The way the bail works is that a bond is set for the charges. You have to remain in jail until you go to court. But, if you have someone that will pay 1/10 of the bond amount, they can pay that money and bail you out of jail. That money is gone forever. What that money buys you is the privilege of being out of jail until your court case goes to court. But you do not get the money back when you show up to court. And if you do not show up to court, the person who put up the 1/10 of bail, hast to pay the the full bond amount.
The reason I was considering bailing my son out is because he finally had a great job that he loved and he was taking it very seriously. His lawyer had told him that with the first offense, for which he was out on bail, it could be months and months and months before the case was heard. So I felt that getting him out / paying the 1/10 amount, would be worth him being out and being constructive for months and months and would be worth the money.
But now, the bail would be so high, there is a threat of revoking the bail- in which case they would not refund the money if they made him go back to jail to await trial, and the fact that he will almost certainly have to serve time for his offenses...all those reasons put together have convinced me not to post bail.
He seems resolved to it now. Said he was ready to hunker down and start doing his time...because whatever time he spends in jail prior to his court case will count as time served and will be taken off whatever sentence he is given.
I keep hearing about more and more involved with his charges. I’m so very scared. He calls me 2-3 times a day...I think mostly because I can’t stop crying when we talk, and he’s worried about me.
I have to get control of that. I don’t want to add to his situation.
Thank y’all for listening and for your contributions.
I have been literally sick all day. Haven’t slept but a tiny bit in 3 days.
Still can’t believe it is happening.
My son has been in small time trouble off and on his whole life. Once, my mother asked me… Toward the end of her life, if I thought that he was ever going to straighten up. I told her that yes I did believe that he was going to straighten up. Then she asked me if I thought it would happen in her lifetime. I had to be honest, so I told her that no, I did not think it would be in her lifetime… And it was it.
Now I am thinking that it’s not going to be in my lifetime either.
If only I could know that it would be in my lifetime.
[This message edited by WhatsRight at 2:46 PM, Saturday, December 4th]