Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 3:53 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
This isn't the way I thought this would go. I'm so shocked and so damn sad. I' am deeply sorry for your loss MH. I don't even know what to say.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 3:54 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
Haven't been on for a week or two. I'm so sorry for your loss. Part of her legacy is all the people who have been helped by this site.
Sending strength and peace.
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 4:01 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
For once I am at a loss for words.
I am so sorry for your immense loss MH.
If it’s any comfort, then try to find solace in that the pain stems from the love and the immense value DS had for you.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
cypher ( member #48834) posted at 4:23 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I'm so very sorry. I can't stop crying. The help and empathy that DeeplyScared gifted to countless is a wonderful legacy. I wish you peace MangledHeart.
WH: Me 3 month EA
BS: Morph
3 Beautiful kids
DDAY 6/09/15
collateraldamage ( member #32546) posted at 4:39 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I'm so sorry for your loss, MH. She was an amazing woman. 
Me:BS (46) Him:WH (46)
Married 20 years/together 26
Two DS 16/14
DD#1 2/1994 (PA) DD#2 1997-2000?? several EA DD#3 2/17/2011 PA 6 months DD#4 7/13/2011 My Space Account (from 20007) looking for casual sex 10/17/2011 DD#1,000,000... new EA
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 4:51 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I am so SO sorry for your loss, MH.
There are no words...
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
welcome14 ( member #26741) posted at 4:58 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
So very sorry for your loss. As many others have said, she and this site literally saved my life. Thank you for sharing her with us. The world will be colder now.....
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Crushed15Feb13 ( member #38846) posted at 5:07 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss, MH.
Didn't think I could tear up anymore. Today was the first time I learned of DS' fight; I just finished the whole thread. I am glad she was able to see one more Christmas, and glad you were so strong for her over the months.
Me: BH, 56
Her: WW, 56 5+ yr LTA
Married 34 yrs, 2 DS
DDay #1: 15Feb13 - OBS phone call
DDay #2: 27Jan14 - TT, length of affair 1.5 yrs longer than admitted.
Trying to understand
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 5:35 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
Oh no - I am so sorry to see this!
I have no doubt DS will STILL be here guiding us, we just need to listen very closely.
Prayers to you!
hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 5:45 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I have no words other than I am so sorry to hear this sad news...
Like others I have not been here in a few days...
When I saw the thread my heart sank....the picture of her in her room with the pooch and lap top was so sweet and she looked so lovely....
take care of yourself MH...she will be with you always ...
you both have helped so many people...
I wish you peace
me-BS him-WS
" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 6:16 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I'm in shocked disbelief...
MH, thank you for taking the time in your grief to let us know. My deepest condolences to you, I'm so very sorry that DS passed away. I don't want to babble on as I'm processing this horrible news, but do want you to know that I care and will have you in my thoughts. DS did so much good in her too-short life.
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 6:32 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
floridaredman ( member #15122) posted at 7:06 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
" floridaredman, it's good to have you here"...DeeplyScared
Sleep Peacefully
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 7:31 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
Wishing you strength and peace during this difficult time (((MH))) and thank you for all your help here. OMG my heart is breaking....
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
Found17 ( new member #54564) posted at 8:52 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I'm so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Sending you lots of prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏
jean ( member #6387) posted at 9:21 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I joined in 2005 I was a wreck and SI and friends I made kept me going. I have not been on for at least a couple of years, so I was shocked when I read on another forum the terrible news.
I am so sad that a wonderful woman who has helped thousands of people has had her life cut short by this filthy disease. I want to sent my deepest sympathy to MH. Thank you for our safe place.
redrock ( member #21538) posted at 9:24 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I am so very sorry.
She was special. I so admired her compassion, empathy and intermittent steel when it was needed.
Add one more to the count of marriages saved by the amazing community you both created.
Sending deepest condolences.
I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)
foundoutlater ( member #32900) posted at 9:31 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
MH I am so sorry for your loss. You two found an amazing way to turn your pain many years ago into this incredible community. It's an legacy that has helped so many and saved a few as well. I doubt any words help today but I hope there is some solace in the near future.
((MH))
Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.
foundoutlater ( member #32900) posted at 9:31 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
MH I am so sorry for your loss. You two found an amazing way to turn your pain many years ago into this incredible community. It's an legacy that has helped so many and saved a few as well. I doubt any words help today but I hope there is some solace in the near future.
((MH))
Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.
WearingTheHorns ( member #37916) posted at 9:56 PM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
MH, I'm absolutely stunned at this. My deepest condolences to you. I know what a treasure DS was to the community and how deeply she will be missed.
Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months
Hoped I'd never have to add this: Dday #2 11/22/2015 Not sure how far it went yet but have a pretty good idea.
2 Cor. 12:9-10
