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Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 1:49 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Hello SI friends,
My attorney and I have a court hearing on less than 2 hours. Facing more unwarranted accusations from the cheating exes (chex) vicariously through his attorney.
Support/words of encouragement would be appreciated.
I now refer to the man I pledged my heart and my life to more than three decades ago as "the opponent" aka the adversary.
May I never falter again should I have the advantage again. May I not forget who he is and what he is capable of. May my heart not be my weakness again but my strength.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 1:57 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Shehawk:
Sending you strength and positive vibes for your court hearing today. Sounds like your “opponent” is just being vindictive and grasping at straws. He does not realize how strong you are now. Good luck.
[This message edited by fareast at 7:57 AM, February 11th (Thursday)]
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 2:36 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Sending strength, positive vibes and huge hugs.
You got this, Shehawk!
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 2:37 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Thank you FarEast.
You and so many other people on SI are why I survived infidelity literally.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
DanielJK ( member #75654) posted at 2:51 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Good luck.
Just remember you are on your way out of infidelity.
I'm not far behind you.
Better days are ahead.
BH 51
STBXWW 53
2 daughters, 14 and 16
Filed for divorce 12/23/2020
After a year of hell I finally moved out (5/26/2021).
Divorce still pending.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 2:53 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 2:58 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 3:26 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Sending lots of positive thoughts and SI mojo your way. (((hugs)))
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 3:42 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to
No lie lieshurt
Thanks!!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:43 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
skeetermooch ( member #72169) posted at 4:05 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
May he show his true colors in court and lose mightily. Good luck!
Me: BS 56 on DDay 1 - 7/2019 DIVORCED - 1/2021
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 4:35 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Thank you skeeter.
Believe it or not, he did not show for court. Just sent his female victim advocate attorney.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
josiep ( member #58593) posted at 5:42 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
I wish I was there so we could shoot evil eye looks in his direction. Or point at him and giggle (silently, of course).
Hoping it's over with and that you're doing well.
BW, was 67; now 74; M 45 yrs., T 49 yrs.DDay#1, 1982; DDay#2, May, 2017. D July, 2017
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 6:05 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Thanks Josie. You made me laugh.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 7:05 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Good luck. Appear calm. Be honest. You'll do great!!
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 12:23 AM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Late to your post! Hope it went well. Please check in when you have a moment.
BigNoob ( member #75807) posted at 12:33 AM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Send his ass to the Streets!
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 5:11 AM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Thanks everyone!
It's been a rough day. Some people use the courts to continue to be the same people they were while cheating.
Will write more later.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 2:52 PM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
It's been a rough day. Some people use the courts to continue to be the same people they were while cheating.
Yep, the parable of the scorpion and the frog is one that comes to mind.
Take care of yourself. This is not easy.
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:40 PM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Late to this thread as well. I'll be looking for your update.
(((Shehawk)))
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
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