It's been a while

I could barely remember my log in but... something has come up. Not bad at all, but it brings me back to years ago and I need advice...

DH has a job where he gets involved in businesses people want to start.
Twice now, some of my bff have started a business, gone to him, and I hear about it from THEM, not him.
Last night at book club one of them told me she bought a business, and thanks to DH, got the money to buy it.

It feels like a big secret where I am the last to know.
Of course he can't tell me because of company ethics. Or, can he?

I tell him everything that goes on with my job. "I made 111 gadgets today" doesn't sound as interesting as "guess who might get fired." I TRUST he'll keep his mouth shut and he does.
I've never betrayed any of his company secrets in 35 years of marriage.
We are a couple that I thought talks about everything, or so I thought.

What to do? I feel crushed.

23 comments posted: Wednesday, February 1st, 2023

Mom and book

I’m doing some memoir writing. I’m starting when I was a 7 year old and modeling it after Little House on the Prairie - that kind of writing, a lot of family involvement, homemaking, etc.
Here’s the rub: My parents divorced when I was 10 and it was messy. My Mom (45 years later) still hates my dad and probably wants us to hate him too. As a 7 year old, I thought highly of my parents and they are glowingly written (for now).
I sent Mom Chapter 2 to read. The only sentence she replied with, "do you have chapter 1?"
Chapter 1 details description about both of my parents. Chapter two just dabbled in it.
She’s only worried about how she and my dad are represented. I want her involved in the writing because she is reminding and telling me about how things were done back then.
But, I can also leave her out of the entire process.
Right now, she’s probably not speaking to me.
This is so ridiculous.

5 comments posted: Friday, October 15th, 2021

house cleaner $$

I've fallen behind and really need help a couple times a month cleaning my house. However, every bid I receive is for $40 an hour. Is this typical? In the midwest? It seems so high to me

7 comments posted: Monday, September 27th, 2021

101 essays that will change the way you think

by Brianna Wiest.. really handles codependency well without ever naming it.

1 comment posted: Monday, October 7th, 2019

Anatomy of peace

anyone read this? i understand the message but i'm not sure how to apply it. also, i think it's a little trite.

1 comment posted: Wednesday, November 30th, 2016

Love Warrior

has anyone read this yet? it came out today. i don't want to order it unless someone says it's good and I don't trust the reviews on amazon.

19 comments posted: Tuesday, September 6th, 2016