Sadlady14 ( member #47265) posted at 7:25 AM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
Unhinged put into words exactly what I was thinking. I am so grateful for this site, for you and everyone here.
Sending you healing, more kick ass mojo, and prayers for you, MH and your medical team.
demolishedinside ( member #47839) posted at 8:16 AM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
I am praying as I read your words. I am so very grateful for all this site has done for me and for your kind words to me through it all. Please keep us posted...and yes, go kick cancer's ass. Prayers to you both.
BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 10:13 AM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
Sign me up for a t-shirt, and go kick cancer's ass!!!
((((DS & MH))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
realitybites ( member #6908) posted at 11:09 AM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
I just saw this, sending out huge <<mojo>> your way. To you and MH, the love you put out to all of us will come back to you 10 fold.
Be strong, stay the course.
Stop expecting loyalty from people who cannot even give you honesty.
He stopped being my husband the first time he cheated. It took me awhile to understand that I was no longer his wife.
FinallyHappy ( member #308) posted at 12:31 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
My beautiful friend,
I saw this thread shortly after you posted it.
I haven't been able to reply until now. Somehow the screen gets blurry and typing is difficult.
At first, I just wanted to send you a PM because I really didn't want to share in public. You probably have several dozen PM's, and knowing you, you will take the time to answer them all in a personal way. So that was out. :) I don't want to add to your burden.
Then I grabbed my billfold out of my handbag, and found that incredibly special little piece of paper.....and that was out. I suppose your phone is ringing off the hook.
All I know is, you are going to beat this shit. I KNOW that! You probably aren't going to kick its ass with an AK. You probably aren't going to kick its ass because you have several thousand people praying for you (as I am). You are going to kick its ass because that's who you are..and who you have always been in the 16/17 years I have known you.
You and MH are going to deal with this, and beat it.
I love you both, and I always will.
"Be civil to all; sociable to many; familiar with few; friend to one; enemy to none." ~Ben~
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 2:51 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
H of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
HouseOfPlane ( member #45739) posted at 3:35 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
As good a time as any to thank you and all the SI team for this forum. I will think of you daily, DS, and I am sending you strength!!!
DDay 1986: R'd, it was hard, hard work.
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?”
― Mary Oliver
JanetS ( member #2766) posted at 4:00 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
I just saw this thread. I am so very sorry. You are a strong woman, and you will fight this with every ounce of your being. You can be victorious. You are fortunate to have the right insurance and the right support system (thousands of people here praying for you no doubt). Fight the fight. Sorry you have to go through this.
psychmom ( member #47498) posted at 5:25 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
Sending prayers and a wealth of good wishes to you for positive outcomes and a full recovery, DS. How can you not beat the sh*t out of this with all of the positive energy and love coming your way from your friends just here at SI?
Strength and prayers to you and MH!
BS (me); fWH (both 50+; married 20 yr at the time; 2 DD
DDay 1- 9/13/2014 (EA)- 3+ yrs
DDay 2- 10/24/2014(PA2)-July'14-Sept'14
DDay 3- 11/12/2014(PA1)-Oct-Feb '14
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 5:35 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
Aaww sweetie...I just saw this! (((((hugs))))
I am strong. I'm going to win this battle and I'm going to have a long life with MH and was travel around in our motorhome with 3 obnoxious Pomeranians
You are amazingly strong. And when you do visualize....visualize your strong healthy immune system destroying the malfunctioning cells.....
I'm so glad you are in a good area for treatment....the doctor and medical team can make all the difference in the world. Sending tons and tons of positive thoughts, healing energy, and well wishes. Love you guys!
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 5:48 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
Ban that cancer like it was NYJerry
DS...you got this, sweetie. Sending tons of prayers and hugs to you and MH.
Me-56 FWH-58 Married 38 years 9/2/2021 grown daughters-37 & 34 12yo GS,9yo GD&7yo. GD (DD37) and 9yo GD & 5yo GD(DD34). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 7:32 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
I just saw this. DS I am sending you everything I have to help you fight. How I wish there was more I could do. You and MH will be in my thoughts and prayers every day.
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 7:50 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
Great big healing hugs and prayers to you and MH.
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.
Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 8:27 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
Sending you strength, prayers, and positive thoughts.
(((DS & MH)))
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 10:16 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
I am dropping all kinds of expletives over here. Just.... HUGS and I love you guys.
My Life is Mine!!!!
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 10:22 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
Oh DS. I saw this earlier but have felt unable to respond until now. I don't know where I'd be without this site. I don't know where I'd be without you, who saw worth and value in me when I felt I had none left. Unbelievable to see this posted on the same day I suddenly found myself back in that situation again, heartbroken and alone.
I don't have a ton of strength and mojo right now, but I'm sending every iota of it to you. You will beat this. You MUST, because we all need you. The world needs you and a lot more people like you. I wish now more than ever that I'd been able to come to the March G2G, and wrap you up in a big hug. I guess this will have to do:
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 10:28 PM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2016
I am sending you all the prayers, mojo, voodoo to cancer, and anything else I can scrounge up, your way.
I am so sorry you will have to go thru this, but if anyone can it is YOU!
((DS and MH, and family))
Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
welcome14 ( member #26741) posted at 12:23 AM on Wednesday, April 20th, 2016
I, also, was thinking like Unhinged. I know there is always a karma debate on here, but if it is real, you've got a helluva bank account balance built up. Thanks for all you two do and I will add my prayers and mojo. I had level 4 cervical cancer 25 years ago thanks to that which must not be named here, and I am apparently, still ticking. Or at least, still typing. (mojo)
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 12:27 AM on Wednesday, April 20th, 2016
I just saw this and am sending you positive energy and virtual hugs. You can beat this!
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
2timesunfaithful ( member #47670) posted at 12:49 AM on Wednesday, April 20th, 2016
I am sending healing prayers to you and MH. This site has saved lives, and marriages, ours for one. Thank you so much for everything.
Cancer can be beaten, so go whoop some ass, sending mojo.
Me: WH 55 I lied to cover up my deceit.
Her: BW 40's at D-day [BlueIris]
M 22 years | 3 great kids
"A coward dies a thousand times before his death, but the valiant taste of death but once. - Shakespeare