Me BS - 57
Him WS - 49
D-day 28.10.18 2 year online EA + PA
TT 4.5.19 admitted to 2 months online with another OW leading up to the main event
Regret reconciliation
It has been 8 years now since D day and since then we have moved house, got a dog, bought a campervan, been on holidays and loads of trips. To anyone outside of the relationship we look solid. But I can't fully forgive and he is now slipping back into his old behaviours - drinking more, being irritable with anyone close to him, thinking he is always right.
After D day he did lots of work - therapy for ages and we did all the recommended things - full disclosure, couples therapy, I did individual therapy too.most of which was around why I was with him in the first place. The relationship was lovely for a good 5 years - very open with each other and I felt loved and cared for - on reflection for the first time eve.
I now feel like his part of the reconciliation was an act and one that he has been unable to keep going for this long. Or is he just taking me and our life for granted again? I'm now wondering if reconciliation was the wrong move - I don't fully trust him and never will but I decided to live with that - but it feels very fragile and my gut says to cut my losses and go.
3 comments posted: Thursday, December 4th, 2025
