Dee, I hear you. I agree, I could never be with someone who was with a sex worker - or so I say now. I bet if you had asked me if I would stay with someone who mutilated my underwear I would have scoffed in your face, yet here I am after spending 7 years with him 🤷🏽♀️(Side note on emojis, why are there no redheads??)
Scooby, yes, I think if you’re dating someone that close to your own daughters age you’ve got some serious issues.
But Dee is right, sad thing is when we ask this stuff, even if they have they will just lie.
My X always made a huge deal talking about how if you have to pay for it then there’s something wrong with you. He works in a company that does a lot of work in Indonesia where sex work is very prevalent, and even common among the business men who travel there, and he always made such a stink about how he was disgusted by people who do that, he would NEVER.
Then after DDay I found at least 6 calls to various escorts that I could verify online, and others to Google Voice numbers. And that was just in the last 6 months, I didn’t bother going back further as I had seen enough. Soooo, I guess never say never.
I also found out in my research that XH has a tell - pretty much any time he is vehemently opposed to something, you can almost guarantee that means he has done it. Soooo in all likelihood he was partaking in the sex workers when he was on all of those business trips
That is how he earned his nickname in my phone: Lying Liar Who Fucking Lies.
Until I had to send an email to our daughters’ dentist to cancel my name as the one on their account and switch him over. I cc’d him, and didn’t remember that the way you’ve saved the contact name is how it shows up to anyone who has never received an email from that person before. 🤦🏽♀️
The receptionist who checks the emails is luckily really chill, she and I were very friendly, and she knew the situation because I had called her to ask what to do before memorializing everything in emails. Also she had already made comments about what a good step mom I was, as XH had literally never taken the girls to the dentist, I always did it, so she didn’t like my ex either.
So she called me to let me know that I should probably change his contact haha. Lucky for me, it doesn’t show up to him like that because when he reads his own email it just shows up as To: me.
But now he’s just his initials.
Funny note about having these convos if/when we date.
One of my best friends from college dated total douchebag who would hand out his business cards to everyone. They literally just had his name, his phone number, and the title “party aficionado” under it. He was so obnoxious with these things, would hand them out to people at parties, at bars, he would even leave some on our fridge when he would come over.
What if we get newly single cards - almost like players’ cards with our stats, but just lists off all of this bullshit.
“If you have done any of the following, don’t bother”
Or maybe just a simple, “Triflers Need Not Apply”
[This message edited by HeHadADoubleLife at 6:22 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)]