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SI Prayers/Mojo Request...Cancer


risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 6:37 PM on Thursday, May 5th, 2016

Sending you positive energy!!!!


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id 7548121

Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:40 AM on Friday, May 6th, 2016

Glad that round 2 is over and it went well. DIE, you little bleeping cancer cells, DIE!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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Timetoact ( member #51176) posted at 5:45 AM on Friday, May 6th, 2016


I do not know you but you are a brave brave woman. You know the saying

"When the going gets tough, the tough get going""

So show everyone that you are the toughest lady walking the fucking planet.

Me- BH, 47
Her- WW, 46
Married- 22 yrs
Children- 2 - Both in College
D Day- 1/3/2016

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heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 8:05 AM on Friday, May 6th, 2016

Sending more vibes for healing, soothing, strength, unstoppability, and general mojo too, you know, just because (((DS)))

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

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brooke4 ( member #13581) posted at 3:36 PM on Friday, May 6th, 2016

I just saw this. Sending millions of good thoughts. You're a kickass woman- don't let cancer forget that!

Me: BS, 40, Him: WS 41
Married: 15 years
3 children
D-Day: 10/2005

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id 7548981

dotterofTheKing ( member #45223) posted at 8:41 PM on Saturday, May 7th, 2016

Thinking of you right now (((DS)))! You're gonna get through this, you are so strong and positive. I have two girlfriends who battled breast cancer right after discovering they were betrayed wives. Both had humor like you and they beat it and are going strong 10 years and 8 years after!!!! I wish you weren't going through it though, just so you know. 💗🌺💕

I was BW (48), He was WH (47) at D-day
Together 27 years, married for 24
D-day was August 4, 2014
We have 3 beautiful children. (Two sons 19 and 20, one daughter 14.)
Affair with HS sweetheart.
Divorced January 26, 2016

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ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 10:52 PM on Sunday, May 8th, 2016

I just wanted to stop by and let you know I'm thinking about you.

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Walloped ( member #48852) posted at 2:35 PM on Monday, May 9th, 2016


Just saw this thread.

You are an incredibly strong and courageous woman. You and MH survived infidelity - you picked yourself up and worked through a tremendously dark period, yet you never quit no matter how hard it was, and came out strong and most importantly, you won in the end.

This is a different kind of test, but your battle skills have been honed. If anyone can beat this thing, it's you.

Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.


Me: BH 47
Her: WW 46
DDay 8/3/15
"Every life is a pile of good things and bad things. The good things don’t always soften the bad things, but vice versa the bad things don’t necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant.” - The Doctor

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foundoutlater ( member #32900) posted at 1:54 AM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016


You will be in my prayers. Together you got this. Kick the shit out of it 

Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

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id 7552111

caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 2:36 AM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

DS, pissing off anyone rooting against you is an added bonus when you get well!!

I find myself thinking FTC when I read here, as a twist on the familiar FTG cheer from the divorce posse.

I think of you and MH often. It is a special challenge to be a caregiver, but there are tons of resources out there for that. I hope he will take advantage of them.

You look beautiful. I also imagine you could rock a turban in some lovely silk or other luxurious fabrics.

Sharing strength, peace, and love. -cg

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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HeavyE ( member #19333) posted at 2:48 AM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

You and MH are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Lucky2HaveMe ( member #13333) posted at 1:11 PM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

Thinking of you today. Do you have a treatment today or did pushing you to Wed last week change your treatments to Wednesdays?

Either way - always thinking of you & MH! When we come to TX to visit our DD, we will have to toast with tequila & lime salt!

Love isn't what you say, it's what you do.

posts: 8488   ·   registered: Jan. 18th, 2007   ·   location: WNY
id 7552377

Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 2:28 PM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

Hoping last week went well and you are ready to kick ass this week. Thinking of you and prayers sent.

Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 3:33 PM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

I so rarely look in Off Topic that I just saw this. Prayers and love to you from Florida.

WS - remarried to BH but not in R

D-day 2010

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Sal1995 ( member #39099) posted at 2:51 AM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2016

Just saw this DS, I am so sorry you and MH are dealing with this. I am praying for you both.


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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:04 AM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2016

Just another blip-well, big fucking blip-on the radar, sweetie. I'm glad you have each other. Sending healing thoughts

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 6:44 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2016

Is today round 3? Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

BS-me, 59; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC."So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:47 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2016

Still thinking of you and sending positive thoughts....

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 27296   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 7553929

minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:42 AM on Thursday, May 12th, 2016

Thinking of you and sending prayers.

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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id 7554149

yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 12:59 AM on Thursday, May 12th, 2016

Coming back round for another round of support. Thinking of you and hope you are doing as well as can be.



"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

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