PlanC ( member #47500) posted at 3:46 AM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017
MH, if your car is in Texas, I can tow it back for you.
BS 50; xWW. 4 children.
DD 1: April 2013, confessed ONS June 2012
DD 2: March 2014, confessed affair August 2012 through March 2013
DD 3: October 2015, involuntarily confessed 5 additional ONS starting August 2014 through November 2014 (manic)
poopylala ( member #30119) posted at 8:07 AM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017
MH, I'm so heartbroken. I'm so incredibly touched to have shared memories and fun times with DS. I will always remember seeing her laugh at something funny you said, her saying I was like the daughter y'all never had, and toasting with shots while everyone wore more glitter than is probably healthy.
I love you both so incredibly much.
"To err is human;
<3 DS always
punky ( member #12233) posted at 1:13 PM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017
MH--so glad to hear the update but am sorry yet again for your continuing losses. But as you said, you WILL get through this. That's the beauty of this place--it gives you the tools to overcome anything.
13 years later...finally healed. Definitely survived and thrived and you can, too.
sudra ( member #30143) posted at 1:00 AM on Monday, January 9th, 2017
Finally posted. I've not beens sure what to say, but I guess it's more important to say something than the perfect thing.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a loss for us all. Thanks for an update and sorry about the car.
Me (BW) (58), Him(SAWH) (61)
Married 24 years, 1 son (22), 1 stepdaughter (30)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R
chopper ( member #5772) posted at 2:15 AM on Monday, January 9th, 2017
I'm so sorry for your losses! I've been absent and didn't know about DS's cancer. But I will be praying for her eternal rest and strength for yourself. Since I'm a widow I recommend you Widda.org, if you need support. (It's not half as good as here, but you get support)
[This message edited by chopper at 8:18 PM, January 8th (Sunday)]
Me BS(52) (39 at DD)
WH passed away on 3/21/2013(52) (44 at DD)
2 Kids S(27) D(24) (14 and 11 at DD)
"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved."–George MacDonald
"Not being able to govern events, I govern myself." –
amitheow ( member #4691) posted at 3:01 AM on Monday, January 9th, 2017
I'm a widow now too ... 6 months.
We are here to support you in the NEW club you've joined. It's a sucky, sucky club.
So sorry MH and Chopper.
Old Timer, Just here to help
My screen name is: Am I The Ow? - Not Ami the OW.
Because in my situation I didn't know if I was the OW at first or if I was being cheated on. Found I was being cheated on.
kwash ( member #13957) posted at 6:57 PM on Monday, January 9th, 2017
Add me to the list of people who don't post much anymore, but visit every so often to see how people are doing. I was saddened to hear of dear DS's diagnosis and followed her journey with treatment thinking she had much more time. I am truly sorry that time was cut short, but take solace in the end of her suffering.
MH, you and DS saved me. I can't ever repay you for the support you offered in creating the SI community. I consider myself very lucky to have met both of you during a VA get together in 2008. DS was a special woman and I trust her ever after will be good to her.
Please take care of yourself MH and try to enjoy where the road takes you next.
Skye ( member #325) posted at 2:51 PM on Tuesday, January 10th, 2017
So sorry to learn about DS today. Have survived infidelity and only come by once in a while and today was checking to see how DS was doing. Please know that you and DS did so much for so many. It is now time to let so many do for you. Take care.
okaynow ( member #13813) posted at 7:39 PM on Tuesday, January 10th, 2017
I am so sorry for your loss, MH. I just saw the post and am heartbroken. May DS rest in peace and may you and your loved ones feel comfort and love during this difficult time.
My gratitude, my love, my heart, and my prayers are with you.
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
MangledHeart ( Webmaster) posted at 5:35 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017
The memorial service was last night. It rocked. She is happy with it. I am happy with it. Best party I ever attended. Rock on baby. *mike drop*
Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:56 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 6:21 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017
Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
Together 29 years; 2 kids 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) R'd.
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 6:57 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017
((MH)) Last night was a wonderful tribute to DS.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:59 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017
I can imagine DS leading the laughter and making people feel comfortable.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 8:02 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Kodi ( member #16237) posted at 8:08 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017
lieshurt ( Moderator #14003) posted at 10:44 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017
MH, the service and the video was beautiful. (((hugs)))
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
SerJR ( member #14993) posted at 1:07 AM on Sunday, January 22nd, 2017
Cheers to her, brother... she is definitely a woman worth celebrating
Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 1:17 AM on Sunday, January 22nd, 2017
What Ser said. I heard they sang "Amazing Grace" to the tune of Gilligan's Island. (try it )
Married: 24 years (14 @JFO)
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 2:18 AM on Sunday, January 22nd, 2017
Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.