I miss OhForANewMe
I know it's been a long time now, but coming back here and not seeing him here made me miss my adopted South African uncle. He was always kind and thoughtful in his responses, and seeing his journey out of infidelity had given me so much hope. In many ways, coming back here without him just is not the same.
8 comments posted: Friday, October 7th, 2022
I got married this year and tried to send a letter to ex to tell him he doesn't need to send anymore alimony, but it turns out he moved without informing me (at least by mail, if he tried to text or email, I blocked him... The divorce agreement says communication needs to be by mail). This prompted me to Google him and I saw a theknot site announcing his wedding to the ow next year. I got so angry and annoyed. Anyway. I'm mad at myself for still caring at all, and annoyed because I don't know what to do about alimony (other than hold on to it I guess?). UGH!!
3 comments posted: Wednesday, October 5th, 2022
Hello! it's been a long time since I've posted. Life has been stable. In limbo with someone, partly due to pandemic restrictions, partly other reasons. I have been collecting alimony, and I have it collected by the state, as per my lawyer's advice (as well as having read it here). It's pretty good, nice easy direct deposits that just say collected by the state, and I never have to deposit a check from that guy. Everything has been smooth for over two years. However, this month a strange amount that is also MUCH lower than the amount that is supposed to be was deposited. At what point do I contact the state agency? I am somewhat annoyed, but also surprised, since I'm pretty sure he's a set it and forget it sort of person.
6 comments posted: Thursday, April 1st, 2021