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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 10:48 PM on Wednesday, December 15th, 2021

So.

My dad was transferred to the larger hospital yesterday evening. Today tests revealed he has bone cancer. He will be getting dialysis and then chemo.

Doctor feels he is a good candidate for this treatment to work, however if it doesn't we are looking at 2-3 months max...

Merry fucking Christmas crying

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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Tanner ( member #72235) posted at 10:59 PM on Wednesday, December 15th, 2021

Oh no I’m so sorry to read this. Prayers your way

Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R
BH 55 WW 48 M 31 years, 4 kids 2 grown 2 grandkids

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 11:35 PM on Wednesday, December 15th, 2021

Thank you.

I knew it wasn't good news when my brother called to say the doctor wanted to talk to my mom and dad together.

Its hard to think he has cancer when hes been a damn bull all his life. So strong, and stubborn.

All we can do is hope the dialysis and chemo gets him better.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 12:39 AM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

I'm so sorry it wasn't better news Dragn.

Sending you prayers and hugs.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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jadedangel ( member #26979) posted at 12:55 AM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

I'm so sorry DragnHeart.

Divorced 2007.
EXWH died 2011
Remarried 2018!

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BraveSirRobin ( Guide #69242) posted at 2:43 AM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

Oh, Dragn, what awful news. sad

Stubbornness is an asset in a big fight, so I bet it will help him kick cancer's ass.

WW/BW

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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 8:26 AM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

Dragon, prayers to you and your family.

BS Fwh

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WalkinOnEggshelz ( Administrator #29447) posted at 11:53 AM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

Dragn, I’m so sorry.

I lost my mom to cancer last year and it just sucks.

Fuck Cancer!

Me: WS late 40’s
Him: BH (HoldingTogether)
D Day: 7/24/2010
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 1:30 PM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

Thank you all.

Fuck cancer is right!

Its a total shock!

With everything that happened with my mom we worried she would pass long before he did. Now this.

And whats weird is that ALL the men in my family have passed before the woman. All of them. All of my uncles. My grandfathers.

I contacted my one cousin yesterday. Her father passed of cancer last year.

I haven't told my kids yet. They know Papa is in the hospital but don't know about the cancer.

And while wh is trying to be supportive i just want him to stay away from me.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:30 PM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

((((Drgn))))

That sucks. Has he been in pain? Or is he just so stubborn he refuses to feel it.
Take care, make sure you are being kind to yourself during this time too.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 22 & 25
Married for 30 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 2:51 PM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

Oh Dragn, I'm so sorry. I hope the treatment is successful. Hugs to you all!

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 3:47 PM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

That's awful DH. I hope you guys are able to band together and comfort each other during the holidays. Cancer sucks. Hopefully your dad has good success with the chemo and goes into remission. I will keep you guys in my prayers.

WW Dday July 2019

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:13 PM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

Cancer bites. Sending mojo that he beats it. (((DragnHeart)))

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 7:21 PM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

I am so very sorry. Like Tush says, don't forget to take care of yourself.

"Because I deserve better"

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 7:29 PM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021

Has he been in pain? Or is he just so stubborn he refuses to feel it.

The main problem he has had over thr past few years is his lungs. Doctor said he had asthma. He developed breathing problems after having worked at the egg farm.

He has always had sore/painful legs. He had them crushed by a huge roll of paper when he worked at the printing company eons ago. So him saying his legs hurt was not a new thing.

My mom gave me the extension to his room so i coukd call him. Spoke for about 30 minutes before the nurse came to get him. Only now they are putting in a shunt for dialysis. Can they take any longer to get this shit going... mad

He sounds awful. He says its hard to eat because everything tastes bad.

He didnt mention anything about the cancer. Just that his kidneys arent working. Not sure if hes in denial about that or doesnt think i already know.

My mom isnt sleeping like she should. My brothers are making sure shes eating and drinking. Shes got thr year end financial shit for the court stuff for my aunt since she is court appointed care taker, whatever its called. Luckily she has all thr required paperwoek organized and is just waiting on bank statements. So she is extra stressed.

Ive got shit going on here that has left me feeling like im spinning. My brother is in total shambles, just a wreck that i worry he will do something stupid.

Ugh!

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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plainsong ( member #37826) posted at 1:08 AM on Friday, December 17th, 2021

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through this - and so glad your father is finally in a hospital with the resources he needs. It's so difficult to deal with stubborn family and slow/incompetent medical systems. I hope that the doctor has finally come up with an accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment plan, and that his positive view about your dad's ability to respond is correct. Sending love and support to you all.

Me, fWW
Him, fBH (sisoon)
Dday, 12/22/2010
I use capital letters for emphasis, not yelling.
Reconciled and healing.

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Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 3:35 AM on Friday, December 17th, 2021

Oh Dragn,

Sorry that I'm just seeing this. I'm sooooooo sorry! crying Definitely sending prayers for your Dad, you, and your family.

"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 3:14 PM on Friday, December 17th, 2021

I haven't heard anything today yet.

I have to go out to do grocery shopping and pick up the last of the Christmas gifts and I'm just not in the mood.

Im trying to keep it together for the kids and stay all happy but all i want to do is crawl into bed.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 10:03 PM on Saturday, December 18th, 2021

My brothers were able to go see dad, one at a time. The first brother got us on a video call so dad and i could see and talk to each other. All my kids were able to say hi too.

Dad has had three rounds of dialysis and goes for a bone biopsy Monday. He has colour but still looks worn out. Also his voice isnt what it was.

It was nice to speak with him and i think he enjoyed it as well.

Heres hoping he can be home for Christmas.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 8:37 PM on Sunday, December 19th, 2021

I'm really sorry, what awful news. You and your dad are in my thoughts and prayers

Me - 50 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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