NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 1:02 PM on Monday, May 2nd, 2016
I worry about MH as he is carrying such a huge load all by himself and he's so worried about me and making sure I have everything I need. I keep reminding him that he has a great group of friends he can lean on especially if he has feelings he needs to get out but is afraid of sharing certain things with me.
Cat is right...hospitals usually will have a cancer support group. And of course we are all here for MH also in any way we can help..we are here for both of you ....you guys have been here for us for so many years!
Sending lots of love and prayers and positive energy and extra strength for both of you!
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
amitheow ( member #4691) posted at 4:18 PM on Monday, May 2nd, 2016
You know I'm just down the road ... even if I am quiet on here ... so let me know if you need anything. We moved to Pinehurst so I am even closer than I once was.
Anything you guys need ....
Old Timer, Just here to help
My screen name is: Am I The Ow? - Not Ami the OW.
Because in my situation I didn't know if I was the OW at first or if I was being cheated on. Found I was being cheated on.
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 8:45 PM on Monday, May 2nd, 2016
Thanks for checking in.
Coming back around for continued support. Keeping you and MH in my thoughts.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
okaynow ( member #13813) posted at 5:12 AM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016
Oh DS. I justed popped in and saw your post. You are in good hands and I have faith you're going to come through this with flying colors.
Almost 5 years ago I was also diagnosed with breast cancer. Surgery, chemo, radiation. The uncertainty is scary, but the treatments are not bad, in my opinion.
Love and light coming your way for a rapid, easy and complete healing. <3
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
JanetS ( member #2766) posted at 2:42 PM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016
DS, both of you are in my thoughts. I do believe there is a large component of mind over matter, and that a positive attitude and envisioning the future after cancer can be helpful.
Sounds like MH is right there with you all the way and he'll make sure you get all the rest you need, and will be at your beck and call. I'm sure he feels pretty helpless, and helping you in anyway he can is therapeutic I'm sure.
So hand in hand walk this road KNOWING that you will beat this.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:32 PM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016
(((((DS & MH)))))) You two ARE unstoppable. And total bad asses. Continuing to send love and light your way. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
annanew ( member #43693) posted at 8:06 PM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016
Only just seeing this now.... my thoughts and prayers are with you. Cancer is tough, treatment is tough, but your emotional strength will serve you well.
Single mom to a sweet girl.
plainsong ( member #37826) posted at 12:02 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
Sending healing thoughts to you and MH.
Me, fWW
Him, fBH (sisoon)
Dday, 12/22/2010
I use capital letters for emphasis, not yelling.
Reconciled and healing.
sadcat ( member #8637) posted at 12:28 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
Still thinking of you! My DD played games or listened to music on her phone during chemo. A lot of the patients napped- I approve of a good nap!
Don't be afraid to reach out to your medical team if you have any questions, discomfort, etc. They are there to make it as easy as possible for you and they want to!
((((DS and MH)))))
Never let your fear decide your fate.....AWOLNATION
If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.
clba317 ( member #8803) posted at 12:58 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
BS
DS9,DS5
M 11, D 8/1/05- not soon enough!
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 3:17 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
I'm sorry DS. I am keeping you in my prayers.
Sending you lots of hugs.
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
drowninginsorrow ( member #4545) posted at 8:51 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
((((DS)))) you and MH are in my thoughts daily, love and prayers
Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics
Skibunny ( member #52590) posted at 9:25 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
Wishing you all the best ((DS&MH))
Me: WW, 31, FOO issues, post natal depression, in IC
Him: BH, 31
Met 2004
Married 2011
EA/PA with COW 2015
DD Feb 2016
Deeply Scared (original poster administrator #2) posted at 11:23 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
(((((DIS)))))!!!!!! 
Thank you everyone!!
Today is my 2nd round of chemo...it was supposed to be every Tuesday but I got pushed to today for whatever reason...I didn't care why at that point.
I had mentally prepared myself for battle, praying I don't get sick and can stay strong through the chemo treatments and just like that, they took away my battle cry and moved me for today.
Anyway...today is another day and I'm still here and that's always a good thing!! Unless you're someone that hates me...than it must really piss you off 
I love all the prayers and stories you are sharing with me...thank you all so very much!!!!
[This message edited by SI Staff at 5:23 AM, May 4th (Wednesday)]
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 11:49 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
Keep up that battle cry! You will get through this!
My grandmother made it through Brest cancer, finding out she was diabetic when she went for surgery. She lived a long life despite both. I am 100% positive you'll make it through this. We are all here praying for you. I just wish I could come be with you! You've done so much for all of us.
Lots of hugs for both of you.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 12:35 PM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
DS, they didn't take away your battle cry, they just gave you an extra day to prepare for battle!! An extra day of rest so that today, you will be a little stronger, a little more rested so when you sit in the chair and the IV s hooked to your port, you can start your mantra
I am AK-47ing you cancer! See this drip, it is soldiers coming in to kick your ass. I am strong and I am loved and I have thousands praying for me. I will not be sick, you are not taking one more minute of joy.
Then feel our love pour over you , feel that healing light and mojo pouring over you like a light down blanket, soft and not too hot, not too cool. Snugly and loving and safe. That is us loving you.
(((((DS))))))
[This message edited by Pentup at 6:36 AM, May 4th (Wednesday)]
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 8:43 PM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
Keep hanging in there DS
AK that shit!!
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:56 PM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
I can't imagine what you're going through. My bet is that MH is showing love by helping you, and giving love is very human.
I wish you both the best every day.
(((DS))) & (((MH)))
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 9:55 PM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2016
Sending wishes for a trouble-free day today!
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 12:34 PM on Thursday, May 5th, 2016
Thinking of you sweetie.....
I know we'll get through this together...just like we do everything else. We're unstoppable!!
Hell yeah!
Music is great.....there is a lot of research that shows it can even help heal, so if you do have some favorite music, this is a great time to enjoy it.
(((hugs)))
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
