It absolutely tears me apart reading that she is my enemy, that she may have never been the woman I thought she was, and to not engage with her anymore.
Trust me and the others who have been through this.
DO NOT engage with her any more about anything except the divorce.
DO NOT send any text messages without first ensuring that your words cannot be used against you in court.
Most conversation with her regarding the divorce should be through your attorneys
Assume any conversation you are having with her is being recorded for the purpose of using your words against you - even if not court admissible.
Avoid being anywhere with her where there are no other people/witnesses around.
A woman can make a simple call to the police, falsely claim you have been violent or threatening with her, and you may find yourself prohibited from entering or even being near your own home.
As others may have said, she is your enemy at this point.
I thought as you do now - how is it possible that the woman that I thought I was "the luckiest guy in the world" to be married to could now be my enemy?
My XWW had a facade put up during our nearly 9-year marriage - but one can only keep a facade up for so long.
It was when I got a look behind the facade, and saw just how ugly she was behind it, that she became enraged and became my enemy.
Your wife knows you have seen behind her facade and saw what she hates the most - the real her - and no one is ever supposed to see that.
That’s why you are experiencing this callous anger and contempt from her.
Has my entire 12 year relationship with this woman been a giant lie?
My nearly 9-year marriage was a giant lie.
I loved what she pretended to be - some one who acted in a way so that I would view her as ideal so that, in turn, I would tell her all the things she liked to hear.
Some can keep up an act like this for weeks and some can for decades.
I know what you are going through and yes, right now it’s very difficult to wrap your mind around how irrational it all is.
The sooner you get through this and extract yourself from her narcissistic world of duplicitous shit, the sooner you will be able to look at it from the outside and see her for what she is.
And, the sooner you will understand just how empty she is and always was - and you won’t care anymore.