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Just got dumped

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GotTheShaft posted 8/30/2020 23:15 PM

My 2-1/2 year relationship ended abruptly on Friday night. I am hurting. Not quite as bad as finding out about xWW infidelity, but this pain is rough. Just needed to put it out there.

bewuzzled posted 8/30/2020 23:36 PM

I'm sorry
Tough night huh? I'm having one of those myself. Hang in there... You know the only way is through, there are no shortcuts unfortunately. Breathe and distract is my current strategy.

[This message edited by bewuzzled at 11:37 PM, August 30th (Sunday)]

babypuke posted 8/31/2020 06:06 AM

2,5 years is a significant long time and if it ended abruptly it is very overwhelming, as Pat Benatar said man, Love is a Battlefield, strength! Not having a relationship also has its benefits and good things, no chains and all is for you, be good to yourself (buy that motorcycle or boat you always wanted) and enjoy your freedom brother,strength!

WhoTheBleep posted 8/31/2020 07:21 AM

Oh man, I'm sorry. Two and a half years is a long time to have it abruptly end.

newlife03 posted 8/31/2020 09:39 AM

I feel your pain. I'm on a "break" after 9 years and expect that it will go to a full on break up. Stay strong and keep busy, it's all we can do.

devotedman posted 8/31/2020 09:49 AM

Hang in there! I know that it's rough.

JanaGreen posted 8/31/2020 10:07 AM

Big hugs - that is tough :(

LoveTKO posted 8/31/2020 10:54 AM

I'm sorry you're going through this...

Chili posted 8/31/2020 12:25 PM

GotTheShaft: Crap. That stinks.

Ditto to: bewuzzled, newlife03 and everyone else struggling with this.

I've been kind of loosely monitoring things here on SI and IRL with relationships during these strange days. I think it's some combination of "true selves" being revealed, coping skills, emotional strength/maturity and just the spotlight in general. Most people can't "pretend" for sustained periods right now.

I too wonder if every one of my relationships is going to come out the other side of this fully intact.

Chrysalis123 posted 8/31/2020 15:36 PM

Oh no, I hate to hear news like this. I am so sorry you are hurting.

GotTheShaft posted 8/31/2020 18:46 PM

Thanks for all the responses everyone. This has been rough. A different kind of rough because Iím going to miss her kids and my kids will miss her. In addition to me missing her. And of course there was no infidelity to point to, so Iím trying to piece together what was truly responsible. Iím hurting for sure, but I seem to feel best as I talk it out with friends.

Justsomeguy posted 8/31/2020 23:03 PM

Sorry for your hurt. Sucks, I know. Stay strong and keep moving forward. Wish I had something to say that would make it better, but I. Struggling as well.

BearlyBreathing posted 9/1/2020 00:57 AM

Just sending some support- very sorry. Take care of yourself.

BobPar posted 9/1/2020 11:56 AM

That sucks. I'm sorry you are feeling that pain.

Booyah posted 9/1/2020 20:43 PM

Sorry to hear this.

Hang in there!!!

GotTheShaft posted 9/2/2020 09:29 AM

I just sent her a text message to see if we can talk. I know she has to still love me - can't shut that off after only 5 days. If I get the chance to talk with her, I know I can make things right. Send me good vibes that she will be receptive to talk.

newlife03 posted 9/2/2020 09:59 AM

Did she respond to your text?

GotTheShaft posted 9/2/2020 11:26 AM

Not yet. I'm sure she needs time to think and decide if she really thinks whatever issues she had will be any different this time around.

newlife03 posted 9/2/2020 14:35 PM

I think you deserve an explanation, especially after two years, and hopefully she'll at least respond to this initial text and tell you what's been going on with her.

If I get the chance to talk with her, I know I can make things right.

Unfortunately, if she's truly done there won't be much that you can say to convince her of this. Again, time and hopefully a response will tell for sure. Sending good vibes your way.

GotTheShaft posted 9/3/2020 12:35 PM

Thanks newlife03,

Still no response. I actually sent a more heartfelt text yesterday, but still no response. I agree she should give me the decency of at least a "no" response after 2-1/2 years. We are both 46 years old - not 20-somethings. That's actually what is giving me hope that she's still thinking and cooling down. If she were truly "done", you'd think she would at least respond and say that. I'm still believing there's hope.

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