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Hug your dog for me today

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thisissogross posted 10/21/2020 20:53 PM

Very sorry.

No dogs here, but I squeezed some kitty faces in memoriam-hope that will do.

StillLivin posted 10/22/2020 02:36 AM

My cat passed unexpectedly several weeks ago. Since then I've been giving my other cat and dog extra love. I'm still heartbroken, so I know your grief, as many of us do. I'm so sorry. I wouldn't wish the pain of losing a beloved fur baby on anyone. Comfort yourself with knowing that he died in your loving arms. I couldn't imagine a better way to go.

carriemcsky posted 10/22/2020 03:44 AM

Thank you all for listening. It really means a lot to me.

Today is going to be tough. Everyone else is going to be gone, so the stillness of the house is going to be overwhelming. I've got some projects that I'll work on but the absence of my dog is going to be front and center.

Pets are a comfort and a tragedy.

tushnurse posted 10/22/2020 08:55 AM

When they pass that emptiness that fallows is so hard. It is so strange going into an empty home, and not having them greet you or demanding to play or go outside.

Take time today to go outside if the weather is nice. Breathe the air, and embrace his memory.

Collies are such cool, good dogs. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

survivingslowly posted 10/22/2020 10:19 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Your post brought me to tears as we just went through that exactly 2 weeks ago. An almost 14 year old Golden Retriever.

I totally understand the quietness in the house. I still find myself saying "guard the house buddy, I just gotta go to the store and will be back soon"

I put a collage on our back fence with some pictures so that our neighbors and fellow dog walkers would know since he was very well known in our neighborhood. I didn't want people constantly asking "where's "dog""

My oldest DD put a picture and his collar at our dog park....it's beautiful.

Every morning I would give him a belly rub and I still miss it every time I get up. I miss him so much.

I do take comfort in knowing that we did the right thing in the most compassionate way. Our experience was exactly as you described.

There's an emptiness. I totally get it. And I hear you. Still crying here.

Big hugs to you. You are not alone.

carriemcsky posted 10/22/2020 13:40 PM

I didn't have as much quiet time as I thought I would. DS called me with a problem and I've been on and off the phone for hours.

But this morning, when I left to run an errand, I said out loud, "I'll be right back" like I always do to the dog. I walked right out the door and when I shut the door, I realized what I had done. I guess it just really hasn't sunk in yet.

And when I came back home, the minute I opened the door, my heart sunk when I realized I was alone.

I miss that darn dog so freaking much. And the tears just keep coming.

somanyyears posted 10/22/2020 15:49 PM

..your post set off a flood of tears as I knew exactly the pain you endured holding and hugging him long past his last breath and heartbeat.

We have only had cats throughout our marriage but the same scene played out a few times with our beloved felines. Having 2 or 3 at home helps us get through the loss..

I highly recommend 2 of anything in the pet department solely for the companionship aspect.

The carrying on and play we watch our cats display keeps us laughing day and night.

After your grieving subsides a little, do consider your next 'pair' of pooches, as so many wonderful dogs need loving homes like yours and are caged off, just waiting for you.

Sending you a sincere..'bark, bark, whoof' of support.


LadyG posted 10/22/2020 16:20 PM

Thank you for sharing your experience. Hugs to you.

My fur baby is old, unwell and blind but I love her with all my heart.

I will soon have to make a decision about how much longer we have together. Until then I can only hug her to give her comfort.

DevastatedDee posted 10/22/2020 16:27 PM

I am so so sorry. I can still cry about having to put my dog down at 17 and that was 13 years ago. I hugged all 6 of my dogs in memory of yours today. I know I have 6 incredibly painful moments ahead of me, and that is the price we pay for experiencing a love that is like no other from our dogs. It's worth it, but oh it does hurt.

thebighurt posted 10/22/2020 17:07 PM

I wish I had a dog to hug. When the kids were growing up, there was always at least one dog around our house. It was always traumatic when one left us. After the kids left home, xpos wanted to travel whenever the notion struck, so that made it hard to have any pets. Since I have been alone, I was traveling quite a bit so felt it wouldn't be fair to the animal. This year I sure would love to have a canine companion!

I'm sorry you have to deal with this big hole in your life now. ((((HUGS))))

carriemcsky posted 10/23/2020 05:28 AM

After your grieving subsides a little, do consider your next 'pair' of pooches, as so many wonderful dogs need loving homes like yours and are caged off, just waiting for you.

When he got sick, and we knew our time with him was short, I said that I would never have another pet. It just hurts so bad when you know you have to say goodbye.

But this house has always had pets. Always. Save for a 6 month period before we got this one, we've always had at least one dog in this house. And during that 6 months, we had 2 cats, so it wasn't really ever pet-less.

As I was vacuuming yesterday, I realized that I can't complain about the dog hair anymore.

I want to complain about the dog hair.

Bigger posted 10/23/2020 07:18 AM

I know it’s early days…
Sometime maybe some months from now you might consider fostering.
As I write this, I’m in my home-office due to preventive Covid restrictions. My black Lab is curled up by my feet, enjoying a foot-massage. He’s the perfect dog and when his time comes, I doubt I will get another.
But… I also think that I have the space, time and the knowledge… Maybe at that time I will foster and possibly adopt an older dog. Fostering an older dog, giving him maybe a couple of years to realize he’s loved and cared for and part of a family… Every dog deserves the end-of-life attention and love you showed yours.

IrishGirlVA posted 10/23/2020 07:36 AM

My heart absolutely aches for you. I had dogs when I was growing up but got my first, very own dog a couple years ago. I can't imagine life without her but I know it is inevitable. That's why your words resonated with me so much when you said "pets are a comfort and a tragedy".

I have always had pets (cats) and a few years ago when my last of 3 (Monty) went over the rainbow bridge, that feeling of loneliness, the kind that leaves you breathless, is a feeling I'll never forget.

All my cats were adopted from the humane society and I knew that Monty would want me to have a companion... so the next day I brought Bolo home. It was as if Monty said it was time to 'make room' for Bolo. I understand, however, that people need time after a loss before they can commit emotionally to a new pet.

Hugs to you.

[This message edited by IrishGirlVA at 7:42 AM, October 23rd (Friday)]

carriemcsky posted 10/23/2020 09:48 AM

that feeling of loneliness, the kind that leaves you breathless, is a feeling I'll never forget

This. Exactly. The emptiness.

This morning I built him a little cairn out back.

Today I am going to one of my favorite places. I'm just going to look out at the water and grieve for my best friend.

PricklePatch posted 10/24/2020 22:23 PM

Carrie, hugged my daughter dog today. I understand your loss. I got a call my new service dog is ready for me. I feel like I am betraying Malibu, she saved my life. Hugs to you.

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