Goddamnit... I had a whole post typed out replying to everyone, but that's gonna have to wait a bit. Just found out DD21 tested positive for Coronavirus. She got the results today, took the test on Friday.
I hadn't seen her in 3 weeks, but I just saw her on Thursday when she came to my place so I could walk her through taking care of the cats while I was out of town. Just my fucking luck! I only saw her for 10 minutes, so I'm hoping all is well. Oh, and she's staying at my house to take care of the cats. So it kind of works out that I'm gone through Saturday because she has a place to isolate. But now I'm going to be up all night doing research on how to disinfect my house when I get back. I was prepared for how to protect myself with travel, I wasn't prepared for this!
Doctor told her to isolate until Monday the 27th, unfortunately I fly back on Saturday the 25th, so we're going to play it by ear, but it's looking like I'm going to drive down and isolate at my parents' house because there is a room at the opposite end of the house from them that has its own bathroom and I can just stay in there with a mini fridge and be fine.
If I do end up testing positive there won't really be a good way of knowing if I was exposed through her or through these damn flights. I don't have a fever, and no symptoms other than my normal allergies which I've had throughout this whole time.
I don't want to expose my parents, but I also feel like flying back and staying in my 1 bedroom apartment where she has been isolating for a week will be like going into the belly of the beast. She's staying on the daybed in the living room, but still. Or maybe there is an airbnb I can stay at for a couple of days, I just don't really have the money for that extra expense to be honest. I already paid a lot of money out of pocket for sanitizing and safety gear for this trip.
Oh and LA is on the brink of going back to stay-at-home orders, so the other job I had lined up is about to get shut down again... This is going to get interesting!
DD is scared. She was crying on the phone. The doctor reassured her that at her age she should be fine, but I don't blame her for being nervous. How in the hell is the timing that I am out of town for this?? Not that I want to be exposed to it, but shit, I wish I could be there for her. I know her eating issues tend to spiral when she's stressed, so I made sure to emphasize how important it is for her to eat right now to keep her immune system functioning.
The boyfriend is staying with her... the doctor talked to them both over the phone because he was also showing symptoms even though he hadn't been tested, and he basically said that since they share a bed and he has symptoms, he should just treat it as if he has it too, even without the test. I'm not thrilled about the douchebag BF staying at my house, but in a way it works out that she has someone there with her. Even if he is a total tool.
Yet another reason I'm pissed at my XH for his shenanigans... if he hadn't blown everything up I guarantee we would all still be living together, she wouldn't be spending nearly as much time with this dipshit, and this would be a much different situation.
I intentionally didn't buy any groceries before I left because I knew I was going to be gone for a week and didn't want things to go bad. So now they're both infected and can't go to the store! I told her to go through the cupboards and make an inventory of what I have, then make a list of basics that they really need and we can place an Amazon Fresh order or something.
And I thought finding an infidelity book on my mom's desk at my parents' house this weekend was going to be the big news I needed to process ... I didn't even ask her about it, I didn't want to have such a potentially life-altering discussion about my Dad's infidelity right before I had to make my trip. I mean, I'm assuming it was my Dad cheating on her, but he has been so physically ill over the last 2 years I didn't think it would even be possible. He has to use a walker, a CPAP machine, sleeps in a hospital bed etc. My mom is basically his full time caretaker, getting him to and from all of his doctors' appointments and surgeries etc. I thought maybe she was buying a book to educate herself on how to help me with my stuff, but a) we're way too far out from my DDay for that, and b) the title doesn't really make sense for someone who is divorcing. It's "infidelity | The Best Worst Thing That Could Happen To Your Marriage - The Complete Guide on How To Heal From Affairs... sounds to me more like someone actively trying to reconcile. Also sounds apologist if I'm just going based off the title.
Uggggghhhhhh can 2020 be over yet?