Deeply Scared (original poster administrator #2) posted at 12:07 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
My doctor called on April 1st to let me know that the biopsy I had done 3 days prior is cancer. I went in for several scans and various blood tests and my current condition is at a stage 3 due to it being in my lymph nodes. I start radiation and chemo this week... radiation will be 5 days a week for 5 weeks and chemo will be 1 day a week for 5 weeks.
I never miss my annual wellness visit and mine was as recently as this past December. My pelvic exam was completely normal. In January I found a lump while showering, I waited a couple weeks to see if it would go away and when it didn’t I went to my GYN. At that time he thought it was possibly an ingrown hair or maybe a cyst and put me on an antibiotic. When it didn’t go away but continued to get bigger, that’s when we went ahead with a biopsy.
I have to question just what the hell we women even bother going to yearly pelvic exams when nothing showed up just 4 months ago.
We have been trying to wrap our minds around all of this. I go from feeling extremely sad to having a huge amount of hope and feeling like I can conquer it. Which I hope I can. In my favor is the fact that I’m extremely healthy outside of this. No medications or heart disease or high blood pressure, etc.
I’m thankful for an incredibly gifted oncologist and living in a city that most people come from all over the world to be treated for cancer. We also have an amazing healthcare plan, which of course is a huge relief to us on the financial side of things.
I’ve been surrounded by friends and family for the last two weeks... offering love and support and encouraging words and stories of cancer survivors. My bosses and co-workers have been a huge support system...not to mention MH of course. I’m so lucky!!
As my best friend has been saying “DS…we’re gonna AK47 that shit right out of you!”
MH and I would really appreciate any prayers and good wishes from you all. This is a very scary time for us.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 12:13 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
DS--I'm so, so sorry to hear this. All the best to you--and you and MH will be in my prayers. It sounds like you are in the best hands and there is no doubt that tons of good thoughts, prayers and SI mojo is coming your way. Take care of you, I know everyone is pulling for you. That cancer ought to be afraid. Very afraid. Because you are going to kick its ass, no doubt about it.
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 12:14 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
Prayers and mojo DS.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
Lark ( member #43773) posted at 12:15 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
((((Ds and mh))))
Am so sorry, that is very scary. Lots and lots of prayers and thoughts
“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” - Dumbledore
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 12:18 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
Oh my. You bet I'm sending that positive energy your way. Lots and lots of it.
Hang in there honey.
Me-BS-65 in May<BR />HIM-SAFWH-68<BR />I just wanted a normal life.<BR />Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 12:20 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
I'm sending mojo. You and MH are in my thoughts.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 12:22 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
(((DS + MH))) Sending you strength for the weeks ahead.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 12:23 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
((( DS & MH ))))
Tons and tons of mojo.
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:27 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
Sending you lots of prayers and mojo
((DS & MH))
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 12:39 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 12:42 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
Praying, mojo, a million times infinity good thoughts for you and MH.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 12:44 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
DS, you know how to reach me and you know where I work. I can find time to be with you for moral support or lunch during your appointments. Our hospital has the best cafeteria in the medical center...
You can beat this. You're in the right city to get treated for this very wrong disease.
We're all here for you.
Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.
brokenapart ( member #8309) posted at 12:58 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
Sending prayers and healing mojo.
Divorced & living again.
"Let go or get dragged" - beaner
Life is Good
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 1:06 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
Sending my prayers along to you, DS.
Marie2792 ( member #44958) posted at 1:07 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
DS I am sad to hear this. I will be praying for your health and for the support your husband will give you and the guidance of your doctors. Sending you gentle hugs and positive vibes.
Me: BS,48 (41 at dday)Him: WS, 56 (49 at dday)
Married 27 years, together 30
Dday : 9/9/14 3 week PA
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 1:08 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
omg, sweetie. I am at a loss for words. Except, well fuck!
All the mojo and healing thoughts I have are heading your way. You know you and MH have an army of thousands at your back.
If there's anything I can do, please let me know.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
travels ( member #20334) posted at 1:15 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.
"After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed. The other one is already in another relationship."
Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 1:33 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
(((((DS & MH)))))))
I join the others in saying how sorry I am that you are facing this, but am sending all the prayers and healing MOJO I can muster to you while you kick cancer's ass.
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
latebloomer45 ( member #18021) posted at 1:40 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
Oh no DS. I am so sad to hear this.
Sending prayers for healing and peace. FWH had cancer when we lived in Houston, many doctors have said to us "If you have to get cancer, better to live near Houston!"
I hope you both know how loved and appreciated you are.
Me: BS 56
Him: FWS 58
Married 32 years
Son-26 Daughter (Who Came out as trans, so now Son)-23,
D-Day #1 12/11/2007
D-Day #2 5/23/2008 fucking trickle truth!
Whatever Threnody said, I concur.
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 1:42 AM on Monday, April 18th, 2016
DS, I'm so very sorry.
Sending you strength, mojo, and peaceful thoughts as you start the journey through treatment and recovery.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman