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 sewardak (original poster member #50617) posted at 3:02 PM on Monday, July 26th, 2021

Went on a girls trip with a couple of friends who are not vaccinated. One developed a cough on our second day and it got progressively worse.

The day after we arrived home she tried to call me but ended up texting me that she tested positive for Covid. I was LIVID (but mad at myself for going too).

I took the test the next day and was negative and have had no symptoms.

The other friend - I have no idea. She is such a bragger about her immune system because she is healthy, etc that I wonder if she would even admit she had it. We were in close quarters the entire time AND I sat next to the one diagnosed with Covid on the plane trip home.

At any rate - I'm seriously re evaluating my friendship with these two. I was so ragey this weekend with anger over their insistance on their personal choice. IT. EFFECTS. ME.

rant over.

friendship over likely too.

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 3:51 PM on Monday, July 26th, 2021

Fingers crossed you remain covid negative.

Bragging about ones immune system is ridiculous.

One of my siblings and her entire large family will not get vaccinated. I am invited to an indoor bridal shower in a few weeks and am contemplating what to do. Numbers are really low where I live but everybody is traveling and will be bringing the highly contagious variant back.

I wish more people would get vaccinated.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:17 PM on Monday, July 26th, 2021

I just don't get it.

The numbers here have basically tripled in a month. Tripled.

My H had to go to MO city that has been on the national news of late due to their Covid numbers, and poor vaccination rates. Guess who felt like shit at the end of the past week, sleeping 10-12 hours a night, low energy, body aches. Thankfully he tested negative, but I put my foot down on any additional travel there in the next month. He has a new employee that needs training. I said make her come here. I'm sure his company will put a travel moratorium this week, as our area has reinstated all mask mandates starting today.

I'm sorry you had to go through that Sewardak - sending mojo you stay well.

BTW in our area 98% of all newly diagnosed cases in our region have not been vac'd, and 99% of all hospitalized cases in our area have not been.

Pretty easy to see that it might be a good idea to get it.

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 sewardak (original poster member #50617) posted at 7:06 PM on Monday, July 26th, 2021

I should have limited this friendship long ago. Our values are just too different.

This kind of brought it to the forefront and I should have known better.

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Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 7:59 PM on Monday, July 26th, 2021

Tush, we are heading in your direction tomorrow. It's an "event" and we can't really skip it. We will be socializing with about 20 people all who are vaccinated with the exception of a tiny baby. I'm nervous, packed extra hand sanitizer and masks.

It's making me angry that some people are so self centered. I get personal freedom. So stay home and keep your germs to yourself.

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AnnieOakley ( member #13332) posted at 8:08 PM on Monday, July 26th, 2021

I’m so sorry you experienced this. I saw two different small (3-5 total) groups of people this weekend that I’ve not seen in over 18 months.

I willingly offered my vax status two+ weeks ago and they confirmed theirs too.

I agree about reconsidering those relationships. I’m responsible for my own health and while I won’t be rude, I will protect myself. Especially if they don’t care enough about me to take precautions.

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 2:57 AM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

It is a big worry, sewardak. I hope you stay negative and symptom free.

Counts have been very low around me but starting climb in the past week, with the Delta variant most of them.

Almost two weeks ago, I went to a get-together of around 20 people, most I have known decades. And I totally disregarded the pandemic's threat in my happiness to finally see everyone. We were all hugging our greetings, standing close and catching up. I am fully vaccinated and I guess I chose to believe they all are, too, without bothering to ask. And I happen to know several of them are skeptics, now that I look back. Just need to wait a few more days to hit the two-week mark to breathe easier, fingers crossed.

I heard since that one who was not there had been to an area that has a large outbreak and tested positive after getting home in spite of having been vaccinated. Only mild symptoms, thankfully, but a definite reminder to take precautions. Please be careful even if vaccinated and if not, GET VACCINATED! or it will develop more and stronger variants.

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Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 4:13 AM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

Oh gosh, i am sorry. I will admit since getting vaxxed i have been more lax in what i do. This is a good reminder to keep masking up and be cautious.

I live in an area where a lot of people are not vaxxed. I dont get it.

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barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 1:26 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

I'm currently in an area where maybe ~40% of the people are fully vaccinated (probably not that high). I went to Costco yesterday and maybe 10% (probably not that high) of the people are wearing masks.

The problem, as I see it, is that large fraction of the people who refuse to get vaccinated also seem to believe that COVID is not that big of a deal.

There has been so much misinformation about this disease that it's very disappointing. And this is not a rant about crazy narratives in the media (e.g., the vaccine a way for Bill Gates to track you using a microchip). Even the CDC and WHO are still making claims that are not supported by actual science (e.g., social distancing by 6 ft is not justified by evidence).

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Marie2792 ( member #44958) posted at 2:03 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

I am in NY and our area has about 57% fully vaccinated. When you see the numbers it’s hard to ignore that the vaccine is responsible for the drop in deaths and hospitalizations. I don’t understand why some people are so adamant about it getting it if their health doesn’t prohibit it. Well I have some ideas but can’t discuss those here.

We are looking at masks again. The problem here is I see no one wearing them at all and they are supposed to be if they aren’t vaccinated. If 60% of the people are vaccinated then 40% should keep masking up. We are 17 months into this crisis and people still aren’t getting it.

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 sewardak (original poster member #50617) posted at 2:32 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

and the 40% who aren't vaccinated and see those signs to mask up are making the choice to lie and ignore the request.

Either you are or you aren't. Which is it. And if you feel so very strongly about it then own it.

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 2:49 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

Last week I knew 4 people in the hospital for COVID. One went home likely still contagious to her unvaccinated husband and one died over the weekend. The third is likely going to be okay and the fourth may be brain-dead. All proudly unvaccinated and not wearing masks.

It's not fun watching this pandemic hit people I disagree with but still care about. I don't like being right when being right means I get to sit back and watch them suffer and die. I'm not hanging out with a lot of people yet because I know so many who don't take COVID seriously at all. I might be fine given that I'm vaccinated, but what if I catch it and spread it to someone who isn't or to someone's child? We were so close to just living normally again, but noooo. Can't have that.

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 4:36 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

I had posted about a therapeutic for positive Covid patients a few months back. Here is the link:

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/topics/653622/monoclonal-antibody-infusion/

I had two couples who were friends of mine that tested positive for Covid last week. I told them about the monoclonal antibody infusion...and all 4 of them went to have it done. One of the husbands said it was like a night and day difference in how he felt...in just one day . One of the wives told me she was ready to go back to work after receiving the infusion because she felt that good!

I don't know WHY these therapeutics aren't being advertised as much...but having Covid doesn't mean you have to go home and wait it out. There are SEVERAL treatments out there...and they WORK .

PLEASE...pass this information on...especially if you know someone who has tested positive for Covid. The monoclonal antibody infusion works best when taken within 10 days of having symptoms. But there are other therapeutics as well for it .

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 sewardak (original poster member #50617) posted at 5:02 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

Devastated: I'm so sorry!

I just found out the other unvaccinated traveling companion went to a large family reunion the day after we found out.

I told her I was done and blocked her. Immature maybe. But, I need some time to grieve the friendship. That was a line crossed for me. I'm sad.

[This message edited by sewardak at 11:05 AM, July 27th (Tuesday)]

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 6:44 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

Yeah, I so understand. I think I'm done with the family member who didn't quarantine herself from her husband after testing positive and who went home from the hospital likely still contagious to be with him. His health isn't great.

I've been done with a cousin since last year when he stopped at a grocery store OTW home from the hospital after getting medication for his very active COVID infection.

I feel you. I've lost some people over this past year because they've shown me too much of who they are.

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J707 ( member #63778) posted at 8:42 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

It almost seems like the people still wearing a mask are the ones vaccinated. The ones that aren't vaccinated at this point thinks it's a hoax or not a big deal.

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AnnieOakley ( member #13332) posted at 6:48 PM on Wednesday, July 28th, 2021

^^^^^this.

I seem to recall I’m fairly close to you J. Our county is 75% fully faxed over the age of 12. A good portion of people still wearing masks in stores, etc. I never stopped. Eating outside, etc.

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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 7:29 PM on Wednesday, July 28th, 2021

Our county is under 50%. When I go grocery shopping, I'm out early & home by 8 am. They're recommending that everybody mask up when indoors at places like grocery stores.

Our church is pushing to get everybody back, but I know there are several anti-vax families from pre-pandemic, so I have few hopes that we have 70% vaccinated.

I'm not willing to go to a place where people are playing Russian Roulette with my health.

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 9:00 PM on Wednesday, July 28th, 2021

My personal favorite thing to send me into rage is immediate family members of someone in the hospital right now dying of COVID posting anti-vaxx propoganda on Facebook. I'm going to mourn my friend and avoid her family. I won't be able to go to her funeral because I won't be around those lunatics and I wouldn't be able to keep from screaming at them and that's just not appropriate.

People are testing all of my patience and empathy lately.

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 sewardak (original poster member #50617) posted at 10:17 PM on Wednesday, July 28th, 2021

I'm not willing to go to a place where people are playing Russian Roulette with my health.

and I can't be friends with someone who thinks this is ok. I actually had to block her on my phone so I don't go off the rails on her.

[This message edited by sewardak at 4:17 PM, July 28th (Wednesday)]

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