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Emotionalhell (original poster member #39902) posted at 11:24 PM on Tuesday, May 7th, 2019
I know waywards say a lot of stupid stuff. Does a cheater ever really listen to themselves talk? I am still almost speechless from what WS said to me the other night.
WS..... “I will never understand why you told OBS, I guess you just wanted to hurt her” my response... Ummm, the OBS had a right to know that his wife was cheating on him. I wish those that knew would tell me.
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
pearlamici ( member #67631) posted at 11:30 PM on Tuesday, May 7th, 2019
I'd reopen that discussion and tell him, if you really think that then you've no idea of the emotional devastation you feel when you've been betrayed. The OBS had a right to know he was living a lie.
~Bad marriages don’t cause affairs. Affairs cause bad marriages.~
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 11:31 PM on Tuesday, May 7th, 2019
Yeah - they say some stupid shit. I could write a book. Or a comedy show. The longer I'm around here - the more I swear there is a handbook and they all ready from the chapter - "DDay - throw this out and see if it sticks"
My favorite is one AP messaged to WH when I [finally] told OBS on DDay 3.
"How could she do this to me? She knew I'd lose everything..."
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 11:36 PM on Tuesday, May 7th, 2019
When I kicked his butt to the curb since he couldn't seem to end his affair:
"But I thought we loved each other."
(Each time this type of thread comes up I have a new one. Shows how much stupid crap he said).
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
taken4granted ( member #61971) posted at 11:52 PM on Tuesday, May 7th, 2019
Mine texted me something funny tonight. He insisted that he's been faithful since I filed for divorce. It's funny since he couldn't be faithful beforehand, but thinks I'll believe that.
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain
Me: Living life! Him: Not my problem anymore
Married 15 yrs.
1 LTA, Many EAs from 2009 - ?
Dday 1 = 6/16/17
Last Dday = 1/4/18
Started loving myself 2018!
Shocked123 ( member #63617) posted at 3:52 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
Mine said that most men go to massage parlours.
Most men? Really?
Wouldn't there be line ups out the doors ?
J707 ( member #63778) posted at 4:40 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
If only us at SI wrote a book of the compiled quotes of the WS. So many good ones, the same yet different.
The cheaters handbook is real and they pass them out entering into The Unicorn skittle farting rainbow la la fantasy land where all reality is lost. A majestical, magical land of made up non real life scenarios and issues. If you subscribe now we will add in some TT or false R to keep you believing, another thoughtful gift from them. Still not hooked, we will add in that it's all your fault (insert heart) with some added bonus salt for your fresh wounds, which by the way is your fault!
One quote came up at work today
"The only weight I'm losing is in my wedding ring finger"
After 6 months of going to the "gym" when she was the laziest stonner that hated anything physical. Stopped wearing the ring because of her weight loss in her wedding ring finger.
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 4:42 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
Adaira ( member #62905) posted at 4:58 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
“Maybe we can be friends with benefits?” Suggested during our divorce.
Former BW. Happily divorced.
Adlham ( member #53358) posted at 5:07 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
Thankfully, my stupid ex didn't say this to me because I would have laughed in his face. Or pushed him down a flight of stairs. Or both!
But his now ex-wife and I are friends, of a sort.
He left her for the next door neighbor, who is a good 25 years his senior. The ow put him on her deed to her home, he proposed to her before the divorce was settled. As he was getting the rest of his shit moved, he had the audacity to tell his wife:
Maybe we can get back together someday.
Seriously, dude?
There is NO need to have that “one last conversation” with a toxic individual in your life.” The closure will come when you look deeper inside yourself. It’s not your job to fix someone when they are unwilling to fix themselves.
Jorge ( member #61424) posted at 7:32 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
Mine texted me something funny tonight. He insisted that he's been faithful since I filed for divorce. It's funny since he couldn't be faithful beforehand, but thinks I'll believe that.
Sounds like a kid telling Santa, I've been good since Thanksgiving.
OrdinaryDude ( member #55676) posted at 7:49 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
Man I don’t even want to think about this one.
I was young and dumb and stayed with a cheater.
rosie1 ( member #67700) posted at 9:28 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
Mine told me that the second woman he was messaging, while having the PA with the main AP, randomly messaged after a 5 month gap on the same day that the AP checked his phone. Poor baby is the most unlucky guy ever - this shit just seems to happen to him....
Me BS - 50
Him WS - 43
D-day 28.10.18 2 year online EA + PA
TT 4.5.19 admitted to 2 months online with another OW leading up to the main event
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:52 AM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
Funny (not really) - more idiotic things I heard.
After 25 years of a good marriage my H told me “I only married him to spite my parents” as a way to justify his Affair. Implying I never loved him. 🤣 ROFLMAO
We should all be friends.
If I met her I would like her.
She doesn’t want to be the OW - to which I told him then she should stop dating married men!
I could go on but these are just a few of the gems he uttered during his “the affair is the fault of the BS” mentality. SMH
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Noname2016 ( member #52245) posted at 12:50 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
When I wrote an angry email to the OW(who was also a friend) she said to me she destroyed her family to save mine😱😱😱. I don’t even know from where to begin understanding this bullshit. She fucked my husband to save my family?!?! 🤣
WH says to me - you and OBS are the biggest losers. You want to fuck with my brain so that I don’t concentrate on my new job. (This is with regards to me mentioning to him that he wasn’t the only cheating OW did. Apparently cheaters expect loyalty 🤣
Me: 35(BS)
Him: 36 (WH)
DDay 1: 2016
DDay 2: 2019 (Different OW)
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 12:54 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
Yup Noname2016 cheaters expect loyalty.
OBS told me that during their LTA that AP had 2 other APs.
When I told WH that he wasn't her only one - that there were 2 more - I watched all the color drain from him [it was like a cartoon - all the color just drained inch by inch] and he visibly swayed - almost passed out. He was gobsmacked. I'm standing there watching that in disbelief of what I was witnessing. It never occurred to him.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
GoldenR ( member #54778) posted at 12:58 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
8 months after kicking her out, she calls me and her voice is all excited and happy:
"I'm coming home now. I choose you!"
JimmyB ( member #43976) posted at 1:38 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
My WW told her AP "I may be off base but I believe God is so loving and forgiving that he sends people into our lives just to get us through, even though it's not the perceived "right" thing to do".
It's a wonder she wasn't immediately consumed by fire.
ME: 60 Madhatter, 1 PA, 6 months(making out, no sexual contact), 2006. 1 sexual act with a stranger in a car - w/hands, 2010.
WW: 57 Madhatter, 25 year (1988-2013) PA, 3 separate affairs, same OM). 8 year, 2005-2013, EA with 1st boyfriend/lover
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 10:33 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
LOL, some of these are so incredible, they're fantastic.
My WW said to me, " you must be having an affair with OBS, you talk to her so much".
No crap sherlocke, its to get at what you two douchewipes have been doing.
maise ( member #69516) posted at 10:46 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
I have often wondered the same...I've actually said those words to my WS; "Do you HEAR YOURSELF when u talk?! Are you using your brain?!"
The other day I was feeling emotional and expressed to my WS how her comments hurt me on a day where she basically told me AP won in a certain department when compared to me.
WS's response? "If AP had won then I'd be with her."
Oh gosh i went from zero to 100. Firstly because WHAT?! She WAS WITH AP FOR 14 MONTHS BEHIND MY BACK! Like seriously, what? Should I be so happy and feel like I'm totally WINNING now because WS is here and not with AP? Did I win a prize? Should I be celebrating? UGH fuck her with that comment. Ridiculous. How about if being with AP was the standard on winning then AP won the moment they fucked back in May of 2017. Grrrrr.
Lol, Chaos....this made me laugh:
I swear there is a handbook and they all ready from the chapter - "DDay - throw this out and see if it sticks"
J707
The cheaters handbook is real and they pass them out entering into The Unicorn skittle farting rainbow la la fantasy land where all reality is lost. A majestical, magical land of made up non real life scenarios and issues. If you subscribe now we will add in some TT or false R to keep you believing, another thoughtful gift from them. Still not hooked, we will add in that it's all your fault (insert heart) with some added bonus salt for your fresh wounds, which by the way is your fault!
[This message edited by maise at 4:55 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)]
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
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