See that is what confuses me I would think blowing everything out first would help with your custody.
Just tell your lawyer you want the max and you want to keep your daughter away from that kid and is crazy mother.
I’m not sure what you mean by two lawyers one criminal and one divorce.
You are not in charge of her defense.
That’s her problem.
How has a criminal lawyer not blown her up yet?
She is not your wife or your friend anymore.
I know that is such a hard thing to deal with. I know it hurts. But she leaves you no choice.
Contact another family law attorney and tell them everything if you need to.
A second opinion never hurts.
You need a shark that takes action now.
Who ever you are talking too there is only one goal.
My wife is planning to divorce me, take my kid and move in with her affair partner.
HELP ME NOW!
give them all details, every text. Write everything down. Re read your post here to help jog your memory.
Give the lawyer everything.
Get the ball rolling.
That is step 1 2 and 3.
Don’t let up. No more listening to your wife. About anything.
Depending on the advise from the lawyer I then think you need to tell her brother and her mother and send her to them.
Getting her away from you will give you space to clear your head. But a lawyer may tell you you cannot do that.
Lawyer first. Full speed ahead. Do what must be done.
You cannot even think about listening to your wife until all legal protections are in place. Only for yourself and your daughter.
Not your wife. That’s her problem and only her problem.
You can keep posting here for encouragement but every new action she takes must be met with a call to your lawyer for advise.
Your wife is not rational right now. There is no reasoning with her.
You read that book where she talks about the state of limbo. That’s where you are at. She is still keeping a foot in the door. That’s what she wants.
Don’t let her.
That book while good in explaining the dynamics of affairs was advertised as a way to save you marriage. But it doesn’t actually give an example of a saved marriage.
The two examples she gives is one guy who threw the woman out and filed for divorce and another guy who filed for divorce but went to counseling with her and was trying to save the marriage. She never actually tells us if the marriage was saved.
That’s just shows you why these forums give such rough advise.
You have to be willing to walk away.
You can still be kind.
"I love you but I will not have that family in our lives" "I want out marriage but I cannot trust you" "I will never allow you to take our daughter and since I cannot trust you we cannot talk about things until we have a legal settlement"
You have kicked the can down the road. As the book says get out of limbo. The more time you waste the worse it could be for you.
No more wife talk, lawyer talk only.
I’m pulling for you.