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99problems (original poster member #59373) posted at 9:26 PM on Thursday, April 15th, 2021
Official today, I am finally done.
My marriage is no more.
I guess that means I "survived" infidelity.
Wow, that sucked. (And I got off relatively easy, apparently.) I am so ready to move on with life.
Anyway, let the party commence!!!!
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 10:11 PM on Thursday, April 15th, 2021
Congrats! Best of luck moving forward.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 11:52 PM on Thursday, April 15th, 2021
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
DanielJK ( member #75654) posted at 2:06 AM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
BH 51
STBXWW 53
2 daughters, 14 and 16
Filed for divorce 12/23/2020
After a year of hell I finally moved out (5/26/2021).
Divorce still pending.
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 2:31 AM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
Sorry you went through this. Glad you can embark on a productive new path out of infidelity.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 4:55 AM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
Congrats!! Now the healing truly begins!
DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).
99problems (original poster member #59373) posted at 7:25 AM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
I truly didn't realize what a blessing it could be to be divorced until now.
The sense of relief and peace is amazing, I didn't actually realize I needed this as much as I did until it actually happened.
I am a lucky man. Its just me and my daughter from her on out, my life feels boundless and free.
For all of you struggling through this- there is a true light at the end of the tunnel. I have struggled and bled and wept, but it's all been worth it.
I will be forever a changed man for the better for all of this.
What a crazy ride. I think I can take away some good things from the whole thing, and avoid being a toxic bitter old man, but I think I'd even enjoy being the old bitter man at this point. Better than a life of confusing paradoxes and hypocrisy.
I was raised to be the man that accepted that, but I narrowly escaped that fate.
I count myself lucky that I woke up just in time.
My best wishes for all of you going through this. I hope you find what you are looking for.
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
TwoDozen ( member #74796) posted at 8:30 AM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
Congrats buddy - now you can live up to that new moniker
All the best for whatever’s next fella 👊🏻
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 12:41 PM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
I’m glad you survived it.
Now on to a better place.
Good for you!!!
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Anna123 ( member #70908) posted at 2:16 PM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
Whoo Hoo! FREEDOM! Congrats.
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 3:42 PM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
YAY 99P!!!
I am so very happy for you... You had a rough road getting here, but getting free of it makes life so much better!
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
J707 ( member #63778) posted at 3:58 PM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
Congratulations! I remember when I received the news. The whole weight of the D process lifted off of my shoulders. Enjoy your freedom and the new chapters to come! It can be very calm and soothing!
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:48 PM on Friday, April 16th, 2021
Congrats! It’s not what you necessarily wanted, but it is what is best for you and your DD.
Welcome to the next chapter!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
OrdinaryDude ( member #55676) posted at 11:48 AM on Saturday, April 17th, 2021
99 problems, and she isn’t one of them!
Couldn’t resist! 
I was young and dumb and stayed with a cheater.
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 4:04 PM on Saturday, April 17th, 2021
User name change to 98problems suggested!
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
99problems (original poster member #59373) posted at 8:20 PM on Saturday, April 17th, 2021
Haha, the username change suggestion is pretty awesome.
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
keptmyword ( member #35526) posted at 12:20 AM on Sunday, April 18th, 2021
Good for you and your daughter to have extracted yourselves from that world.
I know the liberating feeling it is.
I felt like my sons and I were involuntarily thrown onto the stage of some horrific Jerry Springer Shit-Show episode.
When my divorce was final, we were free.
It has nothing to do with you.
Filed for and proceeded with divorce.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 7:40 AM on Sunday, April 18th, 2021
Congrats. Welcome to the other side. Enjoy the fresh air and sunshine!
Onward and upward!
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
skeetermooch ( member #72169) posted at 4:49 PM on Sunday, April 18th, 2021
Me: BS 56 on DDay 1 - 7/2019 DIVORCED - 1/2021
Triples ( member #72068) posted at 1:41 PM on Monday, April 19th, 2021
Roll on 99! Happy for you-you deserve the best!
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