JanetS ( Member #2766) posted at 2:07 AM on Monday, August 1st, 2016
Thinking of you.
I've heard of people who, after losing their hair from treatments, get a whole different head of hair, so maybe you'll get a bunch of really thick hair and eyelashes that rub on your sunglasses :)
You are strong, even when you feel weak.
sheila0304 ( Member #25041) posted at 2:11 AM on Monday, August 1st, 2016
Thanks for sharing your journey with us. You're an amazing couple and make this world a better place.
Sending you love and support.
JM72 ( Member #50760) posted at 2:20 AM on Monday, August 1st, 2016
Well, I'm gonna continue to keep you in my prayers. It's personally touched me (just like everyone else), with my father, son, grandmom, and MIL.
You WILL AK47 the shit out of this!
Me - BS (43)
Her - the Princess (AKA "the victim") (44)
Married 25 years, together 27
Dday - January 2016
DS - 25, DS - 18, DD - 16, DD - 13
Divorcing - To thy own self be true
sad12008 ( Member #18179) posted at 2:27 AM on Monday, August 1st, 2016
Big hug, DS!
until you're faced with changing physically, you just don't realize how much stock you put into who you are on a physical level.
Just want you to know that I hear what you're saying. Remember this is a temporary detour from "normal"; this too shall pass. You & MH are in my thoughts and I look forward to your next update. In the words of Eddie Kendricks, "Keep On Truckin'".
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
yewtree ( Member #16671) posted at 4:36 AM on Monday, August 1st, 2016
DS, you are n my thoughts and prayers. I don't know what you are going through, but I DO know you have so many people praying for you and MH to come out on the other side. Feel better soon.
Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)
Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.
ZenMumWalking ( Member #25341) posted at 1:51 PM on Monday, August 1st, 2016
In my house, every time someone loses an eyelash they get to make a wish. So you've got some wishes coming!!!
I hope the sickness will disappear soon. You are in my thoughts every single day.
FUCK CANCER and AK47 THAT SHIT!!!!
[This message edited by DeadMumWalking at 7:51 AM, August 1st (Monday)]
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 4:21 PM on Monday, August 1st, 2016
Physical changes are definitely daunting ... just wait until you get to my age....
Still sending positive thoughts your way.
(((DS & MH)))
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Lucky2HaveMe ( Member #13333) posted at 1:34 AM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2016
I started to lose my eyelashes today which was a grim reality of it all. I know I've based a lot of my posts about how I'll look...but until you're faced with changing physically, you just don't realize how much stock you put into who you are on a physical level.
We all do! Look how much time & money we spend at the salon!!
Remember your beauty shines from the inside out.
Love isn't what you say, it's what you do.
zebra25 ( Member #29431) posted at 2:19 AM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2016
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
yearsofpain25 ( Member #42012) posted at 4:24 AM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
Been thinking about you and wanted to stop by for another round of #AK47THISSHIT.
Hope you are doing as well as can be.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
WhatsRight ( Member #35417) posted at 5:06 AM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
I don't believe that being concerned about your change in appearance is vanity at all. We are just so used to how we look, that a big change like that can be disheartening.
I was thinking about you the other day, and I was so glad that you have such an amazing support group here on this site. Then it occurred to me……
You and MH created this site to help others. You have worked so very hard to create and maintain it – and most importantly, manage it in a way that makes it so safe and positive for the people who come to this site.
But now, the table has turned, and we are all able to provide some support for you! It is truly awesome that in creating a safe place to be of help for those of us suffering from the effects of infidelity, you have inadvertently created a base of support for yourself in a time of such need. And you deserve it!
It is the very least we can do to be here for you – when the two of you have done so very much for us!
Continued prayers. 🙏
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Abby ( Member #5526) posted at 6:29 AM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
Sending love, hugs and prayers your way.
Ascendant ( Member #38303) posted at 8:32 AM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
atalosss ( Member #47882) posted at 2:44 PM on Saturday, August 6th, 2016
WhatsRight, is of course right! Support goes both ways.
On the hard days, think of how great it will feel when you are all better. It sounds like you have the best medical help there is out there and you sound so strong and positive!
Forget the battle scars for now and just win the war.
"You can't ride two horses with one ass" Channel66
StillStanding1 ( Member #40144) posted at 3:18 PM on Sunday, August 7th, 2016
Continued prayers going out to you. 🙏
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
plainsong ( Member #37826) posted at 12:59 AM on Monday, August 8th, 2016
I know how you feel about how you look. When my hair does what I want, I feel attractive, capable and vibrant and loving. When it doesn't, I feel useless.
You might want to try the exercise of looking at yourself in the mirror and smiling for one minute. It's amazing what love and caring can shine back at you from your eyes (the window to the soul, remember) and your smile.
Sending continued love and support.
Him, fBH (sisoon)
I use capital letters for emphasis, not yelling.
Reconciled and healing.
UR_AN_IDIOT ( Member #18764) posted at 6:43 AM on Monday, August 8th, 2016
I'm logging in after a year and just seeing this. Hell no!! Sending love, prayers and mojo. Whatever it takes you will AK47 that shit!
Sending love and support ((((DS &MH))))
Me: BW 51
Married 28 years
DD 26 DS 24
Deeply Scared (original poster Administrator #2) posted at 11:39 AM on Monday, August 8th, 2016
Holy shit...you came by!! I hope you're doing well
With love and appreciation!
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
1brokengirl ( Member #53324) posted at 11:43 AM on Monday, August 8th, 2016
(((Ds))) im behind the 8 ball on this, ive just been reading all of this.
I just thought id pass on my well wishes to u & hope u ak47 the shit out of cancer!
Good luck hun
Let there be light at the end of the tunnel. I think i can see it
woundedby2 ( Member #18522) posted at 8:53 PM on Tuesday, August 9th, 2016
Just dropping by with some mojo for you, DS. Thanks for keeping us all updated. You are a strong woman and formidable opponent. That cancer is doomed!
Keeping you and MH in my prayers.
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson