I read that book as well. I thought it was a good book.
Since you read it then follow its advise.
She says the only way to save your marriage is to play hard ball and throw your wife out and go for everything. Yes it does. Two little paragraphs I think on the half where she interviews the husband getting cheated on.
Honestly your post confuse me.
I feel like you have been trying to save your marriage so you are being too nice.
You cannot be nice at all.
Is she still at her teaching job?
Forget the pastors.
You need a real lawyer. Now immediately.
There is no talking or working with your wife.
You are going for full custody and all assets.
You are exposing her to all faculty. You are calling the police.
Once you have those things then you can talk to her.
Then you can call her mom and brother kick her out and let her stay with them.
You have been way too nice. I don’t understand what you are doing.
You need to understand that the fact the kid is 17 gives you a better opportunity than most. If he was 18 she would be gone with 50 of your daughter and 50 percent of your money.
You have been letting her manipulate you. No more. There is no negotiation until you have everything in writing and it is permanent.
You cannot wait any longer. Call your lawyer today. Go for everything.
Not some weird counselor, or weird pastor. A family law attorney who’s only job is being your lawyer. Who is going for her throat.
Everyone on here has been telling you that. The book you read tells you that.
It really is your only option.
You cannot reason with a cheating wife.
Go back and read everything you’ve posted and our responses from the beginning. You’ll see we predicted it.
I know it’s hard. I know it seems counterintuitive. But the only way to save things is to lay the hammer down. Full no let up.
Act now, immediately.
I don’t want you hurt. You have no choice.
I know this is one of the hardest things to do in your life.
Call a real lawyer. A shark.
1) Have him inform all the schools or do it your self.
2) tell all the church.
3) tell the mother and brother and kick her out immediately.
No more nice. No more.
If you want to try and save your marriage tell her you will talk after all legal arrangements have been taken care of. Being in jail or away from you and your daughter might be the one thing that puts some sense in her.
I think kicking her out may be what you need. Then she is not there manipulating you.
I’m so sorry please act now. It really is the only way. You have no other options. She went from giving you full custody to now wanting 50/50. We told you. It was easy to see.
All legal matters first then the talking. No more talking until laywer says custody and money is in writing and locked down.
Please act. You really have no choice.
Best of luck.