Newest Member: Hopingtobreakthrough


Mom and book

I’m doing some memoir writing. I’m starting when I was a 7 year old and modeling it after Little House on the Prairie - that kind of writing, a lot of family involvement, homemaking, etc.
Here’s the rub: My parents divorced when I was 10 and it was messy. My Mom (45 years later) still hates my dad and probably wants us to hate him too. As a 7 year old, I thought highly of my parents and they are glowingly written (for now).
I sent Mom Chapter 2 to read. The only sentence she replied with, "do you have chapter 1?"
Chapter 1 details description about both of my parents. Chapter two just dabbled in it.
She’s only worried about how she and my dad are represented. I want her involved in the writing because she is reminding and telling me about how things were done back then.
But, I can also leave her out of the entire process.
Right now, she’s probably not speaking to me.
This is so ridiculous.

5 comments posted: Friday, October 15th, 2021

house cleaner $$

I've fallen behind and really need help a couple times a month cleaning my house. However, every bid I receive is for $40 an hour. Is this typical? In the midwest? It seems so high to me

7 comments posted: Monday, September 27th, 2021

Covid drama

Went on a girls trip with a couple of friends who are not vaccinated. One developed a cough on our second day and it got progressively worse.

The day after we arrived home she tried to call me but ended up texting me that she tested positive for Covid. I was LIVID (but mad at myself for going too).

I took the test the next day and was negative and have had no symptoms.

The other friend - I have no idea. She is such a bragger about her immune system because she is healthy, etc that I wonder if she would even admit she had it. We were in close quarters the entire time AND I sat next to the one diagnosed with Covid on the plane trip home.

At any rate - I'm seriously re evaluating my friendship with these two. I was so ragey this weekend with anger over their insistance on their personal choice. IT. EFFECTS. ME.

rant over.

friendship over likely too.

43 comments posted: Monday, July 26th, 2021

Talked to DD

After a family vacation where DD was injured in an excursion because of her weight (got stuck and cut in kayak) four of us 6 family members talked to her about her health and how scared we are for her. We suggested to see primary care physician. Our boys (early 30s) sobbed when we talked to her. She’s about 100 lbs overweight.

She was rather shocked, cried, and hasn’t spoken to any of us since.

No idea where to go from here. Hoping we did the right thing.

9 comments posted: Monday, July 12th, 2021

Josh Duggar

arrested by the Feds, for who knows what. I suspect child porn.

However, cheated on his wife with a stripper and beat the crap out of her. Molested his sisters.

I hope he's put away forever.

Wife now pregnant with 7th child.

27 comments posted: Friday, April 30th, 2021

competitiveness and changing myself

I need advice, I'd like to change but dont' know how.

I am a fitness instructor (in addition to having a full time job) and I just get so mad if I don't get the most people in my classes compared to the other instructors. I put a lot of time and effort into planning my classes but some people (less experienced) often get more people than me. I just don't get it. Everyone says my classes are great, I have received some "best class I've ever taken here" comments but nuh.

Its has affected me so much I'm thinking of quitting but I LOVE teaching it and I can get my own workout in for free when I do it.

What can I say to myself so this doesn't bother me so much?

21 comments posted: Wednesday, April 14th, 2021

vacation with adult children

does anyone else do this? we go (and pay for) a family vacation every other year. The kids pay for parts of it - a hotel room here and there, all their own excursions, the rental cars this time - but we pay for most of it as a Christmas gift.

Some ppl think we are spoiling our kids and we shouldn't vacation with them. They could never afford this on their own and are overjoyed and very appreciative of it.

I guess I'm tired of having to defend this decision.

32 comments posted: Monday, March 8th, 2021

Vaccine drama

You guys, where I work, part timers over age 65 -people who CAN choose not to work (substitute teachers) - are being vaccinated before full time teachers. I am livid, as are other full timers.

I wrote and expressed my disappointment with this and got a stern talking to that made no sense from someone higher up. She told me she didn't understand what I objected to and then finally, to take it up with the county health department.

I managed to get a no questions asked initial vaccine on Friday at a local pharmacy (with a scheduled subsequent one) and she then said I shouldn't have done that and she was going to call said pharmacy and tell them they weren't supposed to do that.

[This message edited by sewardak at 7:09 AM, February 14th (Sunday)]

8 comments posted: Sunday, February 14th, 2021

Hilaria Baldwin saga

IS anyone else following this story? So interesting.

6 comments posted: Friday, January 1st, 2021

OW at fitness class

She lives 25 miles away and I see is signed up to attend the same yoga class I desperately want to take today. I really need this class as things have been stressful at work.

I can see who’s attending because I’m also an instructor there.

I don’t know if I should go. It’s been 8 years. But I also caught them red handed and that resulted in a huge trauma for me.

21 comments posted: Sunday, December 13th, 2020

Hrt patch

Due to horrible night sweats I started on the patch (hormone replacement therapy) That brought debilitating headaches (or just stress, I don’t know). I took off the patch for a couple days and Now I want to strangle someone. The noise my husband makes bothers me to no end.

Work is so stressful - I’m a teacher and doing the work of two ppl being my coworker is out with Covid. I asked for help and nothing. . I’m going to the dr tomorrow hell just for a respite half day. And to talk about patch I guess

I guess I’m just venting. Others have it worse.

I want to get a handle on this but don’t know how.

7 comments posted: Tuesday, December 8th, 2020


I desperately need a new phone. What are you hearing about this one? Or, should I wait to see what kind of "sale" they have on the 11's?

I have Verizon.

3 comments posted: Wednesday, October 14th, 2020

101 essays that will change the way you think

by Brianna Wiest.. really handles codependency well without ever naming it.

1 comment posted: Monday, October 7th, 2019

Anatomy of peace

anyone read this? i understand the message but i'm not sure how to apply it. also, i think it's a little trite.

1 comment posted: Wednesday, November 30th, 2016

Love Warrior

has anyone read this yet? it came out today. i don't want to order it unless someone says it's good and I don't trust the reviews on amazon.

19 comments posted: Tuesday, September 6th, 2016

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