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SI Prayers/Mojo Request...Cancer


PlanC ( member #47500) posted at 3:46 AM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017

MH, if your car is in Texas, I can tow it back for you.

BS 50; xWW. 4 children.
DD 1: April 2013, confessed ONS June 2012
DD 2: March 2014, confessed affair August 2012 through March 2013
DD 3: October 2015, involuntarily confessed 5 additional ONS starting August 2014 through November 2014 (manic)

posts: 2202   ·   registered: Apr. 10th, 2015
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poopylala ( member #30119) posted at 8:07 AM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017

MH, I'm so heartbroken. I'm so incredibly touched to have shared memories and fun times with DS. I will always remember seeing her laugh at something funny you said, her saying I was like the daughter y'all never had, and toasting with shots while everyone wore more glitter than is probably healthy.

I love you both so incredibly much.

"To err is human;To forgive,divine"

<3 DS always

posts: 1031   ·   registered: Nov. 15th, 2010   ·   location: Houston, TX
id 7750815

punky ( member #12233) posted at 1:13 PM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017

MH--so glad to hear the update but am sorry yet again for your continuing losses. But as you said, you WILL get through this. That's the beauty of this place--it gives you the tools to overcome anything.

Take care.

13 years later...finally healed. Definitely survived and thrived and you can, too.

posts: 11326   ·   registered: Oct. 4th, 2006   ·   location: A whole 'nother country
id 7750889

sudra ( member #30143) posted at 1:00 AM on Monday, January 9th, 2017

Finally posted. I've not beens sure what to say, but I guess it's more important to say something than the perfect thing.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a loss for us all. Thanks for an update and sorry about the car.

Take care.

Me (BW) (58), Him(SAWH) (61)
Married 24 years, 1 son (22), 1 stepdaughter (30)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R

posts: 1875   ·   registered: Nov. 17th, 2010
id 7751346

chopper ( member #5772) posted at 2:15 AM on Monday, January 9th, 2017


I'm so sorry for your losses! I've been absent and didn't know about DS's cancer. But I will be praying for her eternal rest and strength for yourself. Since I'm a widow I recommend you, if you need support. (It's not half as good as here, but you get support)

[This message edited by chopper at 8:18 PM, January 8th (Sunday)]

Me BS(52) (39 at DD)
WH passed away on 3/21/2013(52) (44 at DD)
2 Kids S(27) D(24) (14 and 11 at DD)
"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved."–George MacDonald
"Not being able to govern events, I govern myself." –

posts: 17829   ·   registered: Nov. 8th, 2004   ·   location: Guatemala
id 7751413

amitheow ( member #4691) posted at 3:01 AM on Monday, January 9th, 2017

I'm a widow now too ... 6 months.

We are here to support you in the NEW club you've joined. It's a sucky, sucky club.

So sorry MH and Chopper.

Old Timer, Just here to help
My screen name is: Am I The Ow? - Not Ami the OW.

Because in my situation I didn't know if I was the OW at first or if I was being cheated on. Found I was being cheated on.

posts: 5194   ·   registered: Jun. 18th, 2004   ·   location:
id 7751461

kwash ( member #13957) posted at 6:57 PM on Monday, January 9th, 2017

Add me to the list of people who don't post much anymore, but visit every so often to see how people are doing. I was saddened to hear of dear DS's diagnosis and followed her journey with treatment thinking she had much more time. I am truly sorry that time was cut short, but take solace in the end of her suffering.

MH, you and DS saved me. I can't ever repay you for the support you offered in creating the SI community. I consider myself very lucky to have met both of you during a VA get together in 2008. DS was a special woman and I trust her ever after will be good to her.

Please take care of yourself MH and try to enjoy where the road takes you next.

K xox

posts: 2195   ·   registered: Mar. 15th, 2007
id 7752000

Skye ( member #325) posted at 2:51 PM on Tuesday, January 10th, 2017

So sorry to learn about DS today. Have survived infidelity and only come by once in a while and today was checking to see how DS was doing. Please know that you and DS did so much for so many. It is now time to let so many do for you. Take care.

posts: 5662   ·   registered: Jul. 21st, 2002
id 7752749

okaynow ( member #13813) posted at 7:39 PM on Tuesday, January 10th, 2017

I am so sorry for your loss, MH. I just saw the post and am heartbroken. May DS rest in peace and may you and your loved ones feel comfort and love during this difficult time.

My gratitude, my love, my heart, and my prayers are with you.

Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

posts: 2460   ·   registered: Mar. 1st, 2007
id 7753077

MangledHeart ( Webmaster) posted at 5:35 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017

The memorial service was last night. It rocked. She is happy with it. I am happy with it. Best party I ever attended. Rock on baby. *mike drop*

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

posts: 10000   ·   registered: May. 31st, 2002   ·   location: The beach
id 7763622

ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:56 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017


Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

posts: 8443   ·   registered: Aug. 28th, 2009   ·   location: EU
id 7763634

Edie ( member #26133) posted at 6:21 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017

Fabulous MH.

Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 kids 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) R'd.

posts: 6398   ·   registered: Nov. 9th, 2009   ·   location: Europe
id 7763649

inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 6:57 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017

((MH)) Last night was a wonderful tribute to DS.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

posts: 13293   ·   registered: Jun. 21st, 2009   ·   location: DeepInTheHeartof, Texas
id 7763672

sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:59 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017

I can imagine DS leading the laughter and making people feel comfortable.


fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 27296   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 7763675

minusone ( member #50175) posted at 8:02 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017


"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8363   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 7763704

Kodi ( member #16237) posted at 8:08 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017


posts: 1418   ·   registered: Sep. 18th, 2007
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lieshurt ( Moderator #14003) posted at 10:44 PM on Saturday, January 21st, 2017

MH, the service and the video was beautiful. (((hugs)))

No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.

posts: 22550   ·   registered: Mar. 20th, 2007   ·   location: Houston
id 7763768

SerJR ( member #14993) posted at 1:07 AM on Sunday, January 22nd, 2017

Cheers to her, brother... she is definitely a woman worth celebrating

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

posts: 18506   ·   registered: Jun. 15th, 2007   ·   location: Further North than South
id 7763821

Tred ( member #34086) posted at 1:17 AM on Sunday, January 22nd, 2017

What Ser said. I heard they sang "Amazing Grace" to the tune of Gilligan's Island. (try it )

Married: 24 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

posts: 5817   ·   registered: Dec. 2nd, 2011
id 7763825

DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 2:18 AM on Sunday, January 22nd, 2017


Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

posts: 24276   ·   registered: May. 10th, 2011   ·   location: Canada
id 7763863
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