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Can I Get An Amen?!

HeHadADoubleLife posted 3/20/2020 18:16 PM

I feel bad posting this anywhere else, as there are so many newly minted BSs about to come in, as well as those in IHS and/or isolation with their waywards, but...

Holy universe am I happy that I am not having to isolate with my idiot, meth head, sex addict of an X!!!!

Sure it would be nice to have someone to do this whole isolation thing with, but damn am I glad that it's not him!

I'm not stuck in a house with someone who can't keep his hand out of his pants, I don't have to follow his dumbass around with Lysol to spray everything he touches because he won't wash his hands, and I don't have to worry about him pestering me for sex every 5 seconds because his normal outlets like cam girls and escorts can't be used when you're locked in your house with your whole family. I'm freeeeeeeeeee!!!

I have food in the fridge, a few rolls of TP left, and some kitties to cuddle. No psycho BPD narcissists for me!

staystrong101 posted 3/20/2020 19:48 PM


Phoenix1 posted 3/20/2020 20:52 PM

I'll give you your amen, and raise you a hallaleuja!!

I'm quite content alone.

WhoTheBleep posted 3/21/2020 06:05 AM

Amen!! I have peace...

HeartFullOfHoles posted 3/21/2020 09:24 AM

I'll second that, no I'll triple that!

I can almost hear the whining and stupid comments, but thankfully the silence and peace at my own place is drowning it out.

Chili posted 3/21/2020 10:22 AM

Holy crap HHADL: you expressed exactly what I was thinking. Like Phoenix, I am quite content to be alone.

But also if I may hop on the Karma train for one minute, I am slightly tickled that he is in fact someone else's problem right now. Bwaaaa Haaaa Haaaaa! Good luck with that. Can you imagine what it's like to be so disordered and dysfunctional -- feeling like someone put you in time-out? Lordy.

So relieved and grateful in my drama free, dog-filled, self-isolating world.

J707 posted 3/21/2020 10:58 AM

Right!! I thought about this a few days ago. I have my kids and my dog. Plenty of food and TP for now. I have books, my guitar and myself. I'm an introvert so being inside ain't no thing.

I thought about how my ex and her dude are really gonna get to know each other now. Good luck dude hahahaha! My house is calm and quiet, it's nice!

ZenMumWalking posted 3/21/2020 15:54 PM


thebighurt posted 3/21/2020 17:51 PM

I had a therapy session by phone last week and this was part of the discussion, so I get it, too. MUCH better to be alone or with pets and or kids than xpos!

I bet xpos is a real fun guy when he can't do his hookups at motels like usual. Or moybe he can have up to 10 in the house. His NW/Slut must go along with it, so no prob inviting them there!

EllieKMAS posted 3/21/2020 19:53 PM

Yesssssss. A to the MEN!

I was feeling very similarly about not being locked up with a 38 yo man child with a.d.d. that goes through a roll of TP a day on his own!

UneedToSmile posted 3/21/2020 22:54 PM

Yes! The one positive in this whole thing. Let's face it, most of us were rocking it on our own for a long time anyway....they are the ones that can't be alone for a single second and need their next partner before they finish with the first.

I am so amazed by all the firsts that I have accomplished on my own lately. It started with a 500 mile drive with my kids on my own to see a concert. I knew I could do it, but now we can go even further (well, not right now tho). I had to fix my water softener on my own today. I figured out the snowblower on my own. I mounted a large mirror on the wall with power tools I bought myself (ha...mounted/power tools...why did my mind go there?). I was independent before, but I am so much more independent and comfortable with it now!! So thanks for that x-twat waffle!!!

IndependenceSoon posted 3/22/2020 12:24 PM

Amen to not being in the same house with cheater.

WhoTheBleep posted 3/22/2020 22:25 PM

Let's face it, most of us were rocking it on our own for a long time anyway....they are the ones that can't be alone for a single second and need their next partner before they finish with the first.

Spot. On.

homewrecked2011 posted 3/22/2020 22:48 PM

Itís so great not having to be around the FREAK!!!!

Simplicity posted 3/23/2020 00:06 AM

Being an essential worker, I'm would not have been stuck with him the way others would have been, but in these trying times of high stress and where I am pretty stressed at the hospital, I am THANKFUL not to be with a cheater on top of all of this. And on this first weekend of being safer at home, I am so glad to just chill by myself and not have to (likely) be distressed by him texting his homewrecker the whole time. We're always told to be grateful for the small things, well this is a BIG thing to be thankful for, so yes. AMEN!

MakingMyFuture posted 3/26/2020 11:16 AM

Iím working remotely around the clock because of virus while also home schooling two kids- 1 with emotional issues. Iím overwhelmed and could use some help but I canít even imagine if I was going through all of this and also dealing with a lying, drinking disordered sociopath and the emotional damage he was doing to me and the kids.

I canít imagine how hard it is for those who are sheltering in place with someone who has treated them so poorly, are just finding out or still a puddled crying ball on the floor. My heart goes out to them.

For the rest of us, this is hard but this is doable without having to quarantine with an enemy of the marriage in your house or bed. So a huge AMEN to all of those who are I have actual physical and emotional safety in their home by being fuckwit free!

To those who are not, know you WILL get through this and we on the other side are all here for you!

Hugs to everyone

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