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gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 7:13 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

fuckmerunnin, sorry you sticking your dick into [another woman] upsets me sweetie

Rashawnda would be proud.

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 7:15 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

And what's the deal with the "forget" button?

I can't find it - on the 'regular' site or "Simplicity".

Anyone else find/use this?

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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Lostheart8 ( member #71607) posted at 7:25 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Heartbroken...let me come over for a week. I’ll let all my anger out. He can have it from me. I would love to rage. It would be my pleasure to toast him with douchebag cup of tea.

Thisissoloney. .... it blows me away how these cheaters are the same. My ex....just closed the door on me. He never looked back.

Why are cheaters, female or male, pretty much the same? Shouldn’t there be a diagnosis code for them?

Am I the only one who tired of these guys? They are exhausting. No body with a dick on it is worth it.

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heartbroken83 ( member #71395) posted at 7:42 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

I think we should all switch places with each other for a week. It is soooo much easier to see the crap behavior with someone else's WS than your own. Plus I'd love to battle this out with someone. KITMFD bitches!

We can start our own reality show! Betrayed Spouse Partner Swap. It would need to be on like HBO or something where you can get away with violence and cursing...

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HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 8:12 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!

Also fuckmerunnin needs to be added to the dictionary as FMR... that sounds like something you would hear a sweet little old southern lady say in the most saccharine tone.

On a side note, I love hearing southerners saying bless your heart in such a dripping sweet tone of voice with a smile plastered on their face, and you know it really means "fuck you, you idiot"

BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction

Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.

Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.

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HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 8:13 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

And what's the deal with the "forget" button?

I can't find it - on the 'regular' site or "Simplicity".

Anyone else find/use this?

gmc go to Simplicity, then search for the user. Click on their name, and you'll see buttons/links for either "follow this user" or "forget this user"

BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction

Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.

Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 8:26 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Dictionary to date

BASGU - Bad ass sparkly goddess unicorn - A BW - gorgeous, warrior, goddess, survivor

CSAH - captain save a hoe - A man that feels like he has to "rescue" a homewrecking AP

D2DW - dollars to donut whores - Bet you anything you like

DA - douchebags anonymous - Betrayed Womenz Thread (side note, we need 12 steps for this one)

ESAD - eat shit and die - Nuff said

FMR - Fuckmerunnin - Sarcastic disbelief

FOAD - fuck off and die - also needs no definition, but can be used creatively ie "Hey you! Take a walk on the FOAD road!"

GFD - great fucking day - depending on context, can be sarcastic or enthusiastic commentary on a given day

KITD - kick in the dick - Can mean physical kick, but also striking at the spiritual or metaphorical dick

RA+ - Rashawnda approved - Badass

S+BB - sparkles & bitch boots - Super spiffy bitch boots

SSCS - Stupid shit cheaters say - cheater's 'script' as it were

WTFF - what-the-fuck face - The face you make when something so stupid is said your brain actually short circuits

WWRD - What would Rashawnda do - She would wave her finger at it and say that it's "not our fault the mens are too dumb to see it"

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"Being weird is just a side effect of being awesome."– Unknown

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HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 8:45 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

DA - douchebags anonymous - Betrayed Womenz Thread (side note, we need 12 steps for this one)

Oh I'm workin' on it

BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction

Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.

Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.

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cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 8:48 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Bless his heart.

*snicker*

20years, I have the same question. Is there no way you can leave? You should be able to keep the medical insurance plus get alimony(?). Have you spoken to a lawyer about your options?

Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life

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Lostheart8 ( member #71607) posted at 9:08 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Ladies...you have no idea...just when I think all I can do is cry...I come here and laugh.

I think HBO would take our show in a heartbeat.

I bet some of betrayed men would join us. Let’s spread the love to both sexes.

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gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 10:12 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Random question - do some of the WW here get you ticked off?

Sometimes I read that stuff and, much as I try my damndest to be open and non judgmental, recognizing SI is a place for all to heal, I still end up ticked off. Like now.

Sometimes these women say shit that reminds me they can knowingly sleep with a married man, completely betray "the sisterhood" by fucking over the OBW and then call themselves fucking feminists.

Sorry sister, you gave up that title forever the minute you thought it was ok to mess with some married penis.

[This message edited by gmc94 at 4:34 PM, October 17th, 2019 (Thursday)]

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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heartbroken83 ( member #71395) posted at 10:30 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

I think it makes me sad to hear the BM's stories because it reminds me that there are good men out there. Like Why did all of us BW get stuck with KITD type men and all the good men got stuck with D2DW's. Why couldn't we get the good one's and vice versa???

I think most of what Waywards say pisses me off. Except the more mature ones that have finally got it. I was reading something a wayward wrote yesterday and was telling myself WTF are you kidding me right now!!! I kept reading and the more aged waywards ripped that dude a new one! It made me feel better

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ThisIsSoLonely ( member #64418) posted at 10:37 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

I think it makes me sad to hear the BM's stories because it reminds me that there are good men out there. Like Why did all of us BW get stuck with KITD type men and all the good men got stuck with D2DW's. Why couldn't we get the good one's and vice versa???

Me too. I feel like if you want to cheat, there should be some cheating/swingers website, where all parties actually enjoy the whole thing. It's like an open marriage with all the "adventure" of the A. But of course that would never work as if both partners in the marriage were into that it would just endless wife/husband swap. Granted that could work too.

“Sometimes you're going to have to let one person go a thousand different times, a thousand different ways, and there’s nothing pathetic or abnormal about that. You are human.” - Heidi Priebe

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DaisyAnne ( member #71434) posted at 11:14 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Random question - do some of the WW here get you ticked off?

Absolutely! In fact, right now I am mostly just staying in the Reconciliation forum and of course here, the best thread ever.

So tomorrow morning one of my best friends is coming over for coffee before I head into work. I am finally working up the nerve to come clean and tell her all about the affair and dealing with the psycho. This friend is one of the few people who knew about the problems we were having 4 years ago but she thinks we have been good since December 2015 (as did I until this Spring). She was actually the first one I confided in back then. She was a great friend during that time and helped me get through those few hard months. I haven’t confided in her yet mostly because she’s been going though her own hell with her father suddenly passing away in March. I haven’t even hung out with her since then just because our lives have gotten so busy.

Anyway, I’m a bit nervous about talking about everything and actually saying the words aloud: “he had an affair”. The only other person who knows about it is WH’s brother. But i know it is healthy and will help me to have her support.

I also have to go to work right after our talk so I am hoping I don’t cry too much. Wish me luck!!

[This message edited by DaisyAnne at 8:26 PM, October 17th (Thursday)]

Me: BW - early 40's
Him: WH - late 40's
Married: 18 years, together 24
2 teenage children
Dday: 5/23/19
Reconciling

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 11:22 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

I get pissed at the WWs in the "OMG you had such a gift at home!" way. I appreciate the BHs because they help me still believe in the decency of men and I hope when I date again, their kind is the kind I wind up meeting.

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 11:25 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Daisy, if she's a friend you can trust, it will be good for you.

Yes, I get annoyed at some of the shit the CWs post. There was a kind of big blow up about that a few weeks ago. I got admonished by SI Staff for calling one of them out in this thread. Recently, I've gotten into some pretty good exchanges with her.

Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 11:53 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Daisy womenz is great, but a friend IRL is greater. I have two IRL that I don't think I'dve survived this last year without.

Yeah some of the waywards really tick me off. But I do appreciate the insight and wisdom from the ones that have done the work. I have to woosah my face quite a bit in wayward section usually.

Ugh. So shitbag xh came to get the rest of his shit today. Good news is I can actually park in my garage again. But irritates the shit outta me that he didn't let me know he'd be doing that today. Just fuckin rude. But then shame on me for expecting any sort of consideration from him

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"Being weird is just a side effect of being awesome."– Unknown

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Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 11:56 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2019

Ladies please send your love to Scooby. Boxer did get out. They think he tried to hit her with the car. She is in the hospital but is ok. Currently under police protection.

Legally separated, one more step.

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20yrsagoBS ( member #55272) posted at 12:02 AM on Friday, October 18th, 2019

I have been to lawyers. I was married about 10 months shy of lifetime insurance coverage.

BW, 54 WH 53
When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas

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HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 12:37 AM on Friday, October 18th, 2019

Thanks for the update TG!

Goddammit, I knew my spidey senses were up for a reason.

How in the hell was he not only able to get out, but still able to drive a car?? I mean I get it, he has to go to trial and be proven guilty and all that, but shit, what in the fuck is she supposed to do in the meantime? Just wait around for him to try to kill her again?

I'm sure the SI mods already did this for her, but I have PDFs of all the crazy shit he was saying in his original thread that first day. I didn't see his second post before he deleted everything, but I at least got the first. TG, let Scooby know if she needs it I'm happy to email them to her.

BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction

Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.

Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.

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