Thanks to everyone for the support. This group helped me face the man I now consider my mortal enemy who used to be my one flesh yesterday. That is no easy task.
It has been about two years since the man I used to call my husband chose infidelity over his marriage. I did not know it at the time but the minute he chose to betray me he became the opponent who would not stop even to the point of seeing me destitute or even dead.
Not recognizing that immediately for what it was has cost me dearly financially, emotionally and spiritually.
Yesterday cost me probably a thousand dollars...maybe more... to get more of nowhere.
We don't have a complicated situation. It would not be difficult to divide the assets fairly with decency and dignity and not give the lawyers tens of thousands of dollars. So far he has declined to divide one single thing. Nothing. Zero.
Take when I gave him the opportunity yes. Give no.
While fair minded people might be about give and take, each thing I conceded early on believing that he was telling the truth and would divorce amicably reset the zero point.
He still wanted more than half going forward.
The lesson I will take with me and share is that my failure to immediately consider my history rewriting unrepentant in the fog WS as a serious threat to my health and life is a costly mistake I will forever regret on so many fronts not the least of which is this financial front.
Honestly I should have known better. The clues were there all along in the small things he said and did in front of me and the big things he did behind my back.
