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Confused -- Good questions. I've been rolling everything around in my head all morning.

I have had a decent relationship with his sister. I didn't know she was picking up the girls ahead of time, although it is technically a requirement in our decree that he tell me in advance if someone other than him is picking up our children, so I was caught off guard and did not think to refuse.

Obviously, in hindsight, I wish I would have.

[This message edited by I_Do_Exist at 2:57 PM, December 27th (Tuesday)]

Son of a bitch. I have run out of invectives for that worthless fucker.

((((((IDE and kiddos))))))

I hope to all that's holy that the courts roast him on a spit.

My god (((IDE))) I have no words just a big hug and I hope this monstrous man gets the outcome he deserves!

This asshat is sabotaging his own case for custody. Let your attorney know. Perhaps he should be forced to pay for a travel guardian to escort them on the return flight. I know it is not ideal however they deserve the security of personal care.

I hope his sister understands that his selfish behavior is completely unacceptable.

I am seething for you... I would put his sister on notice (and the rest of his family) that they will NO LONGER be able to play a part in their transportation to and from HIM.

Is there any kind of emergency hearing that can happen for shit like this?

When are they supposed to return? I guess another trip alone??

[This message edited by Hg65 at 5:20 PM, December 27th (Tuesday)]

I wrote xWH's sister asking her if she knew. I asked her if she intentionally played a role in deceiving me and putting my girls on a flight alone without my knowledge. I asked her to confirm that DD8 had her rescue inhaler on the flight. I asked these things because it's altogether possible xWH is lying to her and manipulating her as well.

The sister didn't respond to me. Then xWH texted me a slew of rageful texts to "stop harassing his sister."

[This message edited by I_Do_Exist at 5:39 PM, December 27th (Tuesday)]

So she did know? What a bitch.

And your X has cell phone service enough to text you. You should be able to speak to your DD8 and DD12. If he won't let you, I would be all over that and document that for the courts too.

I am soooooo sorry you are dealing with this. Don't contact his sister again.

I don't have kids so this may sound dumb but is this something you could call the police about?? It just seems way out of what is acceptable.

I have a feeling he deceived his sister.

Hopefully your atty will subpoena her - she isn't going to say she deceived you, she'll probably throw her brother under the bus.

Just breathe. You can get thru this one day at a time.

In my opinion he just slammed the door on any further visitation.

Since the girls didn't want to go, is it kidnapping on the sister?

I mean she left with your kids but put them on a plane when they didn't want to go..,,,

This makes me sick. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

If it were me, I would fly out there to make sure you are on their flight home. I wouldn't ask if he's flying with them or not anymore. Assume he isn't and be on that flight home with your girls. And if he is, so what, it's a free world. I had advice similar to that a few months ago from my lawyer. Don't tell your girls. Maybe ask your layer first.

You don't need to have a decent relationship with his sister anymore. Next time, refuse to allow her to take the kids. If she wants a relationship with your kids she can have one during ex's time.

I'm hoping today you get your children back and it's the last time they ever go anywhere w their dad.

I-do-exist, how are you doing?

Happy New Year IDE, here's hoping that your DDs are very soon in your loving arms and that asswipe's balls get nailed to the wall.

((((IDE & DDs))))

Words fail. I literally can't come up with any other descriptions for the insanity of your EX. Now you know that you can't trust the sister either and it's all hands on deck war with him and his people. I'm so sorry that this has degenerated into such a terrible situation for your kids (and by extension, you). But, if they want a war, give it to them.

So hoping that you are happily reunited with your girls I_D_E,

and that their health and wellbeing is OK.

This must have been a hugely traumatic time for you all.

Hugs, MOB x

It is so nice to log in and find messages expressing concern, love, support, and shared outrage. You guys are the best.

A few quick updates:

My girls are back with me as of 7 a.m. this morning. They seem good and we're all so glad to be back together.

I went to my attorney's office today and reviewed all the paperwork. Our "campaign of shock and awe" begins tomorrow, beginning with a counter-suit for full custody and supervised visitation for xWH, followed by a motion for psychological evaluation of both xWH and OW3. I read the documents and my attorney was extremely thorough and, well, ruthless. I hesitated at the cringe-worthy details for a split second, but then I reminded myself that I am fighting for my children. This process is inherently ruthless, and I can't get squeamish now. I didn't start this fight, but I will finish it. Then I unflinchingly signed those documents.

Today, I feel strong and so grateful to have my two girls under each of my wings.

Well done, lady! Show no mercy.

First and foremost - I'm glad your babies are back home with you. I hope you're all doing well.

Second - I hope your lawyer hands your ex his ass. Preferably in small pieces and gift wrapped in bunches of tiny, delight motifs.

Go get 'em Mama Bear!!