Another new relationship over

Well friends, I broke up with the latest new beginning this past Saturday. We had dated for nearly 3 months - the first two months were fantastic, and then the last three weeks have been a steady downward dive. She decided that she hates my best friend's wife because my best friend's wife told a common friend that she liked meeting this woman one time and was interested to get to know her more - somehow she took that as my friend's wife was trying to get "dirt" on her. She complained about my dog. She complained that we spent so much time at my house (her house is undergoing a major remodel, and she didn't have a bed until last week - we stayed at her house twice in the 4 days since her bed arrived, and a 3rd day I had my daughters and didn't see her). Finally, she complained about my DDs, and that was the last straw. I truly wanted this one to work out. But I can't listen to a woman I'm dating tell me that my 13 year old daughter is going to end up 15 and pregnant because she wanted me to buy an inappropriate dress, which I told my daughter was not appropriate and didn't buy. This woman kept at it and told me that she isn't signing up to raise a newborn baby when my daughter gets pregnant. I don't get how me NOT buying an inappropriate dress is somehow going to lead to my daughter being 15 and pregnant? This should have been considered "good" parenting.

She is 39 years old, never married, and has no children. In addition, she's an only child who was pampered her entire life. In the beginning, she did her best to pretend to be someone who she wasn't, but the last few weeks, she just couldn't fake it any more.

Since the breakup, she has resorted to berating me over text messages. I politely thanked her for the time we spent together, and I told her I was sorry things didn't work out. I didn't engage in or respond to any of her nasty personal attacks.

I don't know the point of my rant today. It's just really frustrating, especially with the holidays happening. I know this will sting for a couple days, and then I'll be fine. Just wanted to complain in a safe place to folks who can relate (at least to some degree).

33 comments posted: Tuesday, November 30th, 2021

One year ago today

One year ago today I was blindsided when the woman I had been dating for 2-1/2 years broke up with me over the phone, with little explanation, and "didn’t want to discuss it." A week later, my "best friend" of 36 years was acting strange about my breakup and pretty much ended our 36 year friendship. A few months ago, I learned that his girlfriend broke up with him. A common friend spoke with her and she said she actually broke up with him once right after my GF broke up with me, because he was spending too much time talking with my exGF after our breakup, and his GF thought he was trying to get with my ex. Hmmm, that’s what I thought too. I also got confirmation that my exGF had been cheating on me with another dude from her past. They started dating publicly very soon after she broke up with me, and I’m told they’re no longer together.

To me, this is all sad, because none of it needed to happen. I truly loved her and was planning to propose. She abandoned that to cheat on me with a guy whom she’s no longer with, just one year later. My ex "best friend" screwed me over for a girl that he never got to be with, or maybe he got to be with once. They both lost. What a shame. Didn’t need to happen this way.

I’m doing much better, but I still miss them both. There’s no going back to either of them, and that’s sad. But life is what it is.

A couple weeks ago, I broke up with a woman I had dated for 4 months. As much as I wanted that relationship to work, she had some FOO issues that created problems in our relationship that surfaced at two months in, and became progressively worse over the past two months.

I’m not sure why I’m posting. I think, I might just want to be "heard". I never got "closure" from either my exGF or my ex "best friend", and I’m sure I never will. She was the first and only person I’ve loved in the 5-1/2 years since my exWW. In many ways, this one hurt more than my divorce, because this exGF knew what my exWW did, and then she did the exact same thing. Couple that with the loss of my ex best friend, and it’s a big blow.

Intellectually, I know I’m better off with both of them out of my life, but emotionally, it was a sh!tstorm.

I just wanted to share my thoughts tonight. Thanks for anyone reading/listening.

10 comments posted: Sunday, August 29th, 2021

Just got dumped

My 2-1/2 year relationship ended abruptly on Friday night. I am hurting. Not quite as bad as finding out about xWW infidelity, but this pain is rough. Just needed to put it out there.

408 comments posted: Sunday, August 30th, 2020