin !!

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 6:37 PM on Friday, December 2nd, 2022

Infidelity is a want, never a NEED.

From Oldwounds in the General Forum.

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

posts: 6442   ·   registered: Oct. 2nd, 2014   ·   location: Southeastern United States
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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 4:49 AM on Saturday, December 17th, 2022

From Catwoman in OT:

Happiness is indeed what you make it. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade and don't forget to throw a little vodka in it.

I'm going to remember this every time I find myself drinking margaritas with my girlfriends.

My bday is coming up and Mexican food, margaritas and chocolate cake are a thing.

Aren't margaritas just limeade with tequila?

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Back at it again- bantering w the younger woman. Lied about blocking phone calls and deleted texts. Carried on with her. Financial infidelity again- who says you only cheat with lovers?

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emergent8 ( Guide #58189) posted at 5:49 PM on Wednesday, January 18th, 2023

Point being - WORDS are CHEAP. Anyone can say words. A PARROT can say words. ACTIONS are where it's at.

From EllieKMAS in general, proving yet again why she's one of my favourite posters.

Me: BS. Him: WS. Together 16 years.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
5 years (and two kids) into R. Happy.

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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 7:42 PM on Wednesday, January 25th, 2023

From emergent8 in General under What made you the villain?

Ah yes, blowjobs in the bushes, the lesser known SIXTH love language.

laugh

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BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:03 PM on Friday, January 27th, 2023

"You can't help who you fall in love with" ... - you sure as Hell can help what you do about it.

Pithy words of wisdom from Chaos.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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BraveSirRobin ( Moderator #69242) posted at 5:00 PM on Saturday, January 28th, 2023

I cannot imagine having healed without the sense of righteousness. Righteousness powered me through a lot of difficult times.

emergent8, on why she rejected the idea of a revenge affair

WW/BW

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emergent8 ( Guide #58189) posted at 7:01 PM on Friday, March 10th, 2023

Part of recovery, if not MOST of recovery, is about rebuilding our own self-reliance. It's not enough that the WS learns to self-validate. We have to learn it too. The goal has to be two healthy people choosing to be together, rather than two needy people choosing not to be apart, right?

ChamomileTea, on the BS's need for emotional self-reliance.

Me: BS. Him: WS. Together 16 years.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
5 years (and two kids) into R. Happy.

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